I accidentally found that there was a message in her husband's mobile phone message that the opposite sex called her husband. How should I understand their relationship?

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Meng Jiao calls: My husband and I have been married for two years, and he has always been very kind to me. But just a few days ago, his mobile phone received two short messages in a row, which was sent to him by one of his female netizens. The man's short message said that my husband was going to fly a kite with her in Lianhua Mountain. I had a big fight with him for this. He explained that this girl always texted him when something happened, and he wouldn't really go to the appointment.

Two or three days later, I received another letter, and this time I deleted it before I could read it. Why can't he show it to me? His explanation is that he doesn't want to see me angry about it. In fact, what really annoys me is that he doesn't think it's wrong at all, and he also said that he should have his own privacy, which won't affect us.

But I think this is a common trick for men, so one day I didn't come home and he didn't answer the phone. I didn't want to continue with him. I felt bored and asked him for a divorce. I don't know if this is the right thing to do.

A Bi replied: According to the analysis of psychologists, seeking physical, emotional or spiritual stimulation is the common psychology of all normal people, regardless of gender. According to the viewpoint of marital death, the passion between men and women can only last for about a year. After this time, two people are considered to be tied together, routine. This is a physiological attribute of human beings.

Men prefer to develop extramarital affairs because men pay more attention to the expression of self-awareness than women. For example, we often see that men who have extramarital affairs usually pay great attention to their appearance. In nature, too, the male lion will be very excited when he finds a second mate. This is actually a primitive expression, implying with body language that I am a capable man who can win the favor of the opposite sex.

Knowing this, you may be able to understand your husband's behavior of pleasing each other and texting with female netizens online. How should you handle this situation? In my opinion, the key is to use persuasion when necessary to guide him and her to limit their contacts to friends or only meet online.

In fact, it's no big deal for men and women to play such ambiguous games with strangers online, and it has nothing to do with loyalty. It's like if you regard a male movie star as your dream lover and you have to watch every movie he plays, will your husband be jealous? I don't think so.

Modern people always feel that life is too stressful or too lacking in passion, but they dare not really go out all day, so they use the barrier of the internet to communicate with strangers. Why do so many men surf the Internet when they have nothing to do, and so many women raise men online when they are bored? It is nothing more than "having a wicked heart but no thief's guts".

Of course, you can't let this go on. If you don't respond at all, your husband thinks you don't care about him at all, which may prompt him to find another emotional outlet; If you talk about it easily, or even hold it hostage to divorce, it is very likely that your husband will keep doing it and eventually break up. So your attitude must be firm but generous, as long as he doesn't do anything against the principle. One more thing to remind you, don't just read your husband's cell phone text messages. Men really need a little harmless privacy.