Girls can't ask out, only a small number of text messages to chat. How to develop a relationship?

A real sense of connection will lead you into her life.

The key to the comfortable stage is that after you attract her, you should have a sense of connection with her real life in addition to enticing her to continue to invest. Only when you have a connection with her life can you really get her and won't let her go back on her word afterwards. 

First of all, the basic principles of creating a sense of connection

1, realism: interaction should be sincere and realistic, not pretending to be a good gentleman just to try something. You are not the kind of person who will please a woman only when she sees her beauty. You have your own framework and principles. Be who you really are, not who you are to please women. 

2. Sense of security: If you show your willingness to leave or further develop in a funny way, you will show your sincerity to her, which will generate trust and make her feel safe. Make her feel that you won't pester her and give her any pressure. 

3. Pleasure: Make use of a wide range of topics, a variety of dialogues, and have an interesting and natural dialogue with women, so that she feels that chatting with you is a pleasure. Stay optimistic, no matter what happens, it's no big deal. 

Second, the basic methods to create a sense of connection

1, you can be a part of her life.

Her sense of need for your value. Yes, her life has brought high social value. It's not just a working relationship or a simple meeting. 

2. She can also be a part of your life.

Make her feel needed. She is valuable to you, can make her feel that you need her, and usually stimulates her maternity. Let her be with you so that she can show her value. 

She wants someone who is similar to her in every way.

The most important thing in the comfort stage is to explore all aspects of her in the conversation, and then pretend that you have something in common with her. The more similarities between you, the more similar you two are, and the stronger your connection is. 

4. People her friends also like.

You have to get rid of her friends and obstacles to achieve your goal. Women's vacillation about feelings is easily destroyed by friends. It makes sense that girlfriends are called boyfriend killers. 

5. People who can be brought out.

Your status and position can help her maintain her basic vanity. 

6. People you know and admire

The meaning of this sentence is to let your optimistic and energetic life drive her, let her know about your life, and let her look forward to being integrated into your happy life. 

7. People that the social circle can allow her to join. 

Introduce her to your friends, and you are willing to let her into your social circle. A woman has known you for a long time, but if you don't bring her into your circle of friends, she will think that you don't really love her and you don't want her into your life. So that you can't feel connected. A woman will tell you whether you introduced her to your friends, but will tell you whether you value her. 

Third, the consequences of lack of connection.

If you feel uncomfortable enough, even if you want to make a phone call, you will be stood up afterwards. In real life, you don't feel connected with her, so you are just an occasional funny object in his life.

-Weibo, love expert 520.