If you break up with your boyfriend, send him a message and let's break up.

I'm from the xi Pavilion in Donglin. If you have a story, come to me.

In love, women always like to test a man and want to know if he loves himself. Some of these tests are spontaneous and some are influenced by others. Usually it's women who test men spontaneously, so that men don't know that you are testing him, and usually you will achieve the desired effect. However, if you are influenced by others to test men, for example, you have heard of a certain method of testing men by others and used it directly in your love. Then I advise you that this kind of test is risky and may make you lose the initiative in love. The following reader broke up because he was influenced by others to test men.

Teacher Lin Dong: The thing is, when I was having dinner with some friends during the day, they saw someone on the Internet saying, "Send my boyfriend a' Let's break up' to test whether he really loves you. If he really loves you, he won't break up with you. If he doesn't love you, he will take this opportunity to agree to break up. " At present, several people decided to take a big adventure, and agreed to send a "Let's break up" to their boyfriends on their way back to see what the result would be.

I have been hesitating to play that big adventure game since I left them. I don't know. Although I'm sure my boyfriend loves me, I always feel that saying "Let's break up" for no reason will hurt our feelings. Before I thought about it, several other people chatted in the group and said that they had all been sent to their boyfriends. As a result, my boyfriend called anxiously to ask what was going on. They said that their boyfriends really loved them, and then asked me if I had sent them, and how did my boyfriends react. I said I hadn't sent it yet, and they began to encourage me to send it quickly.

I was most afraid of being encouraged by others, so I crustily skin of head and sent that sentence to my boyfriend. However, he usually replies to messages every second, but he didn't reply to me that day. I was so worried that I was afraid of getting into trouble that I quickly explained to him that I was joking. Some friends are playing a big adventure game, but they don't want to break up. But he still didn't reply.

I came home with a nervous mood. As soon as I opened the door, I saw him packing. I asked him what he was doing and why he was packing in the middle of the night. He didn't speak, didn't even look at me, and continued to be busy packing. I was worried, so I grabbed him and asked him what was wrong. He just stopped and asked me, "didn't you say you were going to break up?" Then break up! "

Hearing his words, my heart hurts. I explained to him that it was just a joke, just a game, not true. He ignored it and said, "Can this kind of joke be played casually?" Since you don't love me, don't explain, otherwise it will only make things worse! "I told him," this is really a joke. Ask my friends if you don't believe me! "

He let out a sneer, "this kind of thing to find a friend to lie, interesting? Does our love have anything to do with your friends? "

His words made me very angry. I have explained it twice. It was a joke. He was still serious, so I asked him, "If I hadn't sent this sentence, you wouldn't have broken up with me, would you?" I just want to know if you really love me. Are these casual jokes and tests that serious? "

He said, "Do I really love you? I know it in my heart, and so do you. It doesn't matter if you take the test or not! "

I asked him, "So you don't love me?"

He replied impatiently, "Yes, I just don't love you. I never loved you. Are you satisfied? " Let's officially break up today! It's annoying to save it after the exam! "He said this sentence, pulled up the suitcase and went away.

I didn't chase it. I don't know why this happened. Why does someone else's boyfriend care why his girlfriend broke up, and he just accepts it? Do you really love me as he says? Have you really never loved me? Or did my test make him angry? I don't know. I'm in a mess now.

? Emotional hint in Donglin xi Pavilion: Personally, I think the method used by this reader to test whether men love or not is very inappropriate. Who stipulates that sending "Let's break up" to a boyfriend can test whether a man loves it or not? Before you test men in this way, you should consider the risks: after all, people are different. Some men will call their girlfriends when they see this sentence, and some men will agree to break up when they see this sentence. The latter is obviously not in love, because such people are ready to break up with their girlfriends at any time. Now that my girlfriend said it, it would save him from breaking up. But the former, are you sure that your boyfriend can prove that he really loves you by asking you what's wrong after watching the news? Obviously, it's true or not. Men who don't love you can also call you and ask what's wrong. In this way, you will not be tested, but one more thing will come out.

In addition to the above two situations, there is a third situation: some men will be emotional after seeing the sentence "Let's break up", even the man who really loves you may be emotional, so you may not test anything, but may break up because of it. This reader's boyfriend may be like this, or he really doesn't love him, but passing this test doesn't mean anything, because don't ignore what she said before testing him: "I'm sure my boyfriend loves me!" " "

Breaking up because of this kind of thing will really be unclear. The root cause is that you used the wrong test method. So, I want to say to this reader, "I hope you will calm down tonight and talk to him tomorrow." If you are sure that he loved you before, it is because there is nothing wrong with what happened tonight. The reason why he gave such an answer, in case he is very upset today because of work or something, and you suddenly say that you want to break up, it is easy to be self-defeating Of course, this is just my guess. You need to talk to him before you know. Tonight, you can reflect on your past and make sure whether he really loves you these two years. He has been in love for two years. You can't be ignorant "

I hope this reader's story can teach others some lessons: don't use some hearsay methods to test love. You should know that other people's methods may only be suitable for other people's love, but not necessarily for your love. There are many ways to test whether a man really loves you. The key lies in the daily details. For example, as we usually say, does he just say he loves you, or does he love you with his actions? Will he show up in time when you need his company most? The test of these details, you can't cheat your heart, whether he loves you or not, you know better than anyone. In this case, don't try to test love by some hearsay methods, otherwise you will be self-defeating and regret it.