This is how really smart people deal with people who don’t reply to our messages.

In life, we will always encounter people who do not reply to our messages. How will you deal with this?

I know a girl. Every time she sends a message to someone, she doesn’t receive a reply from the other person. She feels extremely anxious and has all kinds of random thoughts.

At one moment, you tell yourself that the other person must be busy and did not see the message. At the next moment, you feel that you must have done something wrong, offended the other person, and made the other person unhappy.

I had her mentality a long time ago, and when the other party didn’t reply to my messages, I would keep sending them many messages, just so that the other party could reply to me and reassure me. But to be honest, it's really stupid to think about my past self.

Because you send a long message to someone who doesn’t want to reply to your message, the other person will see it as worthless and think you are disturbing him. People who are willing to reply to you, no matter how many messages you send, even one word, although they may reply late, they will still reply.

In reality, we will all encounter people who don’t reply to our messages, maybe lovers, maybe other people. You know, if the other person doesn’t reply to our messages, it doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t care.

After all, everyone in this world has their own things to do. No one will hold their mobile phone all the time, just to reply to your messages. So you don’t have to worry too much about it. If you really don’t know how to deal with it, you might as well learn what smart people do.

1. Don’t think too much and do what you should do

Many people are too fragile mentally, especially women who like to be emotional. Once the person they care about does not reply to the message in time, they will I started to wonder whether the other person didn't love me anymore.

As a result, I can’t calm down when I do anything. I can’t read quietly when I’m reading, and I can’t enjoy the food well when eating. Not only may I be thinking about this all the time, I may also keep looking at my phone, looking forward to the other person. Give yourself a reply.

This is actually very bad, because when you start to think wildly, you can only keep guessing, but no matter what, you still can't draw a real conclusion.

In the end, you end up focusing on one thing and not the other. Your emotions affect the interpersonal relationships around you, interfere with your own living conditions, and delay your work, sleep, etc.

Random thoughts will cause you a lot of unnecessary trouble. The person who makes you think wildly has no idea how much you have suffered because of him.

In this case, you might as well just do what you should do and do what you should do. Anyway, you can’t let the other party give you a result now. You might as well calm down and give it to the other party as well as to yourself. Wait for some time for a definite result.

02. If I haven’t responded to you for a long time, don’t send me any more messages.

In reality, some people may have a strong desire to control and can’t stand being ignored by the people around them who care about them. And situations like not replying to messages. When the other party does not reply to his message, this person will habitually continue to send two, three, even four, five or even more messages.

It is true that doing this may make you feel better and relieve a little bit of anxiety and uneasiness in your heart, but you must know that if a person does not want to reply to your messages, even if you keep sending them a lot of messages, Useless.

People who have you in their hearts and will reply to your messages will definitely reply to you after a long time. For people who don’t want to reply to your messages, even if you send them N messages, they will not pay any attention to you.

So no matter how many messages you send to a person, the final result is destined and you can't change it at all. So when you find someone, just send them a message. Don't send any more messages after that, just wait for the other person to reply.

03. If the other person ignores you on purpose, don’t bother him again

In this era, everyone is very dependent on mobile phones, and almost everyone can’t live without them, so you give someone If you send a message, the other party will see it soon.

If the other party doesn't reply to you now, it can only mean two things. First, this person is really busy, and second, the other party is deliberately ignoring you. If you don't reply to you all the time, that's the second situation: the other party doesn't want to talk to you.

When faced with someone who does not reply to their messages, smart people will first determine the reason. Smart people are very sensible and measured in what they do. They know that the other person is deliberately ignoring them, and they are smart enough not to bother them. This way of dealing with them is also to leave a little bit of human decency and dignity for themselves.

To be honest, in the adult world, no one can live without anyone. People who don't reply to our messages mean that they don't have us in their hearts and don't value our initiative. In this case, we don't need to keep such people by our side, just stay away.