What if the other person doesn't want to talk to you after breaking up?

Many people are indignant when they are directly blacked out by the other party after breaking up. So what about being hacked after breaking up? What if the other person doesn't want to talk to you after breaking up? I'll give you some advice, I hope it will be useful to you!

How to establish contact after breaking up?

I have explained many times before that cold treatment is to let the other person's memory repair itself. People's memory is very strange, probably because of their self-protection mentality, and they like to modify the past little by little into what they want. Therefore, when you just break up, whether you are blacked out or lose contact, you should give the other party time to forget your bad things or the harm you have caused him. As for the cold treatment time, I generally suggest 2 1 day. 2 1 day is the basic time for habit formation. After 2 1 day, you can try to contact actively, which can bring freshness to the other party. If the problem is too serious, it should be extended according to the other party's recent reaction and mentality. Please be patient during your stay in cold therapy. If you can't be patient, it means giving up.

Therefore, if you want to get back together with your ex-boyfriend, don't pester her. There is no doubt that stalking is to make the other person hate you more. It turns out that he chose to separate from you. There must be something wrong with your relationship. You desperately want him to forgive you and treat you as usual, just as the eunuch who broke the vase wants his master not to punish him.

If you really want him to forgive you, honey, now is not the time. You should let him know that you have changed! So he began to ask again, "They all lost contact and I have changed. How did he know ... ". Change is a process, not a day or two. How can I help you if you don't change your mind? Let alone let him know. Don't worry that the other person can't see your change. There is a way in this world called indirect contact.

indirect contact

What is indirect contact? Below I am divided into three levels:

1, not blacked out but completely ignored.

First of all, I want to congratulate you. After all, if the other party doesn't pull you down, it will give you a chance. Of course, you're not particularly serious. At this time, you only need to send a circle of friends according to each other's preferences and the guidance of your tutor, which should attract him again. However, if the other person is a black-bellied man with poor endurance, please take a photo with other members of the opposite sex to let him know that you are very marketable. This way of restoring contact by sending a circle of friends is based on the principle of finding new topics, what the other person likes and dislikes, what he will be interested in, and what difference you will have before and now. These are all things you should consider. Some girls can't even list their boyfriends' habitual interests. Well, please take the time to get to know each other again before you save it.

2, except that the mobile phone was hacked.

It's a little troublesome, especially when I tell you directly, "I don't want to hack this phone." Dear, please review what you have done to make him hate you so much. Getting rid of the other person's dislike of you is the first step. In any case, you should bite the bullet and endure 2 1 day, list your shortcomings hard, and face direct analysis one by one. After 2 1 day, the girl changed her hair style and makeup directly and went to the place where she would appear (not every day, of course). Well, it was still very cold at first, and I didn't respond to each other, but I got in touch again later. If you want to keep it simple, you can try to say hello and send text messages in different ways. If the other party doesn't reply to you for more than one day, you can use the following trick.

3, all power outages

All black ... we must start with cognition and change bit by bit. There are seed letters and other items in our exchange course system. Well, the writing is not good enough or the other person is not fresh at all. Not recommended. Why don't you give me a list of your friends in descending order of intimacy? Give me a good social contact such as crisis public relations, get in touch with these friends and show them that you have changed your style. I never mention my feelings, and when asked, I just say "Let nature take its course and respect his decision". I said the same thing about how to get back in touch with my ex-boyfriend. I hope all female students can work hard and make progress, and the most important thing is to change and wait.

What if the other person doesn't want to talk to you after breaking up?

The phrase "don't contact again after breaking up" is believed to be the common sense of many men and women, but it is very difficult to really resist not contacting. Either because one party is unwilling to be lonely, try to contact and save the other party, even if it is just a cold reception. Why doesn't the other person want to talk to you after breaking up? There are nothing more than these reasons:

1. Breaking up because I'm tired of you is just a relief.

2. I still stay in the anxiety stage after breaking up, and I don't want to reply to your message for the time being.

I have a new love and refuse to contact you again.

4, stubbornly believe that breaking up is breaking up, don't break up again.

Whatever the reason, it is difficult to recover. If you are too eager to get back together, keep apologizing, but you will push it further and further. In addition, you should not only consider how to get back together after breaking up, but also consider the problems between you.

