What if my husband says he doesn't love me after being married for more than a year?

What if my husband says he doesn't love me after being married for more than a year?

Blog friend's self-report:

My husband and I have been married for more than a year and have a good relationship. When you are in love, because you have known each other for a long time, you will have some misunderstandings about each other because you don't know each other. I'm emotional, too. Most girls have it. Of course, this is not good, so I often get angry about trifles. Every time I feel that he doesn't understand me, I sulk myself. He thinks I'm abnormal, and he hates to see me pessimistic. But we got married before our love faded.

After marriage, after a period of running-in period, we get along happily and get along more and more harmoniously. We knew each other better before we met like this, and we both loved each other very much. I think I married a good husband, and he has a new understanding of me. He thinks I've become another lovely person. He loves me very much and loves me very much. I'm really happy.

In February of this year, my husband was transferred to work in other places because of aid construction, and he had to go for three years. Now I can only go home once a weekend. There are still many disadvantages for newly married people. For example, feelings are not as strong as those of couples for decades, and we have no children yet. But based on our current relationship, everything is not a problem, and I have never been worried.

Just this Monday, a nightmare happened. I called my husband at 7 o'clock in the evening, and his voice was obviously listless. I asked him what was wrong, and he said he was unhappy. I asked him why he was unhappy, and he said he couldn't tell me. Then he hung up on me. I'm surprised that he told me everything before.

Go swimming and get off the net around 10 in the evening. Suddenly, I saw his signature changed: "I really hope that time can go back, then I can seize the beauty that was once within my reach." I suddenly became sensitive, so I called him and asked him what his signature meant. Then he said something that made me fall from heaven to hell.

He said that before he married me, several girls were dating (that is, friends who might develop into lovers). At that time, he didn't love me very much, but his parents liked me, so he got married. At that time, he knew nothing. We often quarreled after marriage, and now he has no feelings for me. He just wants to find a girl. He loves her, and she loves him. I feel very sad to hear that. I interrupted him. I said, now that you are my husband, how cruel are you to say these words to me? Have you ever thought about how much this hurts me? He didn't speak, and I kept asking, really didn't feel anything? He kept silent all the time.

I said that if I really don't love you, I don't believe it at all. Why did I go early? It's been so long, married for so long, and everyone envies us when they see us. People around me always tell me that your husband is so kind to you and he loves you very much. I'm fine when I go home at the weekend. It's just the past day. I'm completely different from the same person. My intuition tells me that there must be a fuse when he suddenly said these words. And the motive behind this must be great. But I can't find out.

I couldn't sleep all night and couldn't figure it out. He is like a child. He is stupid. He likes to be cute in front of me. He is good at making his little monkey happy. He doesn't even want me to wash the dishes. He is very kind to me. I really can't accept why he suddenly said that. The feeling of heartache keeps me awake and my body is very cold. I really want to go to him by car all night and ask him clearly.

I turned on my computer in the morning and received a message from him.

"Go to bed early and don't think too much."

"Think of it as a seizure."

"free and easy"

"We all said that we can't afford to lose."

"Don't worry, the third party doesn't."

"Maybe I'll apologize to you later. Please forgive me. "

"I just want to be alone now."

"We've all done something wrong and made a big mistake" (he should mean not to marry me)

"And it's too early to worry about divorce, because we can't live without it now because of lack of motivation. Even if the two of us think about it, we will be rejected by our parents. The two of us are still supervised children. "

"Maybe I just like beautiful women, unknown and fresh. Maybe I am a person with the same wind. "

"You are very clever, but you are often mistaken by cleverness."

"If I were you, I would ignore that sentence when I saw it. When I get along with people, I often have to play dumb, but you just can't. "

"Let you ask, what can you do? You won't be happy yourself. "

"If I were you, I wouldn't care about this, as long as I am smart and capable and beautiful."

"After showing off myself, I don't believe that I don't bow my head and admit my mistakes."

"Even if you don't admit your mistake, you are afraid that there is no oxygen for survival?"

"Excellent and dazzling, I'm afraid I won't step on all the men in Shili Sheep Farm?"

I read his messages many times over and over again, and I am looking for clues about his feelings for me. Can women really become so overwhelmed because of the sudden change of feelings? Are you very upset?

He called me in the morning 10, and I answered it. His voice seemed nothing happened last night, and he smiled and asked me if I wanted to go to his place for the weekend. Hearing his voice, I let my guard down. I told him I felt terrible last night, and so on. He got cold and said, don't tell me this. I don't want to hear it. You can digest it yourself. Then hung up the phone.

What happened? I'm even sadder because I can't concentrate on my work and study because of the influence of my feelings. I always think of what he said that night over and over again in my mind, and every word is like a needle in my heart. I need an explanation. I gave him time to calm down these days, and I tried not to disturb him.

On Wednesday, he sent me a short message: "My hair is furry again, haha." I said before that he has a lot of hair and needs a haircut. I didn't reply. After 10 in the afternoon, he sent me another short message: "Meat." He usually calls me Rourou, so do I. We are both called Rourou. I also endure not to return. What I silently hope to see is that he takes the initiative to apologize to me and says that he shouldn't talk nonsense, so I will forgive him, never mention it again, and never look for an explanation he owes me again.

