"How can my family have the money to buy a house? Dowry houses are popular here." Will you accept the man's request?

In fact, whether you will accept it or not depends mainly on how the man and the woman negotiate.

If I were the woman, and we truly loved each other, and our family had the conditions to meet the man’s requirements, I would accept it.

But if our relationship only depends on conditions, or if the man only looks at my family conditions, I will not accept such an unreasonable request.

Marriage is a matter between two people. After two people get together, they have to taste the ups and downs of life by themselves, and they have to solve some difficulties they encounter by themselves.

So the betrothal gifts and dowry during marriage are not so important. If the material needs are excessively required without considering the future life of the two people, then this approach has actually lost the essence of marriage. .

Customs are different in each place. Indeed, there are some customs in China where the woman’s family gives out a lot of dowry. Judging from the domestic housing prices, the price of houses in any place may not be too low. , if two people really love each other, but the woman does not have a family that can provide such conditions, it can also be solved in the following two ways:

1. Each family of both parties takes some

No matter Whether it is a betrothal gift or a dowry, the essence of it is to enable two people to have a good material life after getting married. However, if this custom is regarded as a means of seeking benefits, it will change the taste. , so when the woman’s family cannot meet this requirement or does not have the strength, both families might as well take some.

2. Pay a down payment

Of course, there are some situations where families are particularly poor. In this case, if the family can help, they only need to come up with some down payment. I I think it's ok. When repaying the loan every month, it would be better if the couple can afford it. When they can't afford it, the family can also help pay back appropriately.

Finally, if the woman feels that the man’s request is very reasonable, she can actually choose to refuse, because in most places in the country there are indeed some habits of the man’s family buying a house. In fact, whether she wants to agree or not depends on the fundamentals. Above all, it should also depend on the feelings of both parties.