How to keep fresh?

How to keep fresh? Freshness is very important in our emotional life, but everyone should have heard the saying, never abandon the people you have been with because of freshness. Let's learn how to keep fresh.

How to keep it fresh 1 1? Keep a single-minded heart when you are not together.

Many couples actually have this misunderstanding. When they are not together, they always think a lot, thinking about what the other party is doing, whether the other party will chat with the opposite sex or not, and then they always hope that their chat with the other party will be full all day. Think about it, what were you doing when you were single? Try to improve yourself, find yourself something to do, watch a play, clean up, care for yourself and cook. Isn't it also very substantial?

Second, create small surprises and improve the sense of ritual in life.

For example, I haven't seen each other for three days, and the other person looks more courageous and attractive than before. Small surprise is not only a surprise for couples' festivals and anniversaries, but also an impressive surprise for you. There is also a sense of ritual in life, saying love and hugging every day. This is not the task of completing the task, but telling yourself that you still love.

Third, the appropriate sense of distance, leaving their own independent space.

Couples certainly don't stick together every day. Even cohabiting couples have their own jobs. They stick together every day and can't do anything, even making a living is a problem. Therefore, it is still necessary to leave room for the other party to improve themselves and improve themselves. Secondly, the desire for control is a disease. If a friend finds himself very controlling, he should restrain himself in time, otherwise it will be very hard for both parties to fall in love.

Fourth, mutual understanding and tolerance, and strive to find their own shortcomings.

Just like the desire for control mentioned above, you should find your own shortcomings in time, instead of blaming each other blindly. Quarrel must not be a one-sided problem. When we quarrel, don't quarrel to force each other to admit their mistakes, but realize that both sides have mistakes and correct them in time. For example, too creative, too sensitive and so on. Are common shortcomings in love.

5. Don't hide the problem and solve the contradiction in time.

Some couples always like to accumulate their emotions to a certain extent and suddenly burst out inexplicably. Then there is a small matter, and neither side can understand each other well. So if you have any grievances or opinions, you must express them in time, and you must find ways to solve similar problems in the future.

Six, love is two-way, both sides have to pay.

Unilaterally paying, the paying party will be very tired, unilaterally accepting, and the accepting party will finally be numb and feel that you pay your mind for granted. Therefore, a healthy way of love must be paid in both aspects. Everyone will cherish each other's efforts and understand that each other's efforts are not taken for granted.

Seven, must be realistic, don't just fall in love with passion.

Many couples like to fantasize about each other's future in the early days of love. In fact, so many fantasies are just fantasies. The most realistic thing is to live a good life with each other every day. The future is to pile them up one by one now. If the present is not good, it is empty talk to talk about the future.

Eight, the sense of security is not given by others, but by yourself.

Many couples think that the sense of security in love is very important, and then ask each other to report their itinerary all the time. But in fact, we gave ourselves a sense of security. In love, we always want each other to be inseparable from ourselves, but we can't really be inseparable from each other. You must have the capital to live well with each other, so that you can have the initiative and feel safe in love.

How to keep the freshness 2 How to keep the freshness of love?

First, the reason why love lacks mystery

In the whole process of love, there are many reasons that make the other party lose its temptation. It can be unilateral reasons, for example, the other side looks down on the other side, thus arousing the dissatisfaction of the other side, or it can be mutual reasons, for example, the world view of the game is different, the temperament is not harmonious, the mentality is not suitable, and so on. It can be due to objectivity, such as the protection of time and indoor space, which makes the emotional flower fade slowly due to lack of irrigation, or it can be due to the state of mind, that is, the freshness of the two worlds has faded.

To put it bluntly, freshness refers to the freshness, freshness and incredible feeling caused by individual differences between men and women (including physiology and psychology). It plays a unique role in the whole process of love, even in the sexual life of married couples, and plays a particularly important psychological factor. The novelty between men and women stimulates the curiosity between the two sexes. Under the pressure of this curiosity, the two agreed to touch each other and explore each other. In the whole process of contact and exploration, if they appreciate each other and are attractive, they will attract good feelings.