I deleted his QQ that night because I didn't like to see my signature. On Thursday morning, he added my QQ and said, "I didn't sleep well last night. I haven't slept well these days. I don't know why. I added him and saw the same signature. I said that if you always intend to use this signature, you can, but don't add me. I saw him delete his signature at once. Tell me, why do I always stare at his signature and say that I am too free and easy, too insecure. I said I don't have to punish myself for choosing the wrong person or pay for your love. He stopped talking.

He called me at noon and asked me if I had bought a ticket. Wives of those who helped build the project will be there this weekend, and a car will be sent to pick us up. I say we'll see. Hung up the phone.

I've been thinking for a long time, whether to go or not, and how to face it when I go. I always thought autographing would be unbearable. If I go again, he still has that attitude, and I think I will lose the chance to make him admit his mistake this time. I sent him a short message. I said I wouldn't go, and I didn't know how to face it. He replied: What are you facing? Isn't it just a fight? I am angry and funny. How can he be so naive? I did something wrong, and I'm still so confident.

After work in the evening, I want to take a half-day off tomorrow afternoon and go to him by train in advance. Maybe nothing will happen after meeting. Women are auditory animals and men are visual animals. As long as he says he still loves me, even if he says he didn't feel anything before, he does now and he will always do so. I am so naive.

I called him for the first time after swimming in the evening. I wanted to relax and then went to see him the next day. After all, you were asked to come over. I didn't ask much about what he said on the phone that day. My tone is obviously much better. He is also willing to chat with me. They are all very careful. That's what I wanted to say. I mentioned it a little and he said he wanted to take a shower. He hung up the phone.

I thought it was really a bath, so I waited for half an hour and called him again. He answered the phone in a bad tone and asked what happened. This movie is very noisy. I told him to turn down his voice, but he didn't move. I said I wanted to talk about us. He has a bad attitude. Ask me what to say, and I say you're not going to apologize to me? He didn't even think about it. I said, don't you think you did something wrong? He said he didn't think so. These two sentences made me cry. I said you should calm down for a few days. What are you thinking about these days? Do you want to divorce me and be with your beauty? He said he didn't think it over. I said you didn't think it over. Why did you call me? Now he says you love coming or not. Don't come. Call me boring. He is going to take a bath. Isn't he giving me the runaround? I am going to vomit blood. I said that as long as you apologize, I will cross over and never mention it again. He said I was bored, so he hung up. I kept calling several times, but he didn't answer. That feeling is really suppressed in my heart and there is nowhere to vent. I dialed several times in a row, but he didn't answer.

Today is Friday. It used to be a day to get together, but this time it's different. I really fell to the bottom. Why did he become like this? Why does he become impatient on things like feelings? Why doesn't he want to apologize to me? Help me analyze, what should I do at this time, so helpless.

Blogger reply:

Do you think he will love you for apologizing to you? He never loved you, he never will, and never will! After marriage, you get along well and get along well. That's because you love him, treat him well, change for him, make him happy, and he is repaying you with affection. He refuses to talk about feelings with you now because he already has someone else in mind. He misses her and suffers for her. Her existence clearly tells him that he doesn't love you at all, and his love has never had anything to do with you!

He wants to ease his pain through you, because being loved by you can keep him from losing confidence. Talking and laughing with you can divert his attention. However, if you insist on holding him in front of love and force him to say that he loves you, he will naturally have strong resistance. He yearns for her and is trying to get her, but you want to drive her away and ruin her. Moreover, he will think that if he is single, he can pursue her aboveboard, or she just doesn't love him because he is married. He regrets getting married very much and hates you because he hates this mistake.

"If I were you, I would ignore it and just look smart and beautiful." "After I shine, I don't believe that I don't bow my head and admit my mistake." These two short messages show that the woman he loves is smart, beautiful and dazzling, and many men are attracted to her. He has admired her for a long time and is a die-hard fan of her. He knows her well, which shows that they are in frequent contact. She is probably a colleague of his unit. He married you at first because he didn't think he was good enough for her, but her recent association with him aroused his fantasy. He was aroused by lust, but she was still at arm's length. Without saying that she loved him, he said, "Don't worry, the third party hasn't." However, he couldn't help thinking, "Maybe I just like beautiful women, unknown and fresh, maybe I am a man who likes the wind." He is not a stubborn person, he will think that he may not get her, but he will definitely meet someone who makes him move.

You'll never walk into his love imagination. You won't appear in his romantic photos. You are his romantic poison. As long as you are involved in his love, he will be as angry as a caged animal. So, if you are willing to accept a husband who doesn't love you, you can get pregnant soon. His parents like you and have some control over him. You can tell your in-laws the truth, and they will help you persuade him to have a baby as soon as possible. He is a late ripening and unstable person. As long as you are firm and don't woo him, you can still live.