Love Raiders: How to Turn Ambiguity into True Love

Did such a person inadvertently approach and catch you?

Since then, there has been a unique floating aura between you and him. You can feel it, but you can't catch it

It seems to be a cubic meter of space that belongs to you two. This is an ambiguous little world.

Ambiguous, what is it like? Is the feather scratching the sole of the foot, the breeze blowing through the earlobe, and the apex of the heart suddenly vibrates? Inexplicable happiness.

Maybe they both hesitated, but they couldn't help but throb forward.

Maybe he seduced you, always giving you a feeling of "try harder and get closer, and we may".

It may even be like the word "ambiguous" in the composition: the day before the end of love, lay a small bed of friendship first. If you can reach love, then you can roll up the sheets forever in the future.

"Did you sleep?

You make me feel different.

I'm afraid I can't live without you.

Will you love me one day?

Don't be so nice to me.

We are different from other friends. "

Will these words flow in your chat record with him? There is a time every day when you let it watch it alone. If you can't wait, you will feel lost.

But you can't ask, because your friendship is more than that, and your lover is not full.

You know each other well and talk about everything, but you are vague and ambiguous. Even you know you're not the only one he has an affair with. In the restless linear era, there are many temptations and everyone has too many choices.

But you might think that's not enough. Ambiguity is like boiling a frog in warm water. At first, you were comfortable in the sauna, but later you found yourself weak and unable to jump out.

At first, you were not satisfied with these meaningful but vague expressions. You no longer just thought, "Does he love me or not?" You are afraid to continue sprinting like this, getting better and better, getting more and more tempted, only to find that the finish line is not a red line, but nothing.

Rainie Yang sang in Ambiguity: Ambiguity makes people feel wronged and there is no evidence of love.

Do you have to wait passively if you want to monopolize this person?

Like an old concubine, waiting for a "xianggong" who doesn't know when he can come to your room?

Don't!

Don't believe what happens naturally. I've only heard of a way out. Don't think that feelings will deepen over time. Love is the product of crack and passion.

You keep yourself so sexy and beautiful, instead of wasting it waiting indefinitely.

Ambiguity is love without results, while love is ambiguity with results.

Follow Chic, love boldly, indulge in love, and teach you how to break through the fog and turn ambiguity into true love.

Step one: Want him to be your only man? Do you know him?

Why didn't he confess? You are struggling: "Are you not good enough? I have a beautiful curve, don't I? He doesn't like it? Then why did you greet the evening paper early and warm me up from time to time? "

You think hard but there is no result, so you might as well take your eyes off yourself, peel off the layers of coats you are thinking about, and re-observe him from a rational point of view with a critical eye.

Is he such a person?

He is personable and witty, as if he can master your every emotional rhythm, and easily let your little heart go up and down, just like sitting on a sailboat that doesn't know where to go.

He is always so warm and warm, but when you feel close, he disappears in an instant. The so-called "a hundred flowers blossom, not a leaf touches the body."

His enthusiasm is a disguise of inner indifference, because he loves himself too much, so he loves others a little. In the sea of vanity and loneliness, he will not stop the ebb and flow without landing for a day.

Or maybe he is such a person:

A little shy and wooden, inarticulate, introverted. He is always testing you, and he will be hot and cold. Sometimes you feel that you have entered his heart, and sometimes you feel that you are 100,000 light years away from him.

Are his parents divorced? Has he ever been betrayed in love? Because of these injuries, he felt inferior. On the one hand, he is afraid to make a commitment, because there is no painful end without a beginning. On the other hand, he is also afraid of being rejected, because giving up his active consent will make him fall into the fear and pain of "possible rejection".

Life is more like this person:

They don't go to dance school too frivolously, and they don't live alone cautiously.

They are well-off, not ugly, well-dressed and even tasteful.

They seem to have a good relationship with all the girls. They have been in love and may be single now, but he can always find the right target if he wants to start a relationship.

They may have their own strengths, some are knowledgeable, some are humorous and some are considerate. Some people are generous. But they are all warm. They may be your classmates, neighbors and colleagues. As long as you don't refuse, they will come to you as friends. All kinds of cordial greetings to you will encourage you when you are down. At every important time, such as the exam, he will send you a message: "Come on!" " "SMS and lovely smile.

Over time, you were bewitched, and his warmth made you dig a hole for yourself, and then you got deeper and deeper.

There is a commitment model theory of intimate relationship, which points out that people who have more objects to choose from have less commitment to a relationship, because the bondage of a relationship means losing more choices.

He is just a bear wandering in the cornfield, not sure if you are the biggest one.

Step two: He has a routine and you have a knack.

What can make people take the initiative to walk out of the ambiguous comfort zone and actively establish intimate relationships with corresponding responsibilities? Simply put: meet the demand. Not lonely, bound, recognized, positioned, loved and loved. Only when these needs are met, will he willingly abandon the fun in the game process, the freshness of uncertainty and the infinite possibilities in the future, and enter a one-on-one and clear relationship.

Trick 1: Adjust his self-esteem.

