How can I make it up if the other party ignores me? Break up and get back together if the other person ignores you.

Thinking about how to talk to your ex, how to re-establish contact with your ex?

If so, you may be facing a dilemma because your predecessor didn't have a good relationship with you. Every time you try to contact your ex by phone, you may get into voice mail. You leave a voice message, hoping that your call will be answered. After waiting for a seemingly long time, you will be very sad that your ex didn't call you back.

So, what can I do next to make my ex want to date you?

You can choose to send a text message to your ex, send a private message through social media, or send a private email.

I'm very sorry, but all your efforts can't seem to help you get the response you want. In the worst case, you may suddenly find yourself hacked or blocked.

You may be racking your brains to guess why your ex treated you like this. Does this mean that your ex hates you and doesn't want anything to do with you? Or has the predecessor completely let go and started a new life?

Is there any way to get your ex to talk to you again?

You have a heavy heart, you feel helpless and can't think of any way. You have tried everything you can think of.

Obviously, you are in trouble!

In order to mend your broken relationship, communication is essential.

If you want to know how to talk to your ex again, then you need to learn how to contact our ex in the right way. If you can't get your ex to talk to you, you can't make them friendly or fall in love with you again (if that's your goal).

At this point, it is worth mentioning that the most common reason why an ex stopped dating is yourself.

This may be hard for you to believe, but before you are so angry that you completely deny it, let's analyze the situation first.

After you broke up, you didn't have enough time to let go. No matter what the emotional mentor says, all breakups are difficult, and the emotional consumption is rarely mutual. Whether you are the one who broke up or not, both parties in the relationship need to go through various stages of sadness.

Therefore, as we all know, the first stage of sadness is anger.

If you break up voluntarily, your ex may be angry because you want to end your relationship, but you still want to act normal. Constantly texting your ex will only make the damage caused by the breakup worse.

This is the way to talk to your ex.

If your ex is someone who wants to end this relationship, it means that he/she may want some space and alone time to think.

When you don't give them the space and time they need, they will feel annoyed and farther away from you.

You are bombarding your predecessor with information and telephone calls. Have you tried to contact your predecessor through all possible communication channels you can think of (WeChat, email, telephone, Tik Tok, Aauto Quicker, etc.)? )?

Why are you like this?

That's because your brain tells you that if you don't keep in touch, that's the old saying "out of sight, out of mind", which will become your reality, and your ex may forget you and move on.

However, this is far from the truth!

What do you think your predecessor will think of you if you keep sending messages and calling without getting a reply?

Do you really think this will make your ex talk to you again, or will it make your ex more unhappy? Your ex may think that you are too emotional and crazy, and you still miss them after breaking up.

In addition, your ex may wonder if he will encourage you to have this crazy series of text messages, messages, emails and phone calls if he replies.

Therefore, you will force your predecessor into defensive mode. Your ex wants to stay away from you and avoid talking to you, hoping to finally stop you from continuing your irrational behavior.

And if you don't realize it now, your behavior will only push him/her further. If you want your ex to talk to you again, you need to understand two things.

Your behavior will only make your ex farther away from you.

You should understand why your actions will ruin your chances of saving your predecessor.

By doing so, you can find a solution to help you reconnect with your ex and let him/her start talking to you again.

So, why do your actions harm the chances of reconciliation?

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Anyone who has experienced a breakup can attest that most of the high tension they have experienced is related to anxiety, impatience and despair of returning to the place where they used to be with their ex.

In your case, you want your ex to talk to you. Because they don't even respond, you become desperate and try harder to get them to talk to you.

No matter whether it is a recent breakup or a long time ago, the ex can feel the despair of getting back together from a distance.

In your ex's mind, you desperately want to contact them just to convince him/her that if they respond, they will face a highly emotional person, which will make them even more afraid to contact you again.

Therefore, controlling your emotions is one of the most important steps to save your predecessor.

Once you are emotionally ready to contact your ex, you can try the following methods to make your ex want to talk to you again.

Hidden "interest appeal" way Now, your ex won't return your text messages and emails, or even answer your phone calls. Don't feel depressed or discouraged.

Here, I want to teach you a way to arouse the interest of your predecessor and let him talk to you.

You know, people are naturally curious.

When you call your ex, it's good for you to go to his or her voice mail. Why? This is because voice messages will make the ex curious and want to know what the content is.

However, not all voice messages can get the desired reply.

You may have left several voice messages, but you haven't received any reply. You may want to know why.

The answer is simple.

Your voice mail seems urgent, desperate and emotional.

If you are the kind of person who has been trying to communicate seriously, the casual contact skills that Phyl will teach you need you to take some key steps.

First of all, you must temporarily resist the impulse to start any further communication.

Why are you doing this?

In this way, your ex will stop treating you like a nag.

Then wait for a while after your last attempt to contact.

Step two, choose a time when you are sure your ex won't answer your phone.

Choose a time when your ex may not answer the phone, because you are not ