A letter to her husband after a quarrel.

Letters are a good way to communicate when the husband and wife quarrel and the language cannot communicate. You can write your thoughts on stationery without worrying about poor communication. The following is a "letter to my husband after a quarrel" I compiled for you, for reference only, and you are welcome to read it.

A letter to my husband after a quarrel (1) Dear husband:

You said you didn't think there was anything wrong with you, and I agree with you. You are devoted to our mother and daughter, scrimping and saving, and you are desperate to buy as long as the children need it. You are also a good son. As long as your parents need it, you are desperate to fulfill it. I know how you feel about me.

Maybe my understanding of life is too limited. I only pay attention to the feelings of my small family. I'd rather be bitter and tired for it. In fact, I didn't expect to handle the relationship with your family well at first. I have been looking forward to a harmonious and happy life. You should remember the first contact. I'm glad to go to your house. You once asked me: Why do you like going home more than me? At that time, I thought life was very simple, and I could simply look forward to a bright future with you. Only later, when our children were born and the old people came to our house to see the children, the relationship in our own small family became complicated.

Honey, you have to admit that mom loves you very much. She doesn't want you to share too much housework, and she doesn't just like us to respect her, but likes to make her own decisions. She likes to ask questions about everything in our family and hopes that we will listen to her. But you are her son, and you are used to your mother's meticulous care and report everything. You can't feel the pressure. Just like I sent you a complaint about my mother in Lili's room (my husband's aunt's child, her mother-in-law loves her very much, but Lili hates my mother-in-law because her mother-in-law cares too much), your first reaction is that I am guessing. You are not in that position, and you can't understand many things at all.

You've been blaming me for the next few days. Going to work seven months after delivery is very hard. I often work overtime, so busy that I have no time to drink water. I travel everywhere on business. Besides, I'm new here, and the guests are making things difficult for me everywhere. When I got home, I had to look at your face and listen to your scolding and shouting. Have you forgotten? Have you forgotten that we quarreled because of your mother? I go to work with physical and mental scars. Do you know how I lick the wound? Do you know how I secretly cried in a deserted place?

As soon as I mention it, you can say that I attacked you first. Have you thought about why I attacked you? You fight back every time. What is this? Do you know how much damage your excessive defense has left in my heart You always thought I was strong. I submit to humiliation and accept these unaccustomed people with a smile, right? They say they can't afford to hide, but where can they hide? This is my place . I hope my home is harmonious and has a happy smile. I hope my husband will understand me and consider my feelings first when encountering problems. But this is simply an extravagant hope. I'm afraid to go home. I'm afraid to go home and listen to others like a guest.

Why do I have a bad relationship with your mother? A big reason is that you like listening, comforting her, and maybe telling her that you should give me a good education. The correct way is to tell her that your wife is also your relative, and your mother shouldn't tell you everything. If you are really kind to your mother, you should teach her to be open-minded, broaden her horizons, make more friends and walk more, instead of focusing too much on your daughter-in-law's expression and language. For example, on the way back to my hometown last time, you knew that there was sugar in the child's milk, but you still let her drink it. Many times, you just want to fulfill her and make her happy for a while, but forget what is really good for her. At this time, your behavior is tantamount to letting the old man drink poison to quench his thirst.

You think I've been bad, and you say I'm getting worse. Maybe it is. This makes you very uncomfortable. Maybe it's because you have grown up. You think I said something about your pain. But I still have to say that some contradictions will only accumulate if they are not spoken out early.

Author: xx

20xx year x month x day

A letter to my husband after a quarrel (2) Dear husband:

I used to be so kind, but now I feel strange.

I haven't done anything since morning. Secretly shed tears while writing. How did we become like this now?

I'm a straight shooter, I speak and do things straight, and I don't think so much. Living with in-laws, temper is easy to cause contradictions. After all, in-laws are not parents or lovers. Parents and lovers will understand your temper and be tolerant, but this is different. It has been two years, and I know I can't change my temper. Even if I promise now, I will change back to my original appearance in a couple of days. I know myself too well. A person's character is hard to change. If everyone can change and keep his promise, then everyone will become a successful person.

This delicate relationship is not good, but why insist on it? If you are unhappy, you must persist. If you hurt each other, you must persist. I'm not making excuses for myself. Why does the daughter-in-law downstairs go back to her mother's house when she is pregnant? The child didn't come back when he was over one year old, and finally came back after buying a house. My friend lives in a house of 150 square meters, in the attic, and now lives separately. When you go to the hospital, a daughter-in-law will never be pregnant with a child. Because she lives with her in-laws, she is always angry with herself, so she never does. My former colleague in Beijing has to move out and live on his own with a monthly rent of more than 2,000 yuan. You are not in my position, you don't know how it feels. Your parents are very kind to me. They are very generous, but I can't. If I am unhappy, I will express it directly. I really don't know what to do. I have no confidence in myself anymore. I'm sorry to put you in such a difficult position.

I love you and want to have my own home with you. I hope you take up the responsibility of the family, because you are a man. I hope you can sit and chat with me while eating, instead of watching TV all the time or sitting directly in front of the computer with a bowl. I remember a Valentine's Day, maybe you have forgotten it for a long time. At that time, before going to work, I cooked the meal and waited for you to come back. When you get home, you turn on the computer without saying a word and put the meal in front of it. At that time, I secretly cried. Although I am married, every woman will still care about such a festival. You don't remember my birthday, and you said your mother remembered it for me. Let me thank your mother. What's the use of your mother remembering? As long as you remember, others don't care about me. Just forget about our wedding anniversary. I really care. I don't need you to buy me an expensive gift, just remember.

