"I'm sorry, let's break up" "It's okay, okay, I'll just cancel the wedding next week" What would you do?

01

Marriage, whether sweet or sour, is a process that must be experienced in life. This is the normal state in the eyes of the world. All persistence that does not conform to normal development will be It can be said to be an alien.

So, since she turned 27, being urged to get married by her parents, relatives and friends has become the norm in Lin Jia's life, and not getting married has become her biggest fault.

They all tried their best to teach her that marriage was the most important thing in life. Her mother called every now and then, not asking about her life or work. The only question she was worried about was whether she would get married. Find a boyfriend.

Her parents are traditional people. Ever since she graduated from college, they have been urging her to go on a blind date and find a partner. They spared no effort to ask relatives around them to introduce her, which made Lin Jia always think that she could not get married. .

Her mother has her own explanation for this: "If you don't look for it at this age, by the time you want to look for it, all the good ones around you will have been picked out."

It's a pity. Unfortunately, her parents' positivity did not rub off on Lin Jia, and she did not want to get married so soon. At that time, she had just graduated from college and focused all her life on work. She once believed that job stability was the most important thing in life.

So, she would recommend all the blind dates if she could. If she really couldn't recommend them, she would go and meet them reluctantly. After she came back, there would be nothing more to say.

She doesn’t like blind dates. This kind of meeting with a strong purpose, the seemingly chatty language has hidden whirlpools everywhere, and those temptations and speculations are enough to make her collapse. She said: "It's better to find someone you like. You should be in love with each other and be happy."

Who among the young girls doesn't have this idea? Don’t give in to marriage, don’t be humble to love, and don’t compromise in life. Therefore, at that time, Lin Jia felt like a warrior, and she was always arguing with her parents. They asked her to go on a blind date, but she could just tell a lot of truths.

She said that her parents’ ideas were too old-fashioned. Today’s young people, whether male or female, are all unmarried at the age of 30. Her father’s face sank: “You can’t do this.”

The mother's attitude was even firmer: "Daughter, if you are really like this, then your mother will not be able to feel at ease when she leaves."

She knew it was a threat, so she didn't take it to heart. Lin Jia is actually a bit duplicitous. Although she says that work is more important, she still looks forward to a relationship that can satisfy her girlish feelings.

02

Girls’ feelings are mostly poetic, but life is always a torment of all kinds of tastes.

When Lin Jia was 25 years old, she fell in love once. The boy was her senior in high school, and that was her first love. Lin Jia had put in a lot of effort and was naturally rushing to get married.

Just like the sand that is held too tightly will drain away faster, Lin Jiaba took this relationship too seriously and wanted to go to the end so much that he lost himself. A year later he broke up, saying he felt the pressure.

No matter how old a girl is when she starts dating, she will never learn to mature. Lin Jia, who only started dating at the age of 25, has made all the mistakes that a 17-year-old girl will make in love. Do it once, and end up in disgrace.

Sometimes, she would imagine one thing: If she had been in love early and didn't make these mistakes now, would the relationship between the two of them be able to go to the end?

However, there are no assumptions in the world, so she doesn’t know the outcome.

After the breakup, Lin Jia couldn't get out for a long time. On the other hand, he was extraordinarily chic. They started going on a blind date two months later and got married half a year later. A new chapter in his life had begun.

Since then, Lin Jia has never been in love again, and she has not been in love since she came out.

Because she had not met the right person, her mother was more anxious than him: "How can you meet the right person if you don't even know him?"

Lin Jia looked through her address book. , Regarding this, my mother is right. Almost all of her regular friends are girls, and there is not even a trace of a boy. Where can she find a boyfriend?

Lin Jia was still focused on her work. The first time she felt pressure was when her best friend got married. Lin Jia's best friend is a typical good-natured girl. She never fell in love when she was in school, but she started dating after graduation. She was still obedient, and her parents asked her to go on a blind date, so she went.

