In a one-child family, if the daughter gets married, what will happen to her parents in the future?

In a one-child family, what will happen if the daughter gets married and her parents will provide for her in the future?

I am born in the 1960s, and the family planning policy is relatively well implemented in Northeast China. The proportion of only children in the city is around 99%. I also have an only daughter. She is not married yet, so I am not anxious about her.

For one-child families, the daughter gets married and the parents provide for the elderly. With the development of society, people's elderly care concepts also keep pace with the times. The old "raising children for old age" and raising daughters for old age have long become a thing of the past. Boys and girls alike.

As an old man, although I have raised children, my concept of expecting my children to provide for them in old age has long since changed. Nowadays, in families with only one daughter, there are several ways to support the elderly:

1. The elderly of both parties live together and the mother and father support each other

My husband’s comrade bought his daughter more than 400 yuan A flat house, ready to retire together.

2. The daughter marries far away and lives in the same city.

My classmate’s daughter works in Dalian, and the couple also bought a house in their daughter’s community, with front and back buildings. My colleague and husband’s comrade-in-arms have daughters in Changchun, Shenyang, Tianjin, and Shenzhen. After my daughter’s job is stable, she bought a house for her in advance.

My cousin-in-law’s daughter is in Wuhan, and she also bought a house for her mother...

3. The daughter lives in the city and takes care of herself for the elderly

A family with only one daughter living in the same city , because we don’t favor boys over girls, and we don’t need betrothal gifts. We also have dowries, and there are also many people who accompany us in cars and houses. My uncle is more kind to his parents-in-law.

My colleague’s daughter got married, and during the Chinese New Year, the two families went to the child’s house to celebrate the New Year. A family day on the weekend. She also often travels with her mother-in-law.

Under normal circumstances, parents of only children will not interfere with their children's lives. They can live on their own and do not like to go to nursing homes.

4. Stay in a group and take care of each other

I know a friend in the elderly group, there are 4 sisters, and the wife has passed away. We traveled to Guizhou together last year, and they often travel together domestically and abroad. In order not to let my daughter worry about whose home she will spend the New Year at. They first went to Xiamen in June to have a look. If they couldn't, they rented a house in Weihai for half a year and spent the New Year together there. Can't move to a nursing home.

5. Home-based care for the elderly

Many families use home-based care for the elderly. When they are unwilling to cook, they hire nannies, part-time workers, and caregivers.

No matter which way you take to provide for your retirement, the first thing you need to do is to have a small nest egg. This is also the benefit of raising an only child. Because most of us have pensions and small savings. Parents from both sides work together to create a happy family for their children. And they contribute money and effort to take care of their grandchildren.

Therefore, I can spend my old age safely without dragging down my children...

I am only a daughter, and now I am married. My husband’s family is in Dalian and we are in Qiqihar! My two children are working in Dalian, my wife has retired, and I have one year to retire! This immediately involves the question of what to do in the future!

After communicating with our daughter and son-in-law, we bought a house in Dalian not far from our children last year! My daughter and son-in-law mean that I will live with them in Dalian when I retire! But to be honest we don’t want to live with our children! It was a lot of inconvenience, so we bought a house! Although it’s a little farther than a bowl of soup, it’s only half an hour’s walk away, which is pretty good!

When we are in good health, we can help them take care of their children. It’s great to get together every three days to have a meal, and then go back to our respective homes during the evening break!

Especially now that as we grow older and our health is getting worse, it is convenient to stay close to the children so that they can be taken care of nearby, so as not to worry about their inability to do anything!

As for whether to hire a nanny or go to a nursing home when you really can’t walk anymore, let’s decide in the future! They still have to work, still have to live, and still have to raise their children! It is really unrealistic for two children to take care of the elderly on both sides!

Everyone wants their children to be filial and stay with them! But the reality is that there is nothing we can do! Take one step at a time!

As the saying goes: When firecrackers go off, children are raised in vain!

I think: Parents of only-child families should not have high hopes for their children’s retirement. The greater the hope, the greater the disappointment!

