How to conquer a beautiful and temperamental woman?

I like beautiful women. Beautiful girls always attract my attention from the beginning. With them, I will find life wonderful and interesting.

It's tacky to judge people by their appearances, but I won't. Although I don't like ugly girls, I really respect them, because I know that as a girl, if you are not beautiful, it means that you have to work harder than others to get happiness, and I respect them. ... but only with respect.

And those beautiful girls with attractive appearance, attractive figure and sparkling eyes, I regard them as one of the meanings of my life. After I made it clear that I hope to be an excellent man, I think I should let a beautiful girl stay with me, which I should have.

In other words, it is what a good man should look like.

The first target identification (target identification)

When I was in college, I discussed with many girlfriends how to treat girls. At that time, we were targeting girls below the level of "quasi-beauty" (followed by pretty girls).

At that time, my basis was: super beauty was difficult to start because of too many people and attention, too fierce competition and unpredictable psychology of the object. The "second-class beauty" has not received much attention, and the difficulty and challenge are moderate. After success, it won't regret killing a dinosaur. So when I was in college, my goal was usually this kind of "quasi-beauty".

There are many ways for people to pick up girls, so I won't go into details. I believe that most brothers who went to college have had several successful cases of the goal of "quasi-beauty". In fact, with certain skills and sincere feelings, you can have a pure emotion in college.

After graduating from college, I found a good job because of my good luck and my own efforts. My income is not low (7k/ month, which is very good for a newly graduated student), I travel frequently, meet all kinds of girls, and have many stories.

Many people think that if they have money, they can just look for xj. I don't think so. I don't like decadent gray * *, and I like to pursue girls. Because I think picking up girls is an art, which requires enough psychological endurance, advanced foresight, flexible adaptability and a small amount of talent. Being able to conquer a girl psychologically, sometimes the sense of accomplishment will exceed the physical conquest.

At first, I followed my quasi-beauty rule to pursue some relatively ordinary girls. But I found that at this age (I am 1978), successful men are often very popular with girls. My "quasi-beauty rule" has lost its due value.

I began to try to attack beautiful women, or girls with advantages. In fact, I have always been psychologically prepared, ready to fail 10 times in a row. After all, beautiful women are not so easy to deal with.

Then, after about 1 year. I have seen three beautiful girls. Three wonderful stories happened. I really pursued them, and the first two ended amicably for various reasons (I didn't have sex with any of them, don't worry). Last girl, with me. We got married last week.

I love my wife very much. She is beautiful and gentle, but there is nothing reserved and arrogant about a beautiful girl. So I ended up with her.

I have been thinking these days that beautiful girls are really a very unusual group. They have sex and characteristics, and study beautiful girls thoroughly, which is very interesting.

I tried three beautiful girls. And I learned a lot about the weaknesses and habits of beautiful girls. So I'm trying to sum up something, just like senior three students selling used books. I'm married, and I don't need to deal with beautiful women anymore. Then I hope some brothers can share some of my feelings, which is good for you.

Don't talk so much nonsense.

First, list your own conditions. If there are too many defects, of course not. You'd better meet the following conditions:

1, with a keen sense of smell, can understand each other's delicate feelings.

2. Rich imagination and objective simulation ability. I often need to imagine myself as "what would I think if I were a beautiful girl, what I need, what I like and what I hate". The biggest advantage of this is that you can predict some feelings of the other party, which is of great guiding significance to your next action.

3, not ugly appearance.

4. Be smart.

5. A certain economic foundation. It's beyond our discussion to pick up girls with big money. )

Then, start our steps.

1, looking for the target. Beauty is precious and can't be found casually. So in this respect, chatting on the road or passing notes in the classroom are all ways, but based on the introduction of acquaintances or friends, or some subtle contact or even the introduction of classmates, they are all good ways to find the goal.

Why emphasize the way to find the target? Because, as a beautiful woman, what she experienced was handing her a note in the classroom, and there were too many boys chatting up on the road. It's easy to disappear by following the old rules. It is difficult to achieve results. What's more, the reserved characteristics of beautiful women are inherently repulsive to strange men who strike up a conversation.

So I suggest you get to know each other in a tacky and old-fashioned way, such as friend introduction or classmate relationship, so that you can occupy a good position in the first place. Don't try too hard to get close to the goal. Really not, just find something inextricably linked.

