After we broke up, my girlfriend’s mother persuaded us to get back together. My mother tried her best to get me back together with my ex-boyfriend.

Introduction:

Some people say: "Everything can be done, but marriage cannot." Marriage is about two parties falling in love and getting married, rather than finding someone to get married. How can such a marriage be happy? In the end, it is you who suffers.

Let’s hear today’s story

Narrator: Ms. Wang

I was born in a divorced family. When I was a child, my My parents got divorced. At that time, I often asked my mother. I'm here. Why doesn't my father live with us anymore? Does he want us? The mother cried and said: "You will be with your mother in the future.". I was still young at that time and didn't understand many things. As I grew up, I understood what my mother said.

When I was a child, I grew up with my grandma until I graduated from elementary school. Later, my mother remarried and gave birth to a younger brother, so she took me to live with her. Grandma said that your mother took you to live there, and your new father agreed to take you to take care of yourself, because your mother gave birth to a younger brother. I still remember this sentence in my heart, and I can’t get rid of it, and I am a marginalized person.

My new dad treats me very well. He often asked me what I wanted to eat and I just nodded silently and stayed quiet. I'm introverted, shy, and cry easily, so I rarely speak when they ask me. My mom talks about me a lot. If you ask me, you should answer. How do you know what you are thinking if you don't say anything? He often said that my eyes would turn red whenever I touched them because of trivial matters, so the new father was very disgusted with my tendency to cry. In this family, I have been stocking up since I was a kid. Basically, no one wanted to ask questions except eating and reading. As I grew up, I realized that I mostly relied on myself.

After graduation, I did not go home to live, so I found a job in a nearby factory. There was a dormitory in the factory, so I moved in. Every day after get off work, I go to the Internet cafe to surf the Internet. At that time, I met him (Xu Hanlin). He is a local, has no education, graduated from technical secondary school, and lives nearby. We met because of the competition. I have always felt that I was rejected by others since I was a child. Suddenly a man who was very kind to me appeared and I was filled with joy. Very good to me. When I was working the night shift, he often asked me if I had dinner. After get off work, I will definitely see him waiting for me at the door with dinner. No matter what I say, he will always rely on me. This man treats me very well and makes me experience happiness and care.

At that time, we often played games and went shopping together. As time passed, he no longer cared about me as he did before. We would quarrel over trivial matters, and we got used to it. Once, I found photos of other women on his phone and asked her who she was. He explained to me that a friend took the photo with his cell phone. After a while, I logged into his QQ and found that the content of his chat with a girl made me very angry. The chat content is about calling other people’s wives and husbands. I asked him angrily, how to explain this? He just sat there and said nothing, so we separated. At that time, I thought men were unreliable, and I ate from the bowl and looked at the pot.

During that time, I occasionally went home. My mother saw that I was in a bad mood and asked me if I had a fight with my boyfriend. My mother always wanted me to marry him. My mother didn't know where she got the news that this area was going to be demolished, so she tried her best to convince us. I said I broke up with him. There is another woman outside him. My mother said it was his fault, but I don't understand what my mother was thinking at the time. You have to give him a chance, man, as long as the novelty wears off. .There is a second woman outside my boyfriend. Although he will let me get back together with him without considering me in the future, I never thought that my mother would say such things. Is this my mother? I worked in a factory and rarely went back.

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During the period when I broke up, my mother often had contact with Xu Hanlin’s mother. The two of them were like good sisters who hadn’t seen each other for many years. I told my mother that my son had a very good girlfriend and they finally broke up with her. She said that she was virtuous and polite and wanted them to get married. I listened to this. Finally, I said, I have a boyfriend, why are you talking about this? It has been so long. Soon I broke up with my current boyfriend. When my mother found out, she tried her best to bring me and Xu Hanlin together. Under the indoctrination of the mother-in-law, I still got together.

After getting married, my mother often went out to play with her. I felt that they were not like in-laws, but like good sisters. After the child was born, I didn’t. I went to work and took care of the children at home. I didn’t go to work until the child was three years old. The area finally decided to be demolished, and we were divided into three houses. My husband’s family suddenly became rich, and he was very happy about his job. Late, I hang out with friends all day long, drink, and often stay up late at night. When a man has money, he starts to feel restless. At that time, I felt that my husband took his mobile phone with him wherever he went, which made me feel uneasy. There is a problem.

On May 20, our family finished dinner and my husband went out early. He left his cell phone at home and forgot to pick it up. When the text message came, I thought I would give it to him, but I accidentally saw the content. It said that I would come here early tonight. I am so lonely. My heart ached when I saw this. I thought that after we have gone through so much, he would. I changed for the sake of my family and children, but it turned out that I didn’t make a fuss after knowing this. I told my friend about it, and she said you’d better find someone to investigate him and collect evidence to see if it’s really about divorce. This step will be useful. Unexpectedly

I didn't tell him about this. I secretly asked someone to investigate my husband. I consulted a lawyer, and the lawyer suggested that I keep the evidence I collected for future use. I wanted to get divorced and didn't want to separate my property, so I used these evidences. But what happened was so unexpected. On the day of the Mid-Autumn Festival, we went to my mother-in-law's place for dinner. After the meal, my husband said that he had something to announce to me in front of the family. When we got divorced, I was calm and didn't say anything. My mother-in-law and others reacted very fiercely and asked me what was going on. Why should I get divorced? I held my mother-in-law's hand and asked, "Do you have a woman outside?" There are disagreements, marital disharmony, and all kinds of problems. It is not good for everyone to live like this. I smiled contemptuously, "You initiated the divorce, and I won't hold it back. The children must stay with me. How will the property be divided?"

The mother-in-law said anxiously, "No matter what kind of divorce, divorce is not allowed." I told my mother-in-law that it was difficult for him and I to live together anymore. He had done some things but would not admit it. When my husband heard what I said, he raised his hand and hit me, saying that he didn't admit that he had done something wrong. Don't even think about taking the child away. The property is our demolished house. Don't even think about it. I showed the evidence of my cell phone to my mother-in-law. After that, my mother-in-law went up and slapped my husband twice. I calmly said that I knew you were having an affair, but I never mentioned it. I wanted to get a peaceful divorce when the time was right, and I didn't want to make a big deal out of it. There is nothing we can do now. Then we'll see you in court.

In the end, he and I divorced, the children followed me, and I shared a house. After that, my mother-in-law would occasionally come over to visit the child and me. She felt very guilty and said to me that it was my son who was sorry for you. I told my mother-in-law to just go over there.

After listening to Ms. Wang’s story, I personally wonder how there could be such a mother in the world. Isn’t her daughter’s happiness important just because the man is a demolished household? Do men like to have extramarital affairs when they are rich? After Ms. Wang learned that her husband was having an affair, she handled the matter calmly. Women learn to use legal means to protect themselves when encountering problems. I hope Miss Wang will meet a man who treats him well in the rest of her life.

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Conclusion:

Marriage does not mean that you will be happy if you just make do with it. Marriage requires cooperation to maintain and support progress. If the mother started to stand on her daughter's side and support her daughter's actions, such a thing would not happen. However, the mother values ??material conditions and treats her daughter's marital happiness as child's play. Perhaps my mother experienced a failed marriage and took material things more seriously, resulting in this distorted concept. Only by not giving in to your marriage can you get the happiness you want.

Today’s topic

Will a makeshift marriage be happy?

Are there any people around you who are about to get married?

Do you have such a mother around you?