If you train your children to become adults and become talents, if they don’t grow old, thank God, Amitabha!

It is possible to provide for old age: the sky will collapse, the earth will sink, the mountains will collapse, and the sea will dry up!

Relying on heaven and earth, relying on the government, and relying on children is not as good as relying on my wife and the old couple themselves! It is better to rely on yourself than to rely on others, and it is better to save yourself than to ask for help!

As the saying goes: A good son is not as good as a good daughter-in-law, and a good daughter is not as good as a good son-in-law. Children who marry far away are not as good as good neighbors: distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors, and close neighbors are not as good as the right door!

If only children are married and settled in other places, working, living, and having their own small families, parents should not expect them to take care of themselves until they die, but wish them well in life. happiness! I wish them that after a hundred years, their children can honor their parents and provide them with care until they die!

Parents of only children should not give property and money to their children prematurely. It is best for the old couple to leave a way out for both parties. If the children are unfilial and do not provide for the elderly until they die, they still have real estate and money in their hands. The old couple can also support the elderly with a house, but not with money!

In other words: the house is transferred to the children, and the money is handed over to the children. Even if a son or daughter is filial to provide for their parents in their old age, what if the daughter-in-law or son-in-law is unfilial? What should you do if your son, daughter-in-law, daughter-in-law and son-in-law are all ungrateful white-eyed wolves? How can we support ourselves when we are old and have no money for housing? Going to a government nursing home to reduce your straightness is a pipe dream: the government has stipulated that only children with five guarantees can be adopted by the state for free!

It seems that sometimes, you work hard and make money to raise your children to become talents. When you get old, you still can't raise children to protect yourself from old age. The consequences of old age are worse than those of a five-guarantee household without children. Alas! What kind of world is this!

In the end, I have a hunch: If raising children cannot provide for old age, who will be willing to spend money and effort to have children in the future? Who is willing to give birth to successors to the motherland with five thousand years of civilization? If the number of inheritors decreases year by year or drops off a cliff, it is not a personal matter of raising children for old age or carrying on the family line, as much as reducing orders. It is possible that it will threaten the security of the country, the security of the country's population, the security of the country's unguarded territory, etc.! Personally think.

For an only-child family, what will happen to the parents after the daughter gets married? You mentioned that this issue involves thousands of households. Nowadays, there are more only-child families, and the country has also introduced a series of corresponding policies. , the problem of helping the elderly in single-child families to provide for their old age in the future.

Judging from the current actual pension market for the elderly, they mainly rely on their own accumulation for retirement and go to nursing homes for retirement. The state implements a minimum insurance premium for urban and rural residents who have no job and no social security. Children basically do not need to take much. You don’t have to worry much about money for retirement.

First, it is mainly about personal accumulation for retirement; in the future, the pension for the elderly will mainly depend on each person starting from middle age to accumulate for future retirement. Normally, you cannot spend all the money. If you have money in your hands, your children will still Surrounding you and showing filial piety to you, when the day comes when you really don’t have any money, your children will stay far away from you. Nowadays, people’s pensioners rely on their own pensions and money accumulated in daily life to provide for their retirement, and they basically don’t ask for help. Children need money to support themselves in old age. Is this a critical time for your children? How about training your children to go to college and find a wife? This is the most difficult period of their lives.

The second is to go to a nursing home to take care of the elderly; for those families without sons, if the daughter is married to someone else, she cannot often come back to accompany you. Generally, when she is about seventy years old, she will go to a nursing home to take care of herself. Loneliness can also be played cards, chess, chatting about anything. There are many old people chatting about the past and world affairs together, and there are not many worries. This reduces my daughter’s worries. She feels comfortable there and doesn’t have to worry about food. She often You won’t get sick much if you exercise, and you can live a long and healthy life.