Chapter II Initial Attack

This is a delicate stage. Because the other person is a beautiful woman, she has always been sought after and loved by people. Then if you attack crazily from the beginning, you will become one of many suitors, with no characteristics and will not be taken seriously.

If you do the opposite, pretend to be cool, reserved and high-profile in front of beautiful women. As a woman, everyone wants to be favored by the opposite sex, especially beautiful women. She thinks men should feel good. If you pretend not to like her, she will think, "Why is this person so strange?" "Hum, just like him, still so cool", for people who don't like themselves, beautiful women won't have a good impression on him. (This is different from men. Beautiful women rarely want to conquer, and rarely want to conquer men who are not interested in themselves to prove themselves. )

So I suggest that the initial posture must be low-key and humble. Show her some affection, but don't like her too much.

You can give her a call or send a text message and pay a little attention. But don't overdo it. If you let her know that you have decided to go after her, you will be passive. You just need to let her know that you are interested in her to some extent.

Tell her the message "Well, you are cute and I admire you very much … but … I don't know if I will chase you or if I care".

The initial posture is very important. Once the posture is fixed, it cannot be easily changed in the future.

Beauty is destined to have many suitors, so from the beginning, you should avoid being classified as "another fan" by beauty. You have to be different. This principle will run through all stages of the whole "beauty conquest process".

You can flatter each other with sweet words and tell her that she is the most special girl you have ever met. She has a unique temperament (such as "quiet", "pure" and "concise". Never say "beautiful", "lovely" or "gentle". Remember, you must be different from others. Flattery is what everyone likes to hear. However, after flattery, you should be cold and put on a gesture of "I like it very much, but I haven't decided to chase you". This is a gesture to attract beautiful women. She'll start to think you're special and curious.

The main weapons at this stage are text messages and telephone calls. There is no need for dates and gifts at this time. This is the next stage of heavy weapons.

The third fast approach (rapid approach)

After meeting beautiful girls, there are probably two general mentalities.

1, attracted by her death, regardless of the consequences and the environment, began to chase her fiercely. It is called "brave and firm" and "persistence is victory"

2, intimidated by each other's beauty and reserve, lamenting that he is not a natural tall handsome guy, not a hook-up expert, not a sweet talk, nor a rich man. Ordinary people, so move on.

In fact, these are two extreme attitudes, both of which are inappropriate. The former is too involved in the onslaught, unless you are a super handsome guy, it is likely to make the target have a deterrent effect and retreat first. Because women are not as obsessed with each other's appearance as men, they are more obsessed with something called "taste", and this "taste" (I understand it as a man's style that women can feel) often takes time and contact to feel. In other words, a woman can't fall in love with you in a short time, even if she has enough affection for you. So we don't recommend storming.

Another kind of escape and abandonment is worse. If you don't chase others and treat your goals negatively, the possibility of success is almost zero.

Therefore, we must strive to control our own rhythm and mentality and achieve a balance between offense and defense. In specific behavior, you should often, but not frequently, send text messages and phone calls to the beauty target, let her know that you exist, let her know that you appreciate her and even like her, but you haven't decided to pursue her yet.

This initial attack posture lasts about 25-40 days. Once 25 days have passed, it is necessary to start thinking about the next offensive.

Let's analyze the target again.

Beauty is certainly not there for you to chase. Beautiful women will have a large number of followers around them, all kinds of people, handsome guys, frogs, perverts and, of course, strong competitors. But not bad. Worst of all-she already has a boyfriend.

If this beautiful woman doesn't have a boyfriend, that's good. You can skip the following coping strategies. Continue "fast approaching".

If your partner already has a boyfriend, then I dare say you should spend more time dealing with him. The reason is simple, just like you have to take other people's food out of the refrigerator and put yours in.

If she already has a boyfriend. There are also two situations,

1, her boyfriend is very good, and they are inseparable. You need to do too much work at this time. You need to collect information about your opponent. You should know what his boyfriend is like, what are his weaknesses and strengths, and how he treats his beautiful girlfriend. Find the attack point from it. Of course, success is still far away. When we meet such lovers in love in the city, let's give them our best wishes. As for how to break up, I haven't practiced, so I can't go into details.

But I seldom meet a beautiful boyfriend who can lock his girlfriend firmly. Most beautiful women are possessed by stupid anthomaniac, bohemian handsome guy, rich or powerful people. In this way, we certainly have a chance. So I turned to the following point-if her boyfriend and she are not strong.

