How to deal with the harassment of male boss skillfully

He is modest and helpful, and has given me a lot of help and support in my work in the past few years. It feels a little strange this year. He often sends some ambiguous messages to my mobile phone, hoping to have further understanding and communication and bring some excitement to the plain life. Recently, at his repeated request, we had a cup of coffee alone. He talked about the dullness of work and family life, and also expressed his affection for me, hoping to find a spiritual comfort after busy work. I expressed my family's happiness and stability to him, hoping that he could become a friend like my brother. He is many years older than me. Teacher Lan, I want you to help me analyze what his real intentions are. And how should I get along with him in the future? If I can get some help and guidance from Teacher Lan, I will feel very gratified and grateful! thank you

First, stick to your bottom line. Usually together, what to do and what not to do, we should keep a clear head and have our own bottom line and principles. In particular, learn to refuse, refuse to be decisive and unambiguous, don't drag your feet, and don't leave hope for each other. Second, distinguish between public and private. Try not to be influenced by this emotion at work. Out of trust in him and duty to work, you should do better for him as always, and try to share the psychological imbalance caused by his emotional separation and rejection when he meets you, which is good for you and him. However, for things outside of work, or things outside of work relationship, try to draw a clear line.

Third, let him know from your actions and attitude that you are not a casual woman, but a woman who loves her family and husband very much. When necessary, you can often reveal some details and things about your marriage happiness in front of him, and even let him know that you often mention him in front of your husband, saying that your husband appreciates his care for you. At the same time, it is necessary for you to let your husband pick you up from work often, call you more, and even have the right opportunity to invite him to dinner. Don't express your love deliberately but seriously when eating.

Fourth, don't reveal or tell him anything unpleasant about your marriage in front of him, even a small quarrel, and don't give him any chance to approach you emotionally.

Fifth, you should let a female colleague who is your most trusted friend know about it (there are risks, of course, and you can decide for yourself whether to do so). The advantage of this is that you can ask her to come out to help you in time when you encounter "difficulties", or you can respond skillfully when you encounter some uninvited invitations and refuse to respond.

Of course, you must be an independent and intelligent woman. Only in this way can you calmly deal with many unpredictable and unpredictable harassment. I hope you can be happy!