I was so anxious that my boyfriend dumped me.

Dialogue between Socrates and the lovelorn

Sue (Socrates): Son, why are you sad?

Lost (lovelorn): I am lovelorn.

Sue: Oh, that's normal. If there is no sadness in lovelorn love, love will probably have no taste. But, young man, how do I find that you are more devoted to lovelorn than to love?

Loss: I lost my grapes. This regret, this loss, you are not a person, how can you know the bitterness?

Sue: If you lose it, you lose it. Why don't you keep walking? There are many delicious grapes.

Loss: Wait until the seas run dry and the rocks crumble, until she changes her mind and walks towards me.

Sue: But this day may never come. You will eventually watch her leave with another person.

Lost: then I'll commit suicide to show my sincerity.

Sue: But if so, you will lose not only your lover, but also yourself, and you will lose both.

Miss: How about stepping on her foot? What I can't get, no one else can get.

Sue: But it will only make you farther away from her, and you originally wanted to be closer to her.

What do you think I should do? I really love her.

Sue: Really?

Lost: Yes.

Sue: Then of course you want the person you love to be happy?

Loss: That's natural.

Sue: What if she thinks leaving you is a kind of happiness?

Lost: no! She once told me that she is happy only when she is with me!

Sue: I used to, but she doesn't think so now.

Lost: That is to say, she has been lying to me?

Sue: No, she has always been loyal to you. When she loves you, she is with you. Now she doesn't love you. She's gone. There is nothing more loyal in the world. If she no longer loves you, but still pretends to have a good impression on you, or even marries you and has children, that is the real deception.

Lost: But isn't my affection for her wasted? Who will make it up to me?

Sue: No, your feelings have never been wasted. There is no problem of compensation at all, because you give your feelings and she gives them, and you give her happiness and she gives you happiness.

Lost: However, she doesn't love me now, but I am still in love with her. How unfair!

Sue: It's really unfair. I mean, you're unfair to the people you love. Originally, it was your right to love her, and it was her right to love you or not. If you exercise your rights yourself, you want to deprive others of the freedom to exercise their rights. How unfair this is!

Lost: But you can see clearly that what I am suffering now is not her, but I am suffering for her.

Sue: Suffering for her? She may be fine, but you are suffering for yourself. Obviously for yourself, but still under the banner of others. Young man, you can't lose your virtue.

Lost: So you say it's all my fault?

Sue: Yes, you made a mistake from the beginning. If you can bring her happiness, she won't leave your life. You know, no one can escape happiness.

Lost: But she won't even give me a chance. Do you feel hateful?

Sue: Of course. Fortunately, you have got rid of this hateful person now. You should be happy, son.

Lost: happy? You don't say! Anyway, I was abandoned and always made people feel inferior.

Sue: No, young people can only have pride, not inferiority. Remember, being abandoned is not bad.

Lost: How can I say this?

Sue: Once, I took a fancy to a noble suit in the shop and couldn't put it down. The clerk asked me if I wanted it. Guess what I said, I said the texture is too poor, no! Actually, I have no money in my pocket. Young man, maybe you are this abandoned suit.

Lost: You are really comforting, but it's a pity that you still can't lead me out of the pain of lovelorn.

Sue: Yes, I'm sorry I don't have the ability. However, I can recommend you a capable friend.

Lost: Who?

Sue: Time, time is man's greatest teacher. I have seen countless people tortured to death by lovelorn love. It's time to help them heal their mental trauma and re-choose their dream lover. Finally, they all shared the happiness of mankind.

Lost: I really hope this day, but where should I start my first step?

Sue: Thank the person who abandoned you and bless her.

Lost: Why?

Sue: Because she gave you loyalty and gave you a new chance to find happiness.

Specific drugs:

Psychological flood discharge

Don't let sadness, frustration and anger accumulate and devour your body and mind. Cry if you want; If you want to scream, find a place where no one is there and scream hard; If you want to talk, talk to your bosom friend. But when venting, you must pay attention to the object, and don't look for someone to be a unlucky ghost at will, lose your temper with him and hurt the innocent.

Pretend you don't care.

Although it is impossible to really care, if you say so in action, it will affect your heart; Positive self-suggestion is very important at this time. Think like this: "He doesn't care, why should I care?" Or "the best way to deal with ungrateful people is to live well." These ideas can help us get rid of the whirlpool of bad emotions.

Track down

Filter everything he gives you. Good things can be kept, which will remind you of the past and throw them away, so as not to make yourself sad and angry. Don't go where you used to go, lest you get hurt and feel depressed.

Is he that good?

Take out a pen and paper and list his advantages and disadvantages respectively: if his disadvantages outweigh his advantages, then why should you care about him? If you love your feelings, forget it! Leave yourself alone. If his advantages and disadvantages are equal, then don't worry, you will meet someone who attracts you more than him. If he has only advantages and no disadvantages (or few disadvantages), then you should circle one below: (1) He is perfect. (Is it possible? You are blind. Either you don't really know him, or you love an illusory ideal image (created by yourself or forged by him). Such feelings are unreal, unstable and can't be maintained. It is good to break up early!

Being busy is also a relief.

Participate in activities, get together with others, talk about interesting topics, get together, go out, watch performances, play ball and other dynamic activities in which many people participate. You should open your heart, try to join other people's conversations, explore humorous and interesting topics, and laugh with everyone, and your mood will become cheerful.

Find the lost friendship.

Communicate with classmates and old friends more, and unconsciously enter the small world of two people. And those who "value their friends and live their lives" don't care about their friends at all, and now they are "single". Why not take this opportunity to "confess" to your old friends? Who knows you like an old friend, does not blame you, does not tolerate you and does not cherish you? With them, you don't have to hide it. Comfort and complacency help to restore your true colors.

Love yourself

Love yourself, love yourself, love yourself: give yourself space and time, and don't be too hard on yourself. Rome was not built in a day, and it is not easy to forget a special experience. Give yourself more time, just take the opportunity to cherish yourself.

Conditioning drugs:

Don't be a storyteller.

The past should be buried peacefully. Accept and recognize this fact. Put away your eyes and turn around and look forward. The cleaner you can throw away the past, the more likely you are to be happy in the future.

Don't deny yourself

If our communication style is inappropriate and our mentality is immature and independent, we should adjust ourselves appropriately. Improve your communication skills, understand your own needs, accept yourself as you are, and then enhance your self-confidence. These are all subjects that can be studied. And the process of this effort is also growth. Jade is uncut, abrasive, in the plight of lovelorn, learn to carve, control and improve yourself. After proper adjustment, you will find yourself more lovely and perfect.

Make more ordinary friends.

Communicating with ordinary friends of the opposite sex can not only learn how to get along with friends of the opposite sex, but also use the "opposite sex effect" to improve the efficiency of learning and activities. As we said, men and women are tireless. But don't aim at finding a boyfriend (girlfriend) when you are in contact. Put this idea aside and communicate with people naturally with an open heart.

solve

"Life is meaningful because of love, and life becomes richer because of losing love." After being lovelorn, Goethe wrote the world-famous young werther. Roman? Roland began to write "John? Christopher. The positive attitude of the lovelorn will sublimate "self", and you will feel full and rich if you devote yourself wholeheartedly to your study. Re-plan your life and study, summon up courage, turn grief into strength, work hard, and you will have unexpected achievements, and other honors will follow. This is the so-called gain and loss: when God closes this door, he will open another door for you.

Remember to take these pills, and you will soon get rid of the pain of lovelorn.

Believe in yourself and have the eternal love you want!