Words come, what if the other party doesn't want to talk to you after breaking up? Here are some methods that suit you:

Correctly treat the freezing period

Freezing is the key to reorganization, and reorganization must be meaningful. Only by disconnecting first can the other party think calmly and re-establish attraction. As for the control of the freezing time, it can depend on the degree of communication between you. For example, the freezing period of long-distance love is not recommended to be long, and it can be extended appropriately if you can meet easily.

Think calmly about your feelings.

Calm down and think about love, think about the position of the other person in your heart, and think about whether you have done enough emotionally. All failures are forgetting to make yourself stronger. For you, if you can handle it well, this breakup is just a tempering opportunity to bring your feelings closer. If it is not handled properly, this will be the end of your relationship.

Pay attention to improve yourself, and then attract each other.

The essence of men and women being together is attraction. You can be boyfriend and girlfriend because you are attracted to each other. When there is a rift in your relationship, it is also the reason why the other party is not attractive enough. So, if you want to get your girlfriend back, after freezing, start living a good life, improve yourself and re-establish your attraction. For you, this will help you attract your ex-girlfriend again.

Things to understand after breaking up and getting back together

Eat seven points full, love seven points full. Proper love will make people feel at ease and happy. But if you love too hard, you will feel physically and mentally exhausted and miserable. In the emotional world, it doesn't matter if you pay more and get more. The way to get along with love is not to always look for a sense of existence and give it to him desperately. You don't hold anyone but you, and you are closed everywhere, blocking each other's life, socializing and binding yourself. The final salvation is to humbly beg the other party not to leave, and then continue to immerse yourself in self-emotion. In the end, they will only wonder: Why did I treat him so well, but he chose to leave me? I gave up everything and focused on him. But you should know that this kind of love, which is too sweet, too greasy and too hard, will only become a kind of strength and ruin your love in the end. Therefore, if you give less love to each other, you will feel insecure, and if you give more love, you will get bored. Just right, just right, water can flow forever. Love that loves too hard will not last long. The feeling of two people together should be comfortable, comfortable and relaxed. You can have your own hobbies and your own private space.

In the hot summer, I watched a soap opera with watermelon in my arms, and you worked quietly at the desk next to me. In the evening, just say: I'm hungry, they put down what they have and go out to eat delicious food hand in hand. I won't sulk because you can't accompany me to work, and you won't be upset because of the noise of my theatre. Relative freedom is the reason why love continues. You don't need to spend all your time making each other happy, and you don't need to be a clingy leprechaun all the time. If you just try your best to pay, you will have higher psychological and conscious demands for returns, and the results are often unsatisfactory. The best way to get along in love is moderate intensity, just like running a marathon, moving at a constant speed. If the speed is too fast, it will definitely not last, and it will only fall in the middle. Too cruel love is like a time bomb, which has already been buried in the middle, but I don't know when to ignite it, waiting for the feelings to burst. Too tired, love has deteriorated, and if this continues, this relationship will not return to the original. Two people should maintain their feelings in the most comfortable posture. A good way to get along is to give love the best breath, and the freedom and strength of both sides should be equal.

The power of love should be soft and light, but not too strong to destroy your love.

Be kind to others and don't pester them.

If two people have broken up, whether they are no longer in love or not, you should be kind to others, and there is no need to entangle. No one likes a person with no self-esteem, if you insist on pestering. Not only will it not let him come back to you, but it will make him feel that you are annoying. In fact, if you love someone, you don't have to have it, and sometimes you need to "let go". Now that the two have broken up, why bother others and yourself?

Be kind to yourself

Some people do not hesitate to damage their health in order to save their ex's heart, such as fasting, alcoholism and other self-destructive behaviors, which not only damage their health, but also make the other person feel that you are bored, and even he will feel that it will be better to leave you. If he saves the other person because of your self-abandonment, it is also his temporary guilt for you. Who wants to live with a person who doesn't care about his health for a long time?

Be kind to yourself and let your mood return to normal as soon as possible. It is a manifestation of being responsible for yourself and your family.

Improve yourself well

You go to him after breaking up, and he doesn't want to talk to you, which fully proves that he doesn't like you anymore. No matter because of your personality or other reasons, you don't need to slander him, let alone retaliate against him. After all, he is your former lover. Adjust your mood and improve yourself, such as reading, writing and drawing. Let time erase everything from you and him!