Later I had money and a house, but you were no longer around

Text/Gongyu Yina

1.

My colleague said that her sister was getting divorced recently, which surprised me.

Every day when we have dinner together, we can listen to our colleagues talk about the affairs of my sister’s family. The two of them came to Shenzhen together from nothing and worked hard. In the end, one entered a bank job and the other became a teacher. In the past two years, they have also been promoted one after another.

My brother-in-law worked hard for a period of time and saved a certain amount of savings. In addition, his family was relatively well off, so his parents gave them a large amount of money to help them buy a house in Shenzhen. I bought a small duplex villa and paid off all the house purchase funds at once, without any mortgage pressure. The young couple finally lived the life they had dreamed of and were finally able to establish themselves in Shenzhen.

This kind of life of owning a house, a car and a stable job makes my colleagues envious and yearn for this kind of happy life. However, just as the good days had just begun, the couple started to get divorced.

"It's a good day, why are you fussing around?"

The colleague shook his head, "We are all struggling on our own, everyone is very busy, and there is less communication and less care for each other. Care, the relationship between the two has gradually become cold, and I don’t want to go on with each other.”

When I was young, I struggled desperately to make more money and just wanted to have more. Good material, give each other a home, and live a lifetime with her.

You only think about making money, but you neglect to care about her. Later, you have money and a house, but she has already become cold-hearted and left you.

2.

Last night, I watched a short film --- "My Husband's Secret Message".

A woman and her husband have been married for several years and have long passed the sweet period of love. Although they are still together every day, the husband always makes an excuse to work overtime and comes home late.

Every day, when the wife comes home, she always faces an empty house, living alone at home in a deserted manner. When she goes to bed, her husband still has not returned.

One day, she picked up a mobile phone in the elevator and used it to send a text message to her husband.

The husband thought it was a text message from a stranger, but the conversation was so sincere.

One day, before the wife fell asleep, she told her husband about the house they rented before and converted it into a hotel. They talked about the past, which they both missed very much.

At that time, they had no money and no house. They squeezed into a small rental house, but they felt very happy. When they continued to struggle with each other and the family conditions got better and better, from a small suite to a large three-bedroom apartment, the husband's behavior left the home and the wife's heart empty.

When we were young, we had nothing, but we tried our best to love each other selflessly. But when he had material things and lived the life he dreamed of at that time, he always ignored the other party.

3.

A few days ago, a female college student reader sent me a message, to the effect that she just fell in love these days and the boy was very nice to her. He knows how to buy things for her. Although he is happy to receive the gift, he feels burdened. Both of them are students, their finances are not yet independent, and their family is not very wealthy. I don't want him to use his parents' money to provide food, drink and entertainment for them. However, boys always treat her quietly and ask me what to do.

I envy such pure love.

When I was young, although I was poor and had nothing, I was willing to love you selflessly, be kind to you selflessly, and treat you patiently, making people feel simple and warm.

Later, each other slowly grew up and wanted more and more things, a house, a car, and a home for each other.

However, how many people have gradually changed their feelings because of this.

Each other continued to work hard, started to be busy, and started to use all their strength to make money.

In the past, she was always free no matter what time, but now, when she needs you, all she has to say is "I'm busy";

In the past, I sent her You can receive a reply to a text message in the next second, but now, there is no reply and no news;

In the past, no matter how tired you were, you would want to hug her, but now, even if she appears in your presence In front of you, you have lost your former sexual desire;

In the past, when she was sad, you would always comfort her, but now, you are left with constant quarrels or choosing to remain silent;

No, the struggle at this moment is also to get married and be with her forever.

But why do you seem to have changed?

In the past, no matter how busy or tired I was, I would always treat her patiently. However, as time went by, I took her existence as a matter of course. The more familiar we are with each other, the less patient we are with each other. If we listen to her nagging too much, we will feel bored; if we listen to her talk too much, we will feel verbose.

Familiar people gradually become strangers.

In the past, when I thought of her, my heart would beat wildly, and I kept looking at photos of each other, but now, I have no time to miss her;

In the past, I kissed her on the mouth and hugged her. If you hug each other, you will be happy from ear to ear, but now, the youthful love is completely gone;

In the past, I looked forward to the day of meeting each other, and laughed when I thought about it. Now, making money is the first priority. One person, and she, is visible or invisible;

In the past, as long as she posted anything, you would read it, but now, you choose to ignore what she does, and lack of time is always an excuse;< /p>

Later, when you made money, you had a house and a car, and everything was needed, you wanted to give her a home, but you were no longer the person she liked, and you could no longer warm her. Heart.

4.

How many people always think that if they have money and a house, they can give her a home and spend the rest of their lives together.

However, on the road to pursuing material things, she was neglected little by little, but love gradually disappeared. Her heart no longer existed.

The life together when we were poor has become a kind of nostalgia. At that time, we were both poor, but we could feel the love for each other and feel warm in our hearts.

Now, I am gradually becoming richer, but I don’t have the same feeling as before.

Have they both changed?

Actually, no, many people still love each other.

It’s just that sometimes you don’t know how to give a woman what she wants. You just want to make more money quickly, but you neglect your love for her and lose a lot of patience with her.

When you only want to make money, think about your original intention of making money?

Don’t lose her just to make money.

Even if you are prosperous and wealthy, without management, love will only become deserted. On the way forward, don’t forget your original intention.

About the author

Gong Yu Yina, a native of Chaoshan, Guangdong, is a girl who keeps working hard for her dreams. Always believe that only hard work will make your life shine brighter.

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