Adding fuel to the fire: the contradiction between husband and wife caused tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the husband actually said that he would break up with his parents.

It is said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to get along with. In fact, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is inextricably linked with the man between them.

As the saying goes, you are not afraid of opponents like gods, but you are afraid of teammates like pigs. This teammate is particularly important in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. As a bridge between two women, if he can't play a regulatory role, he is still a troublemaker who throws bombs everywhere and has considerable power.

Mr. Jin wanted to be with his wife forever, but his family almost broke up because of his improper handling of the problems between the two women.

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Mr. Jin is 33 years old this year. He married his wife Xiaoyan. They have no children in common. Mr. Jin has a daughter and Xiaoyan has three children raised by her ex-husband.

Mr. Jin said that they have lived together for more than three years and are very happy. After marriage, he handed over the financial power to his wife, but in July this year, Mr. Jin's wife lent 40 thousand yuan to one of her relatives without telling him.

Later, Mr. Jin found out and asked his wife. She couldn't hide it anymore, so she said it. This made Mr. King very angry. He thinks that such a big thing is his wife's own decision and completely ignores him.

So there was a contradiction between them. After the quarrel, both of them filed for divorce. Xiaoyan ran away from home in a rage and didn't come back for half a year.

Mr. Jin, who calmed down, felt very sorry. He wants to communicate with his wife, clarify the problem and live a good life after coming back. He inquired about his wife's general location through friends, and inquired with the mediation team all the way, and finally found Xiaoyan's rented place.

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If things are really like what Teacher Jin said, why did Xiaoyan give the family money to others without telling her husband?

When I came to the rental house where Xiaoyan lived, Xiaoyan looked at the opposite teacher Jin with her eyes and couldn't help but shed tears. I knew at first sight that there was still a deep affection between them.

Xiaoyan wiped her tears and said that she felt very uncomfortable. She never thought that she would fall into this situation.

The 40 thousand yuan was bought by her cousin and borrowed from her. At that time, she and her husband had a fight because of some things, so they didn't tell her husband to lend money to their cousin. Later, she explained to her husband, but he wouldn't listen, so she left home after they had a big fight.

Economy is the lifeblood of a family, and it is also the source that easily leads to contradictions. In a family, large expenses should be decided by both husband and wife.

In any case, it is really inappropriate for Xiaoyan to borrow money privately. No matter whether the husband and wife have conflicts or not, they should tell their husbands about borrowing money, because the husband and wife have the same property and the husband has the right to know.

During the Cold War, when relatives of husband and wife borrowed money, they either didn't borrow it or sent messages to their husbands first. Xiaoyan's practice is easy to cause misunderstanding between both sides, which in turn causes unnecessary trouble and affects the feelings between husband and wife.

Mr. King also blamed his wife for lending him money without telling him. Under the analysis of the mediator, Xiaoyan also admitted that it was really her poor work that made her husband misunderstand herself.

The most important thing between husband and wife is honesty. Even if you quarrel, you should communicate face to face on some principled issues of right and wrong.

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Mr. Jin was a little excited to see Xiaoyan living in such a shabby house after she left home. He wiped his tears and said that he didn't want his wife to live in such a place. It was so cold that he wanted to warm her with his arms.

Teacher Jin's love words blurted out, which shows that he is a very warm person and is willing to confess at ordinary times. With such people, women should be happier.

However, Xiaoyan was moved to tears by her husband, but she still insisted that no matter how hard life was, she would never go back to live with her husband.

In order to save Xiaoyan's heart, Teacher Jin took Xiaoyan to the park where they fell in love together, where they had sweet memories.

Facing her affectionate husband, Xiaoyan spoke her mind: you don't trust me. What did I tell you?

Trust is the cornerstone of marriage, and a marriage without trust is bound to be full of holes. What is Xiaoyan's distrust?

Xiaoyan frowned. She said that her husband always suspected that he had given all his money to his ex-husband. When he lent money to his wife before, Mr. Jin also suspected Xiaoyan had given the money to her ex-husband, so he didn't want to listen to Xiaoyan's explanation, which led to their divorce.

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Now that they are married, they are a family. Why does Mr. Jin suspect that his wife gave money to his ex-husband?

