# # The child suffered a loss in school. Mother actually took a knife to discuss.

In college, I worked as a part-time tutor for one semester. At that time, I helped a fourth-grade girl with her homework every night. Recently, I saw the news on the Internet that a 12 boy in Hunan killed his mother with a knife and chopped more than 20 knives. When I was frightened, I couldn't help thinking of what the little girl had said. Although the little girl didn't do anything drastic, she hated her mother just like the little boy. I can't help thinking, why do children have such deep hostility to their mothers? The news mentioned that the cause of the incident was that the boy was suspected of smoking. After being beaten by his mother's belt, he was dissatisfied with his mother's strict discipline and resented the knife attack. /kloc-before the age of 0/0, children may succumb to the authority of their parents and dare not resist.

The child suffered a loss at school, and the mother took a knife to discuss what was going on. Come and have a look with me.

/kloc-the boy who killed his mother at the age of 0/2 was released. Lawyer: It is not suitable to go back to school in a short time. He should seek special education.

Cover journalist Diao Kangming

1February 12, local media in Hunan reported that Wu Mou, a 12-year-old criminal suspect who was hacked to death with a knife after being beaten for smoking, was released by the local police because he was under the age of criminal punishment, and is now brought back to supervision by his parents.

Regarding his continuing education and growth, Chen Qingguo, deputy director of Sichuan Rongcheng Law Firm, told the cover news (thecover.cn) reporter that the law stipulates that he has the right to receive education, but because of its bad consequences, it will definitely affect his classmates. Because of the lack of special psychological counseling and behavioral norms, it is difficult to guarantee that he will break the law again. "So it is not recommended to go back to school in a short time, but the guardian needs social welfare institutions to provide him with special education immediately, such as long-term psychological counseling and some behaviors.

Progress:

The boy who killed his mother has been released into the custody of his parents.

On February 2nd, 65438, Wu Mou, a 6-year-old student from Yuanjiang City, Yiyang City, Hunan Province, was beaten by his mother for smoking, disobeyed discipline and hacked his mother to death with a knife in the bedroom. Afterwards, I took my mother's mobile phone and asked the teacher for leave in imitation of her tone. The next day, after receiving the alarm, the police quickly captured it.

According to xiaoxiang morning herald, on June 5438+February 1 1, a reporter from xiaoxiang morning herald learned from relevant persons of Yiyang Public Security Bureau and Yiyang Education Bureau that Wu Mou had been released by the police because he had not reached the legal age. According to the person in charge of relevant departments of Yiyang Education Bureau, Wu Mou is under the age of 14, so he can't be detained or put into juvenile detention, so his parents will take him back to supervision.

65438+February 65438+February, the cover journalist called Yiyang Yuanjiang Public Security Bureau for details, and the other party said it was not convenient to disclose. The reporter interviewed the relevant person in charge of Yuanjiang Education Bureau by SMS about Wu Mou's future schooling. As of press time, the other party has not responded. The staff of the Propaganda Department of Yuanjiang Municipal Committee said that they knew nothing about Wu Mou's release, and advised the media and the public to pay attention to the official news.

Lawyer:

Instead of going back to school, you should seek special education.

After Wu Mou was taken back, his guardian worried that Wu Mou would continue to break the law at school and hurt his classmates, so he decided not to send him to school.

On June 5438+02, Chen Qingguo, deputy director and lawyer of Sichuan Rongcheng Law Firm, told the cover journalist that it was inevitable that Wu Mou would be released by the police because he did not reach the minimum punishment age stipulated in the criminal law. At the same time, Wu Mou also enjoys the right to go back to school to continue his education. But its influence is very bad, and its influence on his mind is that parents and schools are not advised to let him go back to school to continue his studies in a short time.

"On the one hand, his behavior makes his classmates feel afraid, which will inevitably affect the study of other students, and will also be alienated and discussed by his classmates, which is not good for the growth of himself and other students; On the other hand, due to the lack of necessary psychological counseling and behavioral restrictions, no one can estimate whether he will commit other illegal acts in the future. "

At the same time, because Wu Mou is under the age of 14, he can't be sent to a juvenile reformatory for reform. Lawyer Chen suggested that parents should seek the cooperation of social welfare institutions immediately after taking their children home to provide timely psychological treatment for their children. If necessary, some of his behaviors should be restricted, so that they can be guided and regulated while learning basic cultural knowledge.

Hunan 12-year-old boy killed his mother with a knife and * * * cut more than 20 knives. Son, why did you do this?

In college, I worked as a part-time tutor for one semester. At that time, I helped a fourth-grade girl with her homework every night.