When I went to the concert that day, you said I didn't perform well. I know what you mean. But I am really not in the mood now. I feel more tired at home than at work. I don't like holidays at all now, and I don't want to go home after work. I used to work in Beijing and looked forward to my holiday every day. Now it's just the opposite.

I still remember when I was pregnant, I was alone at home and had few friends. When I was pregnant, I cooked for you. And you go to play games after dinner, and I clean up silently. We have nothing to say. During the whole pregnancy, you hardly walked with me. I remember one summer, I asked you to go and took a walk on this side of Chaobai River. I was really happy when you chatted with me at that time.

Another time, when you went to Shanghai on business for several days, I sent you a text message and you called me back, but you never told me anything. You didn't say a word when you came back. Are you so reluctant to talk to me? This is your first time to Shanghai, and I have never been there. Are you so unwilling to share it with me? You are so talkative outside, but you don't want to say a word to me when you get home. Maybe, you really don't love me and just want to find a marriage partner. Now you have no choice.

Of course, there are many things about you that move me. One year on our wedding anniversary, you gave me a bag, and I really felt very happy at that time. I am not beautiful, my figure is not good, and my family is not good. I can marry the person you really thought was the happiest person in the world.

Also, in the winter of xx, you gave me a down jacket. I have never bought such expensive clothes myself. At that time, when I was happy, I was really worried about the money at home. It was happy then.

I went to Minsheng Hall for an examination the other day. I need to drink more water for B-ultrasound. You pour me water glass by glass. Although it is a small matter, it moves me.

Why are all these pleasures gone? Because I was bad to your parents, I didn't meet your requirements. However, you are not in my position, and you will never feel this feeling. I admit that I am a selfish person. So, I hope there is some distance and some space, and maybe there won't be so many contradictions. It is not unreasonable to think that parents have no dutiful sons under their knees.

All along, I want you to spend more time with me, and I don't want you to earn much money. I just want you by my side. Of course, I know I'm not a capable person either. I really always feel that I am not beautiful, have a bad figure and have a bad family. I was satisfied with being with you, and I felt very happy at that time. It's noisy every day now, and I don't feel anything at all.

Honey, don't do this, okay? Give each other some space, and maybe everything will be fine. Really, do you think mom and dad are happy to live with us like this? Being apart does not mean that you are not filial to them. We can rent a smaller house here, close to it, or we can meet every day. Then rent it there first, sell it if it is suitable, and then buy it here. Although it is a little hard, happiness is more important. In these two years, in fact, each of us is unhappy.

I wrote all my feelings, some of which may never have been told to you. But I really want to tell you this time, and I want you to know if we can continue. Right or not, I just said what I thought. If it's all wrong, forget it

I wish I could know what you have against me. Besides what I did to my parents, I want to know what I did to you, or what you didn't like. If I can continue, I hope I can get rid of my shortcomings in the future.

Author: xx

20xx year x month x day

A letter to my husband after a quarrel (3) Dear husband:

Dear, I want to ask you: Do you really care about me and the baby?

If you care, why did you do that to me? What do you mean, leave me alone? When you blurted out this sentence, did you estimate my feelings at all? Is there anything you can't say? Why are you so direct and impatient? Where did this sentence put me? Am I a redundant person? How can I feel sorry when you see me in tears and turn away indifferently? What were you thinking at that time? I must be thinking: what's there to cry about a little thing, right? Don't you know that pregnant women are extremely fragile and sensitive? Don't you know that pregnant women are prone to mood swings? This is a normal physiological reaction during pregnancy, which is beyond my control. Can't you be more tolerant, accommodating and patient with this seven-month pregnant woman? Do you have to have fun to make me angry? Am I angry? Would you be happy if I cried?

Look how much I have suffered for this child. For the first few months, I wanted to vomit up my internal organs, and then I caught a bad cold. For half a month. My back hurts now, so I can't sleep well at night. I have suffered so much for my children. Can you understand the hardship? Even if you don't think about my mother who was pregnant in October, the child in my belly is also your son, right? You want him to be healthy, too! Then why are you so stingy with your tenderness, consideration and tolerance? Where is the man's tolerance and mind?

You were different before. You used to be so delicate and generous. I know that almost ten years have passed, and a man can't always spoil you like he did when he was in love. As his feelings gradually faded, all kinds of pressures in life also emerged. When I was in love, I only talked about feelings. Now I have to bear too many responsibilities besides feelings. So we all began to become impetuous and lose patience with each other. But I believe that your feelings for me have never decreased, but they have not all been shown as before. Because love in love is too easy to show, maybe it's just a caring word, a loving look or a pack of snacks is enough to prove it. Now it seems that we need more financial prosperity to ensure a happy life in the future. This is love. But you know what? In fact, in my heart, love is still just a word of concern, a loving look! You are stingy with giving.

I understand your situation, your state and your mood at this stage. But personally, I still can't help feeling wronged by your tone. I feel that I am an irresponsible mother. I don't know how many times I cried since I was pregnant. Some are due to physical discomfort, some are due to sadness, and some are due to grievances. I don't want this! But I can't help myself. Every time he cries, the baby moves around in his stomach. I feel sorry for him. I think he must be very upset, too! I will try to control my emotions and keep a good mood in the future. I hope you can be more tolerant for the baby!

Happy Valentine's Day!

Author: xx

20xx year x month x day