How to ease the relationship with a quarrelling son?

First of all, clean up your parents' own emotions and make up with yourself first.

The sign of maturity is whether you can control your emotions. Usually, after the "storm", many parents will feel very guilty, impulsive and angry when they see their frightened children, and try their best to coax them. However, I seldom reflect on my own problems. If you don't find the reason, you will still make the same mistake, and the injured child will still be. Therefore, when quarreling, the mood suddenly rises. Use reason to control, first sort out your mood and make up with yourself.

Secondly, settle yourself and rearrange your emotions.

There is a short process of emotional relief. In order to avoid becoming more intense, you can choose to avoid the scene and take a deep breath. After settling down, find out the reason, think clearly about the solution, and tell the child in an appropriate way.

In fact, children are kind. As long as you lean down and listen carefully to your child's inner voice, many things will suddenly become clear. It's no fun to show weakness occasionally, especially in front of children. Listen to your child's advice with sincerity and get his forgiveness.

Then, tell the facts, tell the ins and outs of things, and let the children understand themselves.

Talking about things is a link that many parents ignore. Seeing that the child's mood has improved and he feels that he is accomplished, things have passed. Actually, it is not. The older a child is, the more necessary it is for him to understand the cause of the problem. "Why is mom so angry? Is it repeated education or inconsistent words and deeds? " Make it clear before and after the incident to avoid committing it again. Make an agreement with the children. If a similar situation occurs again, you can remind the other party first to reduce disputes.

Finally, remember to thank your child for his forgiveness and hug.

Feelings must be expressed. Some parents think: "When children grow up, their emotions are very sensitive, unlike when they were young, they left a sentence" Baby mother loves you "and a sentence" Dear mother, I miss you! " "It's not. It's never too late to show your love. Say what you have to say, don't hide it in your heart. You think children can understand, in fact, children just think: "Mom and Dad are very busy every day. I can't remember the last time they said they loved me! " "