How to recover the other party's unwillingness to reply to the message after breaking up?

How to recover the message that the other party doesn't want to reply after breaking up?

You are wrong: the normal state after a breakup is that the other party doesn't want to know the information. If you break up clearly, the other party keeps replying to your message, which means it's not normal. And by the way, I will tell you a cold knowledge of popular science: what information to send to each other or how to interact with each other is actually not as important as you think!

Many people have misunderstandings about redemption. It seems that redemption means that the other party will rely on their indestructible tongue and a set of earth-shattering output to change their minds: either they feel that if they continue to communicate with each other and punch in as much every day, the other party will get used to it and the relationship between the two people will thaw a little.

No, no, no! At the beginning of the breakup, the more anxious you are to save your ex, the more you will push your relationship to the freezing point-because you are no longer related, and the other party has no obligation to reply to your message. At this time, some people will use the so-called "emotional basis" to talk about things. Every time I see this idea, I frown: Why do you think you have an emotional foundation with your ex?

Yes, you did have a relationship. Yes, you really got together, but it didn't turn out well at all. Your failed relationship has proved that you are not a reliable object. What is the emotional basis between you? So, let's be clear about one thing first: if the other party doesn't reply to your message, it will save the common situation in the middle and will not affect your recovery.

First of all, analyze why the other party is unwilling to reply to your message. There are two reasons for the high probability: 1. Your information creates too many negative emotions for the other party. 2. Your information is of no value to the other party.

Let's talk about the reason of 1, which is also a common reason: many people bombard each other with news after breaking up, which will cause a strong sense of oppression to their predecessors at this time.

My ex just ended a relationship, and I don't want to feel the emotion at that time again at this time, but your news is like a hook, constantly dragging the other side into the past memories. At this time, the other party can only feel negative emotions, so often at this time, the predecessor will directly choose to escape and turn a blind eye to the news you sent. Secondly, this kind of news is worthless.

Again: don't feel that you and your ex have any emotional foundation, so those words that try to pull into the relationship are of no value to each other. The only information that the other person may pay attention to is: Have you really changed? Have you solved the problem that caused us to break up?

Therefore, when you haven't really changed your behavior and your determination to save each other is only verbal, don't go to your ex, because it is of no value to your feelings.

So what is the correct way to find your predecessor? In fact, it is very simple: first, make clear the specific reason for your breakup, and pay attention to this specific reason is not the fuse for your breakup. Just solving/determining the fuse won't help save it.

For example: suppose you blame her for playing games, but you think she plays games, you have a big fight and then break up. Then, in this case, "playing games" is only the fuse of breaking up, and "being too self-centered in feelings and not considering each other's feelings" is the specific reason for breaking up.

Many people just understand/decide the fuse of breaking up, but don't understand/decide the specific reason at all, so when they contact their predecessors in a hurry, they will feel very disappointed-you haven't realized why I want to separate from you.

After clarifying the specific reasons for breaking up and making substantive changes, we should try to convey such a message. You can contact each other through your mutual friends, or you can contact each other. But be careful: at this time, we only send information, and we don't want to tell each other immediately that we want to save it.

After that, when the other party knows our changes and the other party is really willing to meet us through contact, only after getting along with each other can we get together again.

Did you find out? In the process of redemption, in fact, sending messages is really not as important as we think, or it is not as magical as everyone thinks. It is normal that the other party is unwilling to reply to the message. We just need to find the reason for breaking up with each other, solve the problem under the right conditions, and send an effective message, and the other party still has a great chance to come back to us.