Mr. Jin said that this summer, he accidentally saw his wife's ex-husband send her a message saying that if Xiaoyan had any difficulties, he would ask his daughter to call him. As soon as Mr. Jin pondered it, he felt that it was not simple and there must be something wrong.

Xiaoyan explained that in summer, her 16-year-old eldest daughter didn't want to go to school and wanted to work in Jiangsu, so her ex-husband sent her a message to persuade her not to go so far away. They didn't say anything ambiguous at all.

Mr. Jin said that when he saw this message, he asked his wife who this person was. Xiaoyan said she didn't know who it was. So he called the other party and didn't answer several times. Later, he got through. Mr. Jin talked to Xiaoyan, but the other party directly asked if Mr. Jin was at home, as if they were deliberately hiding it from him, which made him more and more suspicious.

Xiaoyan is also very upset in the face of her husband's suspicion. In order to get rid of suspicion, every time he receives information from his ex-husband, he directly gives Mr. Jin his mobile phone and asks him to return it if he wants.

Mr. Jin took the opportunity to conceal that his ex-husband was Xiaoyan. It can be seen from the attitude of her ex-husband that he wants to get back together with Xiaoyan, which makes Mr. Jin feel very uneasy.

Mr. Jin also understands that Xiaoyan's contact with her ex-husband is impossible to cut off. After all, he has three children, but he is always afraid that Xiaoyan will communicate with her ex-husband behind his back, which makes him feel insecure. He was afraid Xiaoyan would remarry with her ex-husband and leave him.

But Xiaoyan's attitude is very firm. She can't remarry her ex-husband Being with her ex-husband broke her heart and she couldn't go back.

However, Mr. Jin still doesn't want to believe her idea. After all, Mr. Jin just wants to see Xiaoyan's attitude, but Xiaoyan has been avoiding it and has not given her husband a clear attitude, which has always worried and frightened him.

The trust between husband and wife needs to be maintained by both sides. When the other party doubts, give him reassurance, so as to reassure the other party.

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In order to dispel her husband's doubts, Xiaoyan called her ex-husband in front of Mr. Jin and asked him not to send her messages casually in the future. If anything happens, she can have her daughter call her.

For Xiaoyan's request, her ex-husband also expressed understanding. After all, the two have divorced, and Xiaoyan's marriage can't go wrong because of his relationship.

Now that Mr. Jin has found Xiaoyan and knows that she and her ex-husband have three children, he should be mentally prepared. Xiaoyan's marriage with her ex-husband is over, but their relationship is far from over. There will always be communication for the children.

Couples are most afraid of mutual suspicion, especially in second-marriage families. Mr. Jin should trust his wife and not be suspicious of everything, which will hurt the feelings of husband and wife.

Communication is the bridge to a happy marriage. When they came to this point because of a short message, the communication between them was not in place, and there was not enough sense of security and trust between them.

Xiaoyan's attitude of calling on the spot moved Mr. Jin, and the misunderstanding between the young couple has been thawed. He knew that his suspicion of Xiaoyan was partly his responsibility. He took Xiaoyan's hand and said that he would love her as before.

Unexpectedly, Xiaoyan refused and said that she didn't want to live with him. Although there is nothing wrong with their feelings, her mother-in-law's treatment of her frightened her.

Teacher Jin held Xiaoyan's hand tightly and promised to solve her mother's problem.

It's really a mountain and heavy water, and there's no way out. I thought things had been solved satisfactorily, but new problems appeared again. This young couple is really troubled. What did Xiaoyan's mother-in-law do to make her so afraid?

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Xiaoyan said that since they got married, her mother-in-law has been speaking ill of her in front of her husband, saying that it is not good for her, and even told her husband to divorce them, and Xiaoyan wanted to bring it up herself.

As an elder, how can you let your son and daughter-in-law divorce? What kind of contradiction do they have?

Mr. Jin and his parents live only 200 meters apart. In order to completely solve the contradiction between them, the mediation team rushed to Mr. Jin's parents' house without stopping.

My mother-in-law is very resistant to Xiaoyan's arrival. She refused to meet Xiaoyan, which shows that their relationship has been very stiff.

Xiaoyan bluntly said that she heard what her mother-in-law said to her three sons at home, but her parents-in-law refused to admit it. She also said that the young couple would beat and scold their son every time they quarreled, and never said that.