Third, the state provides a pension subsidy of 300 to 500 yuan per month to urban and rural residents who have no job and no social security to reduce the financial burden on the elderly and the burden on daughters of only-child families. They have a job and a salary. For the elderly with pensions, their own wages and pensions can basically meet their pension needs, and they do not need to pay much money from their children. They only need their children to visit their parents more during holidays. If parents can do this, Mothers are content.

In short, the daughter of an only-child family goes out, and the old couple is a little lonely. The daughter and son-in-law should take more time to go home to visit their parents, and help the elderly bring some delicious food. They cannot go home empty-handed, and they cannot just go home empty-handed. The key to implementing words is to take action, care about the elderly's clothing, food, shelter and transportation, and prevent the elderly from being lonely. We should regularly accompany the elderly to go out and see the outside world, so that the elderly can be happy and happy. Children can do this, and the elderly That’s enough.

This is not just a problem for only daughters.

Due to the restrictions of the one-child family planning policy in the past few years, there are many one-child families. Whether a daughter or a son, they will face great pressure in providing for their elderly in the future. According to existing legal provisions, whether a daughter or a son, it is their unshirkable responsibility and obligation to support their parents. Even if a daughter gets married, it does not mean that she is separated from her parents, and the responsibility and obligation to support will not disappear just because she gets married. , there is no problem in this regard. The problem is that whether they are sons or daughters, they will face tremendous pressure to support four elderly people. It would be fine if the elderly have pensions or pension insurance, but if the elderly have neither pensions nor pension insurance, and their children do not have ideal jobs and generous incomes, it will be hard to imagine how difficult it will be to provide for them in old age.

How to solve this problem? It is indeed difficult to rely solely on individuals; it is unrealistic to rely solely on the country. In my opinion, it requires the joint efforts of individuals and the country. On the one hand, as an elderly person, you must have foresight and a sense of self-reliance and self-improvement, and prepare for your own retirement as early as possible. We should not pin our hopes for old-age care on our children or the country too early and live in a daze. While you are young and strong, work hard to earn more money. In addition to paying pension insurance in full and on time, accumulate a certain amount of pension money. As children, you should do your best and fulfill your filial piety. When the elderly are unable to support themselves due to health or other reasons, they should be aware of the dangers, make early plans, purchase pension insurance for them in a timely manner, provide them with necessary support and assistance, and relieve the pressure of elderly care as soon as possible, so as to avoid being overwhelmed and in trouble when all four elders are declining. .

As a country, we should pay attention to the pension issue of one-child families, provide certain support and help, and issue appropriate pension subsidies. Because these elderly people actively responded to the government's call and relieved the country's worries, they consciously chose to have one child and took the initiative to take birth control measures. They are model practitioners of basic national policies. When they encounter difficulties in their later years, the government should help them. Don’t let their hearts go cold. Only in this way can we win the trust of the people and enable the party's various lines, principles, and policies to be implemented smoothly.

As long as the above three parties take their respective responsibilities and work together, the elderly care problem of the only child will be properly solved and their life in their later years will be guaranteed. Don't worry about this, I believe the country has the means and ability to solve this problem. May all the elderly be well-supported and have a happy old age! When the daughter of an only-child family gets married, pension is not a problem from a financial point of view. Most of the two elderly people have pensions. The focus of the problem is that the daughter is married and there is no one to take care of the two old people. This situation can be divided into several aspects.

First, we are both an only-child family, and the man also has the same problem. If the man is also an only-child family, he will also face the problem of having someone to depend on when he grows old. Some people may suggest that the man can live with his wife and his parents. Similarly, the woman can also live with her husband and her parents. This phenomenon is quite common. No matter which parent you live with, you cannot abandon the care of the other parent. A couple has to take care of four elderly people, which they cannot take care of anyway.

Second, the actual situation. In fact, in reality, whether it is an only-child family or a family with many children, very few children live with their parents, unless there are some truly filial children or those who care about the elderly. When two generations live together, due to their different living habits and ways of doing things, conflicts will inevitably arise over time. Based on the above situation, it is unrealistic to rely on children to take care of the elderly.