Basically, attraction is caused by each other's mystery. According to the deepening grasp, if we find many shiny objects from each other, then feelings will arise. If there is no such novelty between friends of the opposite sex, then the temptation of two people is difficult to cause, and it is not an emotion in essence.

Second, how to maintain emotional mystery

1. When people have to deal with each other all the time, they must tell each other that you look better today than yesterday. We should also learn to use different languages and different sentences to express them. Being with this language for a long time will also lead to boredom. If you want to learn well all the time, you must give each other different incentives, communication and so on.

2. People should understand that love is a 1 long-term whole process, and learn to distribute their love in a balanced way, instead of being desperate at the beginning, it will be as dull as water after a while, although the most intense emotion will eventually return to tranquility, but if we can maintain the enthusiasm of the past, will it be stronger? Therefore, people should slowly learn to love and be infatuated with each other, because that will help us to master ourselves more deeply.

3. People should learn how to produce and create some romance, such as ordering some traditional festivals by themselves due to human factors, such as falling in love 100 days and holding hands for the first time. According to this traditional festival, we can construct 1 different feelings, so that we can have some hope for each other and keep this mystery forever.

4. Everyone can promise something, such as where to travel or play together this summer, and give everyone a plan of 1 overall goal. This general goal is what everyone yearns for and can only be expected. At that time, everyone can have a motivation to support everyone and push them to work hard.

If two people have been together for a long time, they can be separated for a period of time. This separation does not mean that there is no communication, but that they can't meet for several days, which gives them 1 rational time and time to do what they want. In a few days, you will feel good to have her around. If we meet again at this moment, it will push your emotions even more. It can also be gradually removed.

Third, learn to understand each other.

The most important thing is to be affectionate, always care about each other and learn to understand each other. That feeling is often as sweet as the first girlfriend.

How to keep the freshness 3 How to keep the freshness of marriage?

1, don't try to find the right or wrong of marriage problems.

In daily life, many couples facing marriage crisis are complaining to each other, accusing each other of intensifying contradictions, and trying to find out the right and wrong of marriage problems and resolve and make up for them. In fact, in the eyes of psychologists, this search for right and wrong is not only futile, but also magnifies the contradiction of marriage. There is no right or wrong in marriage.

Intimate tip: Many times, it is our impulse or laziness that makes the marriage come to an end. More often, we pay too much attention to the mistakes in marriage, ask too much of each other, and even become harsh in many cases.

2, listen to each other's point of view

Marriage and family therapy psychologist Sharon? Dr. Rifkin said that everyone wants the other person to listen to their own views. But in a troubled marriage, what couples usually lack is to listen to each other effectively. Listening to a few words is most likely to lead to "digression" and husband and wife quarreling.

Suggestion: Listen carefully to each other's opinions when solving problems, and don't interrupt in the middle, which will help both husband and wife reach a consensus. In addition, in daily life, we should listen to each other's ideas and give them understanding and comfort, which will help eliminate the "hidden danger" of quarreling.

3. Establish the concept of spouse first.

There are many things to deal with in the life of husband and wife, but it is important to first consider the legitimate emotional demands of spouses, put each other in the first place, think for each other everywhere, and think for each other, so that all kinds of contradictions in life will calm down, thus maintaining the balance of life situation, avoiding all kinds of contradictions and avoiding emotional breakdown caused by all kinds of contradictions.

4. Don't bind the person you love.

Many female friends think that if you hold a man firmly in your hand, there will be no chance of cheating. In fact, how can you forget the simplest truth? There is bound to be a rebound under heavy pressure. Many girls find that boyfriends are very different before and after falling in love. The most remarkable point is that men begin to dislike themselves and care too much about themselves. When in love, couples always like to be bored together, so men are happy to stare at their girlfriends. But when the heat of love gradually faded, men began to think about how to get their freedom back.

Distance produces beauty, which is not empty talk. A strong bond will only suffocate the man you love.