Does it make sense for the husband to cheat and the wife to cheat and retaliate?

it's meaningless. People have cheated, and you don't want to maximize the interests of yourself and your children. What's the use of an eye for an eye in your mind?

if I were my wife, I wouldn't spend this leisure time playing the game of cheating with him. Since the man cheated and was found out, there is no point in continuing this marriage. He didn't have a good time, and neither did the woman. It's even worse to have children, and the marital status of being apart from each other is extremely unfavorable to the growth of children. Because I grew up in a broken family environment, I can personally understand how much harm the emotional discord between parents can do to children.

Therefore, in the case of the man's infidelity, instead of feeling sorry for himself and retaliating against the man, the woman should seize the time to collect the evidence of the man's infidelity to the family. It is better to try to find some other documents that are legally beneficial to you. If not, create opportunities according to how much damage the other party has caused you.

at this time, it is the most foolish for a woman to satisfy her momentary desire for revenge if she also looks for a man and a mistress. It is not good for the future struggle for child custody and marital property.

furthermore, it is disgusting to cheat in marriage. The other person is sick of you. You can't turn yourself into the same person as him and go back sick. You may feel happy in a short time, but after a long time, you will regret it. Because people who hate it from the bottom of their hearts are unwilling to go along with it. And this, regardless of whether the cheating is male or female, is applicable to the one left behind.

What's more, you should consider your own personal safety anyway. A man who cheated on him, he didn't love his wife, and at this time she gave him a green hat. People are double targets, and it is difficult to guarantee that they will not become angry from embarrassment. A man who loses his mind can do anything. Life is too short to risk your life for one or two scum. It is better to hire a good lawyer, divide more property, and take care of the children or live by yourself in the future.