Lin Jia did not expect that her best friend would actually meet true love on a blind date. Overall, the boy had very good conditions, whether it was height, appearance, work or family. When the two invited Lin Jia to dinner, she could clearly feel the boy's doting on his best friend, and the two were very sweet.

After dating for more than half a year, the two got married, and Lin Jia was the bridesmaid. To be honest, she was a little envious and began to face up to the feasibility of dating.

03

Lin Jia’s luck was not as good as that of her best friend. She was running around on the blind date and met all the people she didn’t agree with. Blind date is a two-way choice, so she will eliminate others, and others will eliminate her, and her age will reach 29 in a flash.

The parents at home were already extremely anxious and thought she was being too picky, so they asked her to relax her requirements and that would be enough. In the past two years, Lin Jia has been running from wedding to wedding, and all her friends are almost married. Whenever she feels envious, she also begins to wonder: Where did they find their boyfriends? Why can't I find it?

Under pressure from many aspects, Lin Jia continued the blind date. At this time, she felt quite resigned to her fate. The older she gets, the less she views love. While she says it doesn't matter whether she gets married or not, she is extremely worried about what if she really can't find it.

It was in this state that Lin Jia met her fiancé, a man who was nearly two years older than her at the time. He was introduced by a relative at home and had a garage. It feels like I’ve seen each other again many times, but I still don’t feel the same.

My parents were extremely happy and said that this person was a good person. My married friends heard about the other person’s conditions and thought it was okay and asked her to try to get along with her more. Lin Jia sighed: "I used to say I had a boyfriend, and my friends would always ask me if I liked it and how he was, but now everyone just helps me analyze the other person's financial situation."

Both parties are asking me if I like him or not and how he is. There was no clear rejection, and the relationship between the two continued according to the blind date process. The next step was to get engaged, very soon. On the day of the engagement, neither of them spoke and didn't know what to say. In fact, most of the time they were together, they had nothing to say.

The only thing they have in common is that they are both forced to get married by their families because of their age. Lin Jia's parents were very happy, saying that their mission was completed and they would be able to retire in peace in the future.

But Lin Jia was unhappy. She couldn't express how she felt, and she felt very peaceful inside. And this calmness gradually turned into panic as the wedding day approached.

Finally, a week before the divorce, Lin Jia sent a message to him who had not contacted him for nearly half a month: "I'm sorry, let's break up." Unexpectedly, he didn't ask why. The answer was simple: "Okay, it's okay, I'll just cancel next week's wedding."

04

If you think it is terrible not to get married at your age That's the scarier thing you haven't seen. For example, you marry someone you don't love at all.

Lin Jia was awakened by a high school classmate. That classmate, like her, was urged to get married by her family. She married a man who her family thought was suitable. How will she live after getting married? How about that?

Life is pretty good. In marriage, the life of daily necessities is actually not that terrible. The terrible thing is that the two of them have no love at all. Just the thought of getting along with each other is a kind of torture.

Her high school classmate said that she wanted a divorce because she felt like vomiting when she saw him.

Lin Jia asked: "Did you feel this way about him from the beginning?" Her classmate said: "Not at first, but then as time went by, the more I looked at him, the more disgusting he became. Now I don't even want to look at him."

In such a marriage, it feels like everything is meaningless. Love is really an important factor in marriage. We can tolerate and compromise because of love. If we don't love, we will complain about the smallest thing, and the two of us will drift further and further apart.

After Lin Jia broke off the engagement, he breathed a sigh of relief. It was obvious that he didn't like her either. If she married such a person, she could already imagine how much suffering she would suffer after the marriage.

Now, after Lin Jia figured this out, he adjusted for a while and began to take the initiative to get to know people, and his personality became much more cheerful. She said that she had already met someone and she couldn't say she liked him very much, but she felt good about him and was getting to know him better.

Someone asked her: "Why did you find your target so quickly now?"

She said: "It was only after I started taking the initiative that I discovered that there are actually many single people, including many boys. It’s good to get to know more, it’s too passive to just wait for others to introduce you.”

I hope everyone on the road to dating can persevere and gain the love you want.