She and her boyfriend are not strong, which is when we show our tactics. Most anthomaniac boyfriends are dedicated and obedient to beautiful girlfriends, ignoring the dominant role of men in love. In addition, most beautiful women are eccentric and often regard their boyfriends as band-AIDS or nannies. Although practical, it is difficult to meet your inner needs, that is, it is difficult to have a deep love for your boyfriend. At this time, you need to appear in her life with a strong image.

You need to make her feel that you are interested in her. You don't care that she has a boyfriend (her boyfriend is really inferior), and you have strong confidence to be with her. At this stage, it is likely that she will reject you because she has a boyfriend. Most girls who are good at rp think it is not good to have a boyfriend and then have an affair with other boys. You can't rush or retreat. It's time to test patience and style. You must make her feel that you are different. You are different from her boyfriend. You admire her, but you are not in a hurry to have her. You are observing, waiting and living.

I have always stressed that in love, men must have the advantage and conquer women. Oppose women's bitter pursuit or tragic fate or vulnerability to gain women's sympathy. Of course, there are successful cases of this method, but I don't think the feelings gained through begging and sympathy are a kind of love, a kind of deformed love, unstable, abnormal and discouraged.

Continue our article "Fast Approach", get to know each other's general strength and target characteristics through preliminary contact, and then initially find a breakthrough that can be attacked. For example, a beautiful girl's boyfriend is boring, or a playboy, or doesn't care about her. If this beauty rp is not good enough, we can also find that she may be a playboy, eager for excitement and vanity, and superficial. These are all weaknesses that we can attack.

Then after knowing this beautiful woman for 25-40 days, we began to do some in-depth exploration.

After the above preparation, you should be able to communicate with your goal to some extent. I mean, you can often send text messages or chat with her online and talk about some sensitive, deep-seated and emotional topics. This kind of communication is extremely important, because you can not only understand her needs and ideas, but also present your ideas directly to her.

Same style. You must be special. In front of her or when communicating with her, you must be independent, firm, slightly aggressive, calm and rational, which is only part of it. At the same time, we should be relaxed and humorous, slightly presumptuous and not violate the principle.

Men's "bad" is like a catalyst for chemical reactions. Without catalyst, the reaction will proceed normally, but the speed and intensity are very low. Once there is a bad catalyst, the reaction will be very intense. Of course, we must master the right amount of this catalyst, because no good girl will like that kind of bastard who eats, drinks, gambles, has no quality and is very bad.

They prefer contradictory combinations. Combination of good and bad.

Personally, I like playing games, skipping classes and going out to dance in college. I was crazy and frivolous at that time, but I often read books on philosophy and psychology (occasionally learning computer communication, 5555). Even now, I am still reading Pessimism, The Birth of Tragedy and A General History of the World. On the one hand, it can deepen your thoughts, on the other hand, it is a very attractive taste to mix the taste of this scroll with the smell of hooligans.

What you need to do is to inadvertently reveal your contradictory qualities in your conversation and dialogue with her. You can pretend that you don't care about anything, but when it comes to facts, you should show your piety.

In talking with her, you need to achieve this effect and make her feel that you are so different. You have profound thoughts and opinions, but there are many frivolous and humorous elements in your piety and seriousness. Such a man is very attractive.

Men must have ideas. A man without ideas is as sad as a man without reproductive organs.

Of course, maybe that beautiful woman doesn't know you so well, and she probably doesn't bother to read your mind. And if you need to conquer her from the heart, you must try to make her interested in you and get to know you. I recommend that you be talkative and humorous to provoke her, make her think you are an interesting person, and thus get interested in you.

Once a woman realizes that this man is not as superficial as he looks, her favor will double.

Well, suppose you do well, this beautiful woman has begun to try to get to know you. Our next step is to make her like you.

Women are very vain animals. At the same time, they are eager to be understood and cared for. So don't miss the opportunity to compliment her at any time, of course, we must grasp the scale and discretion, and don't turn into disgusting flattery. I once met a girl who looks like Michelle monique Rice, and everyone praised her for looking like Michelle monique Rice. Such compliments are common. But when I was with her, I said, Vivian Chow was really depressed. This beautiful woman said why. I said that when she saw Michelle monique Rice, she realized that she could only come second. When she saw you, she found that she was not ranked second either. Although this statement is disgusting, it is much better than other people's compliments. ) She smiled at once, but I smiled and said devoutly that I didn't lie. She immediately said, you are so interesting.

