My ex keeps sending me messages, should I reply to him?

After a breakup, how to maintain a relationship with your ex has become a problem that troubles many people.

Some break up very thoroughly, turn against each other, and never interact with each other until death. Maybe we will never see each other again in this life, so in this case, let alone your ex sending messages, because your ex can’t even get messages from you, so where can you send messages? In this case, there is absolutely no need to worry about contact with your ex.

Some people break up and get separated. One moment he is decisive, the next moment he is dragging his feet, and the contact cannot be broken. In this case, if your ex sends a message, the interaction may be normal. So, there is no such concern.

This third type of breakup is neither a breakup nor a breakup, but somewhere in between. Say it is breakup, but still miss the other person, or say it is a breakup, but remain on guard and no longer contact each other. . In this case, the reality of the breakup is accepted, but the old feelings are still missed with a trace of reluctance. In other words, there is still nostalgia occasionally. Therefore, if your ex suddenly sends a message under this mentality, it will become a problem for the other party. connect? Still no contact?

If you contact me, I am worried that the old relationship will rekindle and affect your current relationship. No contact, but it seems that I want to contact you in my heart. So, very contradictory and entangled. If under this situation, your ex keeps sending you messages, whether you should reply depends on several aspects:

1. What messages does the other party send? Is it daily greetings, casual chat with friends, or some emotionally ambiguous topics? Make the next judgment based on the content of his information.

2. Determine the purpose of his message? Do you think he is just chatting and nostalgic? Or do you want to restore the relationship? Or do you want to maintain an ambiguous relationship? Only after you understand his purpose can you make a decision whether to reply or not.

3. See how well you accept his message. Are you disgusted with him sending messages, or do you want to get his messages? In addition, you should consider whether it will affect your current feelings. If none of these are a problem, you can reply. If there is a problem with any aspect, then don't reply.

So if your ex always sends you messages, after considering the above three points, you will have your own judgment and choice, and you will know whether to reply to his messages. However, remember one thing, after all, they are exes, which means that there were insurmountable obstacles when we were together. So now when we are in contact, we need to consider whether this obstacle is still there? Don't stumble on the same problem twice.

(Let love return to your side, and let happiness return to your family. You can ask about any marital crisis or emotional problems, and I will help you deal with them)