The most effective way to save marriage

First, treat it calmly. When your marriage has problems, the first thing to do is to turn off this message. Don't talk about you everywhere, and don't find someone to complain about. Learn to give each other time to think. Look at each other's marriage. Second, admit the wrong behavior. The person you once fell in love with must have many advantages that you don't want to leave, but why did he make mistakes and what was his motivation? Try to understand why he made such a mistake, and whether there are your own factors in it. If you understand it, you will know the problem and it will be easy to start solving it. Third, learn to forgive each other. After the broken heart begins to recover, if you want to take another step, you must adjust your mentality and readjust your relationship. You can stay angry properly in the short term, but let the other person know that you will not leave. Fourth, comprehensively improve each other. Let the other person develop intellectually, physically and mentally, make more friends, read more books and exercise more at ordinary times, and keep the other person busy. While promoting each other comprehensively, we must firmly believe that time must be the best healing medicine. Fifth, learn to be coquettish. A coquettish woman does have the best life, but the luck of a coquettish woman will never be too bad. After all, men like the gentle side of women. So, when your husband wants a divorce and you want it back, give him a coquetry at the right time and let him see your cuteness. Sixth, learn to understand each other. In many marriages, when two people encounter problems, they are always self-righteous, ignorant, inconsiderate and unable to communicate. This is a bad thing. Your contradictions are accumulating, and the problems are not solved, but more and more. When contradictions accumulate to a point, your relationship collapses. So learn to understand each other. The most effective way to save marriage II. When there are problems in marriage, the most common way for women to prevent them is not to solve the current problems, but to accuse men of being wrong. I think you should be familiar with these words: 1. What did you say when I married you? What about now? 2. How have I done these years? What about you? How is your family? Now you do this to me? 3. Look at you now. Is there anything good for me? I am really blind to marry you. Maybe you don't remember these words, but men will always remember them. As we all know, sometimes he will say some cruel words when he loses his mind, but people who listen to cruel words will always remember the harm of language, so he will change from a person who once cared for you in every way to a person who quarrels or even has a cold war when he disagrees with you. The truth that your marriage has gone bad is not that you don't love, but that you don't have the strength to continue to love. Marriage problems are mostly not a matter of principle, just like the collapse of a thousand-mile levee, which is often not caused by cutting off a large piece. The smaller the daily contradiction, the more explosive it is. Those emotions that cannot be understood by the other party are the problems you need to face most. If you are extremely disappointed or even desperate about your marriage, it doesn't matter. There are a group of tutors who are committed to saving students' marriages. After reading this article, I believe your marriage will be saved soon. Of course, if you are in a special situation, you can also click Add Teacher Friends for one-on-one consultation. I have been exposed to problematic marriages, and the most common problems are as follows. Can you plug it into your relationship and see if it's like this? As we all know, it is very appropriate to win the truth and lose feelings in marriage. In language, most men are weaker than women, so we will find that in many quarrels, women are better than men. Later, every time a woman encounters a contradiction, she will give full play to her natural language advantage, while a man simply says nothing. In the marriage of two people, if one party loses his voice, the problem will become more and more serious. However, not distinguishing between right and wrong and winning and losing can't make you avoid quarreling, but you should know that quarreling is emotional in nature and the purpose of quarreling is to solve problems. So he quarreled with you, which shows that he has the mind to solve the problem, not the hopeless marriage. There is no denying that men prefer to talk to their friends rather than their wives, which is sometimes the case. It is difficult for men and women to understand each other. But that doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Marriage is not a suffocating romance between two people. Sometimes we have to allow "third parties" such as friends and games to exist temporarily. And you shouldn't be the one who chased him and called him home. In marriage, in fact, we women are the home, for the simple reason that women's emotions determine the atmosphere of the family. So don't ask a man too much to be honest with you 100% and allow him to have secrets. This is one of the necessary skills for a happy marriage. If in marriage, because of your high possessiveness, you make the other person feel more and more difficult to get along with you and more and more disgusted with your family, but you don't know what he is thinking. In marriage, two people influence each other, but you don't force each other to achieve such influence. For example, you like to be clean and tidy, while he likes a slightly messy room. If you say repeatedly every day that he doesn't like cleanliness and doesn't know how to jewelry, the result is that you will pack up your resentment and he will be angry with you inexplicably. This kind of getting along is called persecution and demand, and his inner resistance to you will gradually extend from a small matter to other aspects. A wife with high emotional intelligence will know how to guide. She knows how to talk and let men take the initiative to do things according to her preferences. I think after reading what I said, you should know something about these marriage problems. As long as you can realize the problem, I can help you recover. The biggest fear is that it is difficult to accept students with problems, because they can't make ends meet. If you can realize your emotional deficiency and need to correct it, please click Add Teacher Friend. We will have one-on-one voice contact, tell me your troubles, and I will tell you the ideal method of a man's mind and teach you how to prescribe the right medicine. If you always think that divorce is his problem, don't add it, and leave the limited time of the teacher to the sisters with higher recovery rate. Don't keep a low profile when saving money. Many people think that when there is a major crisis in marriage, such as when the other party wants to separate or even ask for a divorce, they should accommodate everything, please their husbands from time to time, or beg the other party not to leave themselves. In fact, these are all wrong practices in the recovery process. For example, while you are trying to retain your husband through these channels, have you found that your husband has not changed his mind, but has strengthened his determination to divorce? Why? Because human nature is like this, especially men, they don't cherish what is readily available, let alone what is of low value. But ingratitude doesn't mean you have to go against him in everything. All you can do is identify with the other person's emotions and make him feel that you can understand him. For example, he said, "Let's be apart for a while or we can get a divorce." You can answer, "well, let's give each other a period of time to calm down." When I deal with the children, I promise you will seriously consider the divorce. After all, the child is still young. " Don't oppose his ideas at this time, and don't strongly express your intense emotions. When you are relatively calm, answer according to his meaning and agree with him, then this will prompt the other person to reflect. Although it can't directly make him want to get back together with you, it can at least reduce the contradictions in your relationship, make him less wary of you and ease your relationship. Many times, in the process of getting along with our lover, we often ignore our own problems, but since our husband has begun to be cold to you, or has filed for divorce, it means that you really broke his heart. If you choose to save this family, this relationship, this man, then what you need is to reshape yourself to achieve a second attraction. The purpose of secondary attraction is to make the other person attracted to you again and let you take the initiative through change. And a woman who can achieve the second attraction must be attractive, both internally and externally. External and internal changes. For example, as long as you find out the reason why the other person will be cold to you and make unremitting changes, the other person will definitely feel your sincerity and will not leave you. When you increase your attraction, even if you experience a lot of unhappiness, it is hard for him not to like you. So when you start to change, you must seize the right contact medium and increase your contact intentionally or unintentionally. In this process, it is very important to establish a new communication mode. It should be noted that in the process of communication, you should control your sense of need and don't talk about your feelings, so as to avoid the other party's aversion to you. Maintaining effective communication is the best way to ensure a long marriage. Effective communication methods: why should we establish a new communication model? Because before the marriage crisis, there was a big problem in your communication. And countless recovered cases tell us that only a comfortable communication atmosphere is conducive to the healthy development of the relationship between husband and wife.