When you treat a narcissist, you will look up to him like Zhang Ailing and "fall into the dust", and he will naturally stand at the top like a god. For people with low self-esteem, you are as bright as a princess, and he will even leave in shame. If you want to turn your ambiguous object into a real boyfriend, you must pull him to the same height as you.

Arouse the jealousy, anxiety and uneasiness of narcissists. This is an emotional game. When you begin to make up your mind to bring this restless boat into your harbor, you must resolutely put an end to all traces of his "friends". Do everything possible to release the signal:

I don't want to be your friend, I just want to sleep with you. If not, please be consistent with others automatically.

Be patient and don't reply to messages within a few seconds, but when he teases you, he will find you happy.

If he doesn't call you, do something else. Simply put, you can like it, but it's not impossible without him. Once you lose your mind, it's like sending a general in chess, a marionette in tango, losing the fun of the game and the aesthetic feeling of testing each other.

It can also be proved. Treat him with an inferiority complex. You should create the most secure image and make him feel that you are stable and unique at all times.

Trick 2: Stir the emotional state and create a sense of attachment to each other.

Everyone has an emotional switch that allows him to break the mask instantly. Maybe it's a word from you, or a small gift. These switches are often hidden in the past, and when you trigger them, they will arouse strong empathy and emotional resonance between you.

So, don't give up every opportunity to resonate with your emotions. For example, when you go to the movies together, you go to a noisy cinema and then go back to your home to find your mother. Or go to one party's home, and two people will be happy, excited, sad and even cry together with the ups and downs of the plot.

Maybe at a certain moment, no one can tell what the reason is, and he will have a good impression on you in an instant, and it will never be recovered.

Trick 3: do something happy with your lover, don't ask if it's robbery or fate.

There is a word called "sexual tension". If you have a deep feeling, you will naturally do it, and then consider where this relationship will go after you finish it. Sometimes it is also a reference aspect.

As long as you are willing, both sides have an impulse to "blend soul and flesh" in the right environment, time, place and atmosphere, so what happened is also right.

When two people meet naked in the most primitive way, many conflicts may be highlighted, but perhaps more harmony will be discovered by you.

Of course, bedding is very important.

Step 3: The master of ambiguity becomes love guru.

1, always remember that you grew up for yourself:

There is a passage in Xiao Yu by Roland: If you want someone to love you, the best psychological preparation is not to let yourself love him. You should be strong and independent, ask for more happiness, make yourself the focus of life, have sustenance, have goals and have a bright future ... In short, let yourself have enough sources to make yourself happy, and then be ready to accept or not accept each other's love.

You should: keep fit, read more books and watch less Korean dramas. Keep constant attention to new things, keep yourself, be gentle and keen, broad and lovely.

2, cultivate into a love fairy:

Concentrated and devoted eyes: concentration is to strengthen the atmosphere of two people. No matter in a sea of people or in a world of two people, you can send out a magnetic field quickly and keep the other person firmly in a "conversation between only the two of you" without interference from external things.

Watch him for ten seconds. According to scientific research, even strangers will fall in love after looking at each other for dozens of seconds.

Don't worry, gentle tone: keep your eight-year-old niece's tone and voice.

Smile: the arc should be big and not disfigured. It is best to smile without leaving a sound.

Try the freshly washed hair again. It is slightly moist and smells like shampoo.

When you watch a movie, you pretend to whisper, but in fact, you are flirting with your ears. If you have it, it's like moaning.

After pretending to stare fiercely, when I turned around again, I turned my head and smiled coquetry.

When a person's blood is boiling, his passion will follow. Let every little charm become a small moment that hits his heart, just like the song of the witch in classical mythology, shining in his heart.

3. Create an atmosphere and opportunities for each other to express their feelings;

There are many skills and precautions, such as asking one of your male friends to call him, pretending to be your suitor, and asking him if he doesn't like you. If not, please make way.

For example, ask him at an appropriate time: "What kind of woman do you like?" No matter what type he says (except you), you can say, "It seems a little different from me." At this time, if he wants to break through the ambiguous relationship like you, he will definitely ask: "What kind of man do you like?" You! '

Or send him a message saying, "I have something very important to tell you." "What words?" "Forget it, I'm so nervous about telling a man for the first time." "Let's be together."

Remember, ambiguity is not one person's shuddering, but two people's tossing and turning. The real master of ambiguity will take his time, make the other person deeply attached and finally give him a knowing blow.

Ambiguity is like fighting with a dragon, and it becomes a dragon itself. Look into the abyss, and the abyss is looking back at you.

From ambiguity to love, it helps to understand each other and yourself. Who we are, what kind of thinking patterns we have, which attract us most and which will trigger our strong emotions. When we devote ourselves wholeheartedly and observe carefully, we can understand who we are and what we really want.

Why are you so worried, brave enough to love? Dare to seduce. Anyway, I haven't got it yet, and that's the worst that can happen. Even if it doesn't succeed, regret doesn't mean it's not good. Regret is just regret. Like all joys, surprises and fears, it constitutes a fragment of life.

May you get what you want, stay away from what you don't want, and have the wisdom to distinguish.

(On the fourth day, the 365 Challenge Camp without Ring punched in)