When the two sides were arguing, Mr. Jin looked at his wife and said that she (mother) said I wouldn't listen to her. Mr. Kim's mother then asked her son, did I say such a thing?

Mr. King did not hesitate to expose his mother. You said I didn't want to mention it, let her.

Being caught by her son on the spot, her mother-in-law can no longer deny it. She really means that they often quarrel over a little thing and tell her everything. She was so worried about their little couple that she couldn't sleep. She was angry when she said such a thing, but it was not her intention.

I just didn't expect this incident to keep Xiaoyan in mind, which became a gap between them.

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What makes Mr. Jin's mother sad is that his son drank some wine a few days ago and called his father to say that he would break up with them. She was there then. Hearing her son's words, her heart ached. Mr. Kim's mother was very angry and asked her son, who said this?

Mr. Jin said without hesitation that his wife said so.

Xiaoyan also admitted that she did say something similar because her mother-in-law asked them for a divorce, but Mr. Jin was reluctant to leave. She means that if she wants to live together, she should have less contact with them (in-laws) and just ignore them. But she didn't say that she wanted to cut off contacts. Teacher Jin said it herself.

It turned out that Mr. Jin contacted Xiaoyan a few days ago and wanted her to go home, but Xiaoyan was worried about the existence of her mother-in-law and proposed that she didn't want to have any contact with Mr. Jin's mother. Mr. Jin said that if Xiaoyan went home with him, he was willing to cut off contact with his parents, so there was a scene where Mr. Jin called his father.

In any case, it is not advisable for parents to work hard to raise their children and throw their parents aside for their own happiness. This kind of ingratitude is not desirable. If there is a contradiction between a family, it can be solved slowly. How can parents' gratitude be broken casually?

The contradiction between Xiaoyan and her mother-in-law is getting bigger and bigger, and Mr. Jin can be said to have contributed. ? It is said that men who know how to resolve family conflicts hide something from both sides, but when facing family conflicts, Mr. Jin always sends the wrong message between his wife and mother, and the way to deal with the problems is immature, which makes the two sides more antagonistic and intensifies the contradictions.

Xiaoyan has made up her mind to marry Mr. Jin, which also shows that she is ready to live a good life in this family. As a mother-in-law, you should tolerate her, not always doubt her.

Under the guidance of the mediator, the misunderstanding between the two women has been solved, and her mother-in-law promised not to always doubt Xiaoyan in the future. Seeing her mother-in-law's attitude of letting bygones be bygones, Xiaoyan felt very ashamed of what she had done before.

But the mother-in-law couldn't figure out what her son had said before and couldn't help crying. Xiaoyan went to comfort her mother-in-law at once. Xiaoyan sincerely said that as long as her mother-in-law is kind to her, she will treat her mother-in-law as before. Some words are too hurtful. Don't say them in the future.

Mother-in-law also took the initiative to hold Xiaoyan's hand, and the two women hugged each other, met together, forgot everything before, and began to get along well again.

Seeing that the two women at home were reconciled, my father-in-law couldn't help but wipe away tears.

A family can overcome difficulties and solve contradictions, but we can't let a family fall apart. If we unite and work together, life will get better and better.

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The misunderstanding of the past vanished, and the family finally made up. Mr. Jin prepared a welcoming ceremony for Xiaoyan, and he also wrote a love poem for his wife:

Mr. Jin handed Xiaoyan the poem with both hands and took out a red rose. I hope their love can flourish like this rose. Xiaoyan was so moved that the husband and wife embraced each other tightly.

Conclusion:

In a happy family, there will always be a man who handles it very clearly. Teacher Jin is really romantic and literary. This poem is really tasteful and emotional. However, his handling of problems is too simple, which makes his beloved woman and mother suffer a lot of grievances. I hope he can grow up as soon as possible, protect their love, hold hands, never give up, and be happy with Meimei forever.

No matter how intimate you are, you should also pay attention to maintaining the mutual independence between husband and wife. A healthy relationship between husband and wife is a comfortable relationship for both sides. In addition to being interdependent and open to each other, husband and wife also need some free space. If you lock each other firmly in the name of love, it may be sweet at first, but after a long time, it will make each other feel bound, uncomfortable and difficult to last.