What should I do if I find my husband having an affair (after I find my husband chatting with another woman)

In the past, communication was slow, cars and horses were slow, and I only loved one person in my life; Now that the Internet is developed, a mobile phone can connect two people who are thousands of miles apart.

Internet has brought enough convenience to our life, but there are also various social problems. Many families and marriages are red, and the divorce rate is rising every year. Let all the people in the whole society be derailed with anger and disgust, and the incident of catching a mistress is staged every day.

Every woman can't stand her husband chatting with other women. In each of our hearts, love is loyal, unique and inviolable. But what will you do when this happens? Is it humble to please and retain, or to fight?

Colleague Xiaowen said that these two methods are not desirable. Humble flattery will only make him more unscrupulous, because he thinks he will eat you. Making a hullabaloo about can only hurt both sides, unless you are ready for a divorce.

Xiaowen and her husband met in college, and they were both first love. Being together for four years in college and getting married for three years after graduation is also a precious long-distance love run. The married life is also very interesting. She always thought that their relationship was solid and indestructible. From a small county to a big city now, the hardships of their hard work together made her feel that she should cherish each other more.

But suddenly one day, he felt that something was wrong with her husband recently. I can't say exactly what the problem is. It may be a woman's intuition, or it may be that they have been together for a long time and know each other thoroughly, and her husband's subtle changes can be captured by her. Every time I come back from work, I don't tell her in detail, but always smile at my mobile phone. Lying in bed is not like sleeping next to her before, but being pointed at by her and continuing to giggle with her mobile phone.

She concluded that there was something wrong with her husband.

After her husband fell asleep, she took out his mobile phone. Sure enough, she chatted with a female colleague on WeChat and looked at those ambiguous words and expression packs. Xiaowen was so angry that he patted his forehead. He wanted to shake his face twice to wake him up from his dream. But Xiaowen, as calm as she is, told herself not to be impulsive, and tried to finish reading their chat records with anger. Finally, her husband and this female colleague are only having an affair at present. Xiaowen put the phone back to its original position, took a deep breath, calmed down and lay down to sleep.

Get up early the next day, Xiaowen bid farewell to her husband to go to work as usual, and there was nothing unusual in her performance. But when I came back from work at night, Xiaowen was no longer busy cooking, nor did she ask her husband to be caring and attentive. Seeing her husband sitting on the sofa busy playing with his mobile phone, he simply sat on the sofa and chatted with his mobile phone. After a while, her husband finally found her: What, aren't you going to eat today? Xiaowen smiled at him indifferently: When I got off work today, my colleagues said that we would get together and have dinner together. Find yourself something to eat. Now it's her husband's turn to be dumbfounded: Ah, then I have to go hungry today. Xiaowen smiled back and continued to look at the mobile phone.

This situation has been going on for several days. Xiaowen ignored her husband and was only busy looking at her mobile phone. Her husband finally couldn't help it: I found you abnormal recently. I don't hurry to prepare dinner when I come back from work every day, just ignore me. Just look at your mobile phone. What's good in your mobile phone?

Then he grabbed Xiaoli's mobile phone and leafed through it quickly. The expression gradually changed from nervousness to extreme anger, even the veins stood out on his hands and his fingers trembled. He roared and asked Xiaowen, what is this? It turns out that you are so abnormal these days that you are chatting with this man! We have been together for so many years and experienced so much together. I love you very much. How could you do this to me?

Xiaowen didn't reply to him, turned and took out his mobile phone, opened his WeChat, and said airily, what is this? I know how you feel now. When I saw your chat records, I was as angry and sad as you are now! I don't know why you talk to other women. Are you lonely? Am I still here? After being together for a long time, life is too dull. Are you looking for excitement? I always think that our relationship is indestructible and outsiders have no chance to destroy it. But when I saw your naked ambiguity, my heart was bleeding, you know? You are furious when you find me chatting with my male colleagues, but have you ever considered my feelings when you are having an affair with other women? If you really don't love, you can choose to divorce and be together. After all, I don't want to be too embarrassed after so many years of feelings.

At some point, Xiaowen couldn't help sobbing any longer.

Now her husband panicked, and quickly knelt down and hugged Xiaowen: Wife, I'm sorry, I was wrong. I was really wrong. Actually, I have nothing to do with her, just chatting. She is such a character. I talked to her just for fun. She talks like this to most of our male colleagues. It's not easy for us to go through so many years. In my heart, you are irreplaceable. I never wanted to divorce you. Sorry, chatting with her is just for fun. I'll delete her now.

Then I really deleted Xiaoli in front of her.

It turned out that after Xiaowen found her husband's chat record, she found a female classmate the next day and asked her to change WeChat to a man and chat with her husband for acting.

Xiaowen said he did it because he didn't really cheat. The second is to test the husband. If he sees it and asks me angrily, it means that he still cares about me and our feelings are still there. If he doesn't love me anymore and really has feelings for that woman, he will ask for a divorce conveniently, and then I will agree to a peaceful divorce. Because if he really looks like that love rat, he is not worthy of my love, and I don't want to waste any time on love rat. Such people leave early and get rid of it early!

After this incident, Xiaowen's husband has never made such a mistake again, and all female friends are only within the scope of work. This year, they also added a lovely baby, which can be said that life is happier and warmer.

Xiaowen said that this is called dealing with a man as he deals with you. She pulled her husband back from his mistake in such a quiet way and won a perfect ending, which is actually based on the deep feelings between them.

Do you think Xiaowen's practice deserves praise?