Therefore, through clever compliments, it is not difficult to achieve the purpose of increasing goodwill.

Of course, there are more important things. -Try to read your goals and try to find some qualities in her that others haven't talked about. My first beautiful girlfriend has beautiful eyes. Many people say, "Wow, your eyes are really powerful!" "

I didn't say that. When I first met her, I looked at her with evil eyes and said calmly, "You know, your eyelashes are beautiful, and I like to look at them." She was so happy that she said, really? No one has ever said that about me! ..... really? Is it really beautiful?

Therefore, trying to understand beautiful women and finding their less prominent characteristics can often make beautiful women have an "eruption" of affection for you.

Well, you have completed the first step of the "fast approach" stage through short messages, in-depth online chats, subtle compliments and slightly provocative compliments, and sustained and moderate affection for the target.

Your goal already thinks that you are an interesting person, very interesting, unique and different.

Then, you can start to go further. This is a substantial change from "air raid" to "ground warfare".

The first step of transformation is confession.

How to confess?

In my opinion, confession must be made as soon as possible. Many people have to wait until they are completely sure before they confess to girls. If you are an ordinary girl, if you have obvious advantages, it is easy to attract her. When you can see that she has been fascinated by you, you will confess. The success rate is really high.

However, you are not facing an ordinary girl, but a beautiful girl with many suitors. If you still need to wait for an opportunity,

1, before you, it is very likely that someone else will confess successfully, and you will never wait for the right time.

2, causing beauty "Why is this man so timid? Does he like me or not? " "He has no masculinity."

As we all know, decisiveness is another sexy trait of men.

3. miss the best opportunity. Women are often curious about new things. When they have known a man for 25-40 days, if she is interested in you, this is the best time for the relationship to change. At this point, the two sides were neither ignorant at first, nor did they know the root of the matter after several months. It is a very delicate moment for them to be at arm's length. What are you waiting for if you don't confess at this moment?

So after about 40 days of contact, you have a deeper understanding and ambiguous communication. You know she doesn't hate you, and she even appreciates you a little. So, you find an opportunity to tell her bluntly that I like you very much and I need you to be my girlfriend. (confession is artistic, so I won't go into details here. )

I never think that confession is a difficult thing. As a man, it is natural and proud to say I like you to a girl.

Of course, you are waiting for her result. There will be three results.

1, ok, I promise, but ... this answer is the best, at least she has recognized you and is willing to associate with you. Of course, such an introduction is not the biggest.

2. OK ... I don't know/I don't know if I like you/should we know you better? This answer is also very likely. Objectively speaking, this is a very optimistic answer, at least he gave tacit approval to your next move. This is a good sign.

No, we are not suitable/I already have a boyfriend/I don't like you/. The possibility of getting this answer will be very great, because she is a beauty. If the first few steps are not perfect, you will encounter difficulties at this time.

How to solve these difficulties? It's kind of like playing the game of Three Kingdoms. Before you persuade the enemy generals to surrender, you must constantly bribe and provoke. Here, before she promises you, you must constantly increase her affection for you.

At the very least, you should make her not hate you. If she becomes evasive when she sees you, then you can only change your goal and start from the first step again. You must have a legitimate or slightly ambiguous reason to be alone with her. For example, you lied that today is a special day and asked her to eat or drink. At that time, you can say that today is the 53rd day of knowing you, and you are very happy and honored. )

Of course, such an invitation must pay attention to the attitude of the other party. I once chased a mm who hated me very much (at that time, I was slow, timid and not handsome, which was a real fucking failure). She is obviously impatient to be with me, and I am still pursuing it. Later, I went to see her and said that it was two months since we met, so I gave her a gift. She didn't accept it and left a sentence, "Do you know you are bored?" Now my wife is going to joke about this embarrassing thing. )

Well, suppose you have succeeded in asking her out to meet alone from time to time. This is an extremely crucial step, because it provides you with a battlefield and gives you a chance to show off your various tactics and heavy equipment. You know, beautiful women don't give every suitor equal opportunities.

Please cherish every opportunity you have. Every joke you make, every idea that can move her, and some subtle details of you may have an impact on the future war. I don't care what kind of person you are at ordinary times, but when you are with beautiful women, you must show: bold, single-minded, decisive, independent, sensitive and humorous, aggressive and imaginative.