What should my girlfriend do if she is pestered by her ex-boyfriend? My boyfriend pestered me and threatened me.

Recently, I received a letter from a reader, in which she poured out her troubles with her ex-boyfriend. If I agree, I will describe it in the first person.

My name is Jony J, and I am an ordinary city girl.

His name is Wang Jian (a pseudonym). I was introduced by a friend.

He is a northerner, so his personality is straightforward, and he speaks with the humor of northerners, which makes me feel that this boy is very interesting, so with the gradual deepening of communication, it is logical for me to be with him.

At first, life was sweet.

His work place is a little far from my company, but he gets off work earlier than me, so every time he gets off work, he will take the bus first and then transfer to the subway to wait for me to get off work, have dinner with me and then take me home.

But as the days passed, I found the strong desire for control behind his intimate behavior.

Once, when I got off work, I saw his figure. I ran happily, smiled and put my arm around his waist and said, "Are you waiting for me today? Are you afraid that I will lose me if I encounter any accident after work? "

Speaking fluent northern Mandarin, he said, "I'm afraid who you are looking for."

But I didn't take this seriously because when I said this, I really felt his concern for me.

However, later I found out that he really cared about my relationship with men. On the way home every day, he always uses my mobile phone to look through my chat records. As long as he finds that it is a boy chatting, he will persistently ask me who he is. What is he doing? Does he have a girlfriend?

At first I said, "Do you really have the charm of being a girlfriend?"

But he said to me seriously, "You are my girlfriend now, and I hope you can stop all contact with men."

However, this is impossible to end. There must be a handover between work and male colleagues. Once a project required me and a male colleague to follow up the project site, so I went with the male colleague and worked at night. As a result, I forgot to send him a message saying that I was not in the company today and didn't need to pick me up.

He called countless times. As soon as he heard that I was working alone with a male colleague, he immediately asked me for my address and took a taxi. However, what he never expected was that after he came over, he shook his fist directly at his male colleague, which shocked everyone at the scene.

He also yelled at me that I was in collusion with my male colleagues.

This made me suddenly afraid of him.

Not only that, but his supervision of me is becoming more and more strict. He often reports to him on weekends, taking photos and videos and punching in. When I went out shopping, he saw a boy next to me and asked questions.

I couldn't take it anymore, so I broke up.

Unexpectedly, he ran after me and threatened to jump off the bridge if you really left me.

Seeing that I didn't stay, he said, "Yes! You are cruel enough! You wait! "

As a result, a thing that shocked my heart appeared.

One day, I got a phone call at the company saying there was a package. I haven't bought anything recently. I wanted to know why there was a package, so I went downstairs to sign for it. When I got back to the office, I told my colleagues.

Colleague smiled: "It won't be from a boy who admires you."

I shook my head, how is it possible.

I almost didn't scare my colleagues when I opened it. It turned out to be Ghost Bill!

Then, a short message appeared on my mobile phone, which was sent by him: This is what happens when you dump me, and I won't let you rest.

After this incident, I occasionally received various packages, strange dolls and strange masks from him at the company. Gradually, I began to be afraid of receiving express delivery. Not only that, my work became distracted.

what am I supposed to do？ Faced with this invisible threat, the police could not file a case. Should I choose to be with him again to end such a thing and convince him not to be such a person alone, or should I bear it all the way?

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I remember there was a hot search on the news at 19.

A female college student was stabbed by her ex-boyfriend and died unfortunately. ...

A gaudy age, so stay in 19.

The report said that shortly before the incident, the two broke up, and the other party said that they had something to return to her, so they met in the hotel room. After meeting, the woman still refused to get back together. The ex-boyfriend failed to get back together, stabbing the girl first and then committing suicide.

Such news is really frightening.

If you love but can't, you must crush it. Such a morbid person is a potential explosive.

If you get back together with such a person, it is equivalent to putting a bomb on yourself. Once you want to unload it, you will only die with the bomb.

In real life, many people are doing some outrageous things, challenging the bottom line with such brilliant words as "I love you, and I am only doing this to get back together with you".

They may not pose a direct threat to our life, but what they do will cause some confusion in our daily life.

I remember the same thing happened to my college roommate.

She is with a boy from a foreign school. At first, the boy took great care of her, but because he was not together and he didn't see her once a week, the relationship gradually alienated.

My roommate broke up with him.

Unexpectedly, the next day, the boy ran downstairs to our dormitory and shouted, "XX, I love you. I won't leave until you get back together with me. "

At that time, everyone was already asleep and suddenly woke up.

Many girls were lying on the balcony watching the excitement, but my roommate was very embarrassed. He didn't know how to respond, but he insisted on shouting at the bottom.

In desperation, she ran down to stay with him out of guilt that the girls in the whole dormitory could not sleep peacefully.

This is undoubtedly a kidnapping of love. Come back to me with your guilt about the outside world.

This kind of love is paranoid and dangerous.

And those who always want to exchange love through extreme behavior have no ability to love another person at all, so they can only kidnap other people's feelings in the simplest and rudest way.

What should we do in the face of such a crazy person?

Just like Xiao Jia's question in the story, whether compound forgiveness affects him or continues to bear it.

No, this is a brave counterattack.

Whether it is network exposure or seeking legal channels.

If you don't take immediate measures and always give in when the other party infringes on you, it is conniving at the garbage man to hurt you.

They won't like you because of your connivance and concession, but they will think you are weak and bully, which will make the situation worse.

American psychologist David Pollet wrote in his book The Law of Garbage Truck:

I have to admit that the bad guys in the world are real. They can't be restrained by your forbearance, but become more unscrupulous.

Therefore, for these love kidnappers, our education and influence are just a small stone thrown into the sea and can't afford any waves.

Therefore, in the face of such people, I remember a saying: When you meet a garbage man, you either choose to stay away immediately and seek the help of external forces, or choose to fight back conditionally, instead of expecting the other person to find out in good conscience one day.

Only by leaving no room can these love kidnappers really stay away from our world.

Not only Xiao Jia but also the majority of girls should learn to be so decisive.

Because there are many bad guys in this world, more bad guys take love as an excuse to take revenge.

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