What should my boyfriend do if he sends a message saying that he broke up?

In the face of emotional changes, few people can stay awake and rational? When the other party proposed to break up, we immediately thought of separation. This man will leave me. This man doesn't want me or love me. This deep fear made us immediately think of "I can't lose it", "Losing it will be very painful" and "I can't live without him (his love)".

The following feelings of incomprehension, anger, grievance, disappointment, being cheated, being denied, and lack of energy and mood to care about reason are all used by our hearts to deal with these situations.

These negative emotions make us miserable. We feel that if it weren't for this person, we wouldn't be so miserable in this incident. So some people think that as long as this person changes, this event does not exist and the pain does not exist. This is why many people break up in pain, beg for help, and then "heal the scar and forget the pain" after reconciliation. The old habits were unbearable, and they demanded to break up again.

In the face of emotional crisis, you might as well give yourself more time and space to sort out the occurrence and development of things; Calm down your emotions, see clearly the quality of your emotions, and see the root of the current problem. Many people will find that it is inevitable for two people to break up after combing and calming down. In fact, there are many contradictions and conflicts in their relationship, and neither of them is the most suitable object for them. In fact, they know in their hearts that it is only a matter of time before they break up, and even some people will finally thank each other for letting go of themselves.

Of course, some people pay more attention to their own feelings and emotions than the real feelings of the other party because of their personality problems. When they are happy, they think each other is happy. When they are in pain, the other party must be responsible for themselves, and it is difficult to feel the real emotions and inner thoughts of the other party. If this emotional crisis can make you realize your own shortcomings, see the real cause of the problem, strive to improve yourself, and repair the relationship with pertinence and wisdom, you can improve the possibility of recovery and avoid disappointing the other party again.

How many disappointments and dissatisfaction were stopped by words before breaking up, how many contradictions were brought about by quarrels and noises, how many estrangements and incomprehensions were brought about by anger and the cold war. When the potential contradictions are not detected, a little accumulation and intensification will one day break out because of something.

Looking back carefully, the result of breaking up is actually not sudden. No matter how deep the feelings are, they can't offset the damage caused by disappointment again and again. You didn't pay attention to so many warning signs, and you didn't pay attention to so many opportunities to repair your feelings.

Love is beautiful, especially for some girls, who will regard love as a free drifting sea. They will be proud, proud and blooming because of love, so they will get carried away. They will smile and be lovely like angels, be willful and irritable like demons, be spoiled and dependent like children, and be controlled like mothers ... but whatever you do, please remember the scale, be willful, small-tempered and appropriate when you get along.