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0 1 Love in marriage, like medicinal materials soaked in wine, often disappears because of long-term immersion in the bitter water of life, and evolves into accompanying affection or entangled complaints.

Zhao Qing and her husband Zheng Zhi have been married for more than 20 years. When people reach middle age, her work has already passed the peak and become stable. The center of her life is her husband and children.

Although there are not many surprises and fun in this life, it is also a kind of happiness for a family of three to be plain.

Their marriage was calm on the surface, but it was already undercurrent, but Zhao Qing didn't notice all this until one day when she was cooking, she received a text message from her husband on her mobile phone.

The text message reads as follows: honey, don't worry, give me some more time, and I will definitely divorce that boring yellow-faced woman. I haven't had feelings for her for a long time. I'll go to see the house with you tomorrow and give you a home, ok?

After a man changes his mind, marriage just becomes a form, just like an empty shell, proving that he once loved.

Shelia was silent for a long time before she reacted. This is a message from her husband to another woman!

When did she become a boring woman and a yellow-faced woman in his eyes?

At the moment of seeing the text message, shelia was shocked. She tried to rule out the possibility of her husband betraying his marriage, but in the end she had only this answer.

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Looking back on the ups and downs they have experienced in the past 20 years, Zhao Qing burst into tears. She sat on the kitchen floor for a long time. The steamer immediately sounded, bringing shelia back to reality.

In any case, since it is a foregone conclusion, there is no escape. You must give yourself an explanation, whether it is life or marriage.

The husband sent the text message to Xiao San to Zhao Qing by mistake. After that, she did three things:

The first thing: try to control your emotions and find out the problems of marriage.

She recalled the marriage in recent years, and the two had indeed worn away their love, evolved into a family relationship of interdependence and mutual protection, and even became the most familiar strangers, relying on the past mutual affection to be unscrupulous in front of each other.

Endless complaints and quarrels, I don't know how long I haven't had heart-to-heart communication. Even the last time a family sat down to eat together, it seemed a long time ago.

Zheng Zhi often works overtime. She thought it was work pressure, but she didn't expect it to be a siren of marriage.

Marriage without love is illusory and a black hole. Shelia doesn't understand this truth.

However, when thinking about her son who just went to college, herself who is still in her forties and this warm and complete home, Zhao Qing is unwilling to give up the warmth and stability that is now at her fingertips.

In the face of such a huge marriage change, Zhao Qing had no one to talk to and called her son trembling.

Zhao Qing's son has just been admitted to the university. Zhao Qing told her son that mom and dad might get divorced. My son Zheng Yun was silent for a long time and said, "Mom, although I don't want you to get divorced, it's your business and I won't interfere."

The second thing: I asked my son for advice, and with his support, I chose to divorce.

Zhao Qing felt that his son's words gave him great courage. He is already middle-aged. Why did he compromise for a heartless man and ruin his happiness for the rest of his life?

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Sometimes, thinking too much will hinder your pace.

With this in mind, Zhao Qing decided to divorce her husband.

Sometimes, it is not the strong reality that hinders us, but the weak mind.

The decision to divorce for a period of time is necessary, but what is more important is the life after divorce. Zhao Qing decided to fight for some divorce property, because her son still needs to study and live with peace of mind.

The third thing: master the evidence of husband's infidelity and strive for the property of husband and wife.

According to this short message sent by her husband by mistake, Zhao Qing gradually determined that the woman was a female colleague of her husband's unit by chatting with her husband's colleagues.

Holding the evidence of his betrayal of marriage in his hand, shelia felt a little sad, and at the same time strengthened her decision to divorce.

One weekend, shelia left Zheng Zhi at home to have a showdown with him. After all, the couple had a quarrel and didn't want to make it too ugly. Looking at the evidence in his wife's hand and the tears in his eyes, Zheng Zhi was speechless.

He once loved, but marriage gradually became a shackle, and extramarital love made him helpless.

In the end, the two agreed to divorce, and Zheng Zhi gave half of the property to shelia. On the day when she came out from the Civil Affairs Bureau, Zhao Qing felt relaxed and free, and she smelled the breath of a new life.

Divorce is not hot-headed anger. Divorce is a struggle for one's rights and a just demand for the price of the other party's betrayal of marriage.

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After divorce, Zhao Qing regained her freedom. With this money, she started a new life.

Three years after the divorce, Zheng Zhi found shelia and wanted to remarry her. However, when he saw her change, he regretted it.

Zhao Qing has become braver, more confident and more free and easy than before. Once, in the marriage with Zheng Zhi, Zhao Qing always wanted to keep something for her family and husband, but at the same time, she gradually developed the habit of sacrificing herself and losing herself.

At that time, she didn't eat or wear, but she became a "yellow-faced woman" in his eyes. In marriage, women are reluctant to eat or wear, or they are not too distressed by men's money.

I lost myself and didn't have time to dress myself up, or it wasn't because I put all my energy into my children and husband.

After the divorce, it took Zheng Zhi three years to know how good his ex-wife was. However, it is too late. Because Zhao Qing doesn't agree to remarry.

Advise all men: when people reach middle age, don't be blinded by lard for a temporary "love". Cherish the woman who accompanied you to middle age, cherish the woman who talks to you every day and tries to please your stomach.

After the divorce, Zhao Qing can finally live for herself.

Women are lucky to have love in middle age, and happy to marry love, but when love disappears and her husband betrays, don't be blinded by temporary illusory love.

In marriage, women learn to love themselves, which is a way to manage love. When you don't love, it is also a living method to find yourself and live for yourself.

No matter when, don't make do with it. A woman who knows how to love herself is the happiest destination.

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Do you have the courage to divorce when you reach middle age?

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