The little girl is well-off and gifted, but she just doesn't want to study hard. In order to improve her grades, her mother doesn't allow her to have time to rest and play. She has made up lessons in Olympics, English and composition, and invited a piano teacher. In addition to going to school every week, she basically shuttles through various training classes on weekends, and the weekly piano class has never stopped.

She always seems absent-minded when helping her with her homework. Although she seems to be sitting at a desk, her thoughts are often free. Sometimes, I explain a topic to her many times, and she knows nothing.

Once, she whispered in my ear, "Sister, do you know? I hate my mother so much that I can't wait to kill her! " I felt numb in my back and trembled all over. I didn't expect such words to come from a lively and lovely 9-year-old girl. What is even more unexpected is that the person she hates most is her mother who works hard for her all day.

After graduating from college, I left the city, never had any contact with the little girl's family again, and slowly forgot a lot of things.

Recently, I saw the news on the Internet that a boy of 12 years old in Hunan killed his mother with a knife and cut more than 20 knives. When I was frightened, I couldn't help thinking of what the little girl had said. Although the little girl didn't act aggressively, she hated her mother just like the little boy.

I can't help thinking, why do children have such deep hostility to their mothers? How many such children secretly hate their mothers? Will the tragedy happen again?

First of all, controlled parenting is not desirable.

The news mentioned that the cause of the incident was that the boy was suspected of smoking. After being beaten by his mother's belt, he was dissatisfied with his mother's strict discipline and resented the knife attack.

On the surface, the boy was killed because of his mother's beating. In fact, this is just an inducement. The deep cause of the tragedy is not overnight, but the mother's long-term control over the little boy. The feeling of depression and suffocation keeps accumulating in the little boy's body. When this emotion accumulates to a certain extent, it will suddenly break out of control. At that moment, the little boy's brain was out of control and unable to think.

In the case, the mother disciplined the boy with a tangible belt, while the mother of the little girl mentioned at the beginning of the article used an invisible belt-various training, counseling and remedial classes. Both mothers bound their children with visible and invisible chains of violence, which caused serious harm to their children's body and mind. These children have no love in their hearts, only hate.

This kind of mother doesn't know how to respect and observe children's feelings, and is used to treating children in a simple and rude way of violence, control and suppression. /kloc-before the age of 0/0, children may succumb to the authority of their parents and dare not resist. However, when a child enters adolescence, he will suddenly become extremely rebellious, suddenly burst into emotions accumulated for many years, and there will be many behavioral problems, which may be boredom, truancy, surfing the Internet, running away from home, and even the tragedy of killing his mother, in order to resist the long-term control of his parents.

Second, the father's absence cannot be ignored.

It is mentioned in this news that the boy's father works outside the home all the year round, and the mother is alone with her two sons at home.

Influenced by traditional ideas, most families in China are patriarchal. The father is only responsible for making money to support his family, and the responsibility for educating children mostly falls on the mother.

Father, mother and children are a natural "golden triangle" relationship. The absence of the father leads to the incompleteness of the family framework, the long-term lack of nutrition for the mother and the long-term lack of care for the children by the father. In this case, the mother is very easy to be grumpy, plus busy with daily chores, not knowing how to cultivate, and not good at learning scientific parenting knowledge. She can't give her children a good and perfect education at all, and many bad behaviors such as smoking, drinking and taking drugs will take advantage of it and be easily swept away.

A family survey in the United States shows that children in families where their fathers are not around are more likely to have various psychological problems when they are young. The chances of bad conduct, early pregnancy, alcoholism, drug abuse and violent tendency are twice as high as those of families with high father participation, and the chances of suffering from depression are three times as high as those of families with high father participation.

Third, the lack of social education is the key.

Under the background of exam-oriented education, many primary schools overemphasize students' achievements and neglect students' moral education and mental health education. Many moral education courses are occupied by Chinese, mathematics, English and other main courses. Although most schools offer moral education courses, they are basically ineffective. So there are many children with excellent grades, but with defects in personality and personal cultivation.

My son's school is a key primary school in the city. I chose this school because it has a good reputation, strong teachers and good students, and attaches importance to cultivating students' comprehensive quality. However, although the main courses in this school are often occupied by sub-courses, the test scores are often the focus of the school's assessment of teachers. Schools only pay attention to grades, parents follow suit, only pay attention to children's grades and ignore children's mental health. In the long run, many children with high scores and low abilities will be trained, and education reform is really urgent.

Primary school is a crucial period for the formation of children's world outlook, outlook on life and values. The growth environment in primary school affects a person's life direction, and we can't be careless. If children can't accept positive guidance and education, it is easy to go to extremes or go astray. Only when the whole society and Qi Xin work together, parents improve their parenting level and schools attach importance to students' moral education can our children grow up in the sun and the tragedy will not repeat itself!

-Edward-