How to solve the pension problem of parents in single-child families. The key issue is that you must save some pension money on hand. If you have money, you can solve the pension problem.

One, go to a nursing home. Nursing homes do not have welfare attributes at this stage, and most of them are socially run nursing homes. Although the state provides support in terms of land, taxation, etc., the investment and salary expenses of nursing homes must be supported by the people who enter the nursing homes. Therefore, current nursing homes are all fee-based. If you have money, want to live a collective life in a nursing home, want someone to take care of you, and want someone to be there in case of an accident, a nursing home is a better choice.

Two, hire a nanny. This is also a way to support the elderly. Ask a nanny to come to your home to do housework and take care of yourself. However, nanny fees are relatively expensive, generally around 4,000 per month in third- and fourth-tier cities. If you are a retired employee of a company, all of your monthly pension will be given to the nanny. If both the elders are alive, then it’s okay. One person’s pension will be used to pay the nanny’s salary, and the other person’s pension will be used for pocket money. If you are alone, unless you still have a deposit on hand. Therefore, if you have money in your hands, you will not panic when you grow old

Third, if you are unwilling to use the abacus to make money, you will have to live alone and live one day at a time. If you fall ill, your children will have to take care of you. , I’m lucky to not be sick, so I’ll spend my old age well.

The parents of those who were implemented the national policy have entered the ranks of the elderly. It is okay if they live in the same city. If the parents of the couple live in two cities, the issue of their parents’ pension is really difficult. Let them cry without tears. Let me give an example below:

Ms. Huang from our community comes from Huangshan, Anhui. Fifteen years ago, she was admitted to Zhejiang University with excellent grades. After graduation, she worked, got married, got married and had children in Hangzhou. Outsiders have completely integrated into Hangzhou.

In recent years, her parents’ pension issues have made her want to cry. She is an only child, and her parents are both working-class people. Their combined retirement salary is 8,000 yuan. Her parents, who are nearly 80 years old, feel increasingly unable to take care of themselves.

She tried many methods, but none worked.

1. Hire a nanny: In Anhui, the salary of a live-in nanny is nearly 5,000 yuan. This point was rejected because the parents do not have much savings. 2. Hire part-time workers: This can only solve their problem of three meals a day. 3. Go to a nursing home: The cost per person in a nursing home is 2,000 yuan. The price is reasonable and there are doctors, escorts and canteens. It can meet the requirements in all aspects. The relatives must be on call within 24 hours, which is a problem. 4. Bring parents to Hangzhou: Private nursing homes are expensive and unaffordable. She called the city government's hotline for help, but to no avail. She really wanted to cry without tears.

We understand Ms. Huang’s pain. She has her own job, children and family in Hangzhou, and has to pay back a mortgage of nearly 4,000 yuan every month. She cannot do without her at home and outside. If she goes back to take care of her parents, her husband's salary will definitely be difficult to cope with all this.

She is depressed, she is helpless, she doesn’t know how to solve her parents’ pension problem? Thank you friends for your support. What do you think about this topic after reading it? You are welcome to express your opinions in the comment area. [Rose][Rose][Rose][Rose][Rose][Rose]

After the old couple retires, if conditions permit, they can live in the city where their daughter lives and buy one closer to her home. It is also convenient to take care of each other. The elderly can help take care of the children when nothing happens. If the elderly are sick or have disasters, it is also convenient for their daughters to take care of them.

An only daughter and an only son are both only children! There is no distinction between male and female among only children. A daughter is better and can provide better care for her in old age. Now you have also seen that those who gave birth to an only daughter are living very well in their old age. Times have changed. Boys and girls are the same, and they are all inheritors. Girls are married and have families. And some of them give birth to boys who cannot have a family, so they are worried about having a family. Open your heart, it is good to have a daughter, and you are in good health, then you are truly blessed.

Nowadays, all the sons are living in old age. How many sons have you seen "supporting themselves in old age"?

If you don’t have money to pay a bride price to your son, find a wife, or buy a house, do you want to wait for your son to provide for you in your old age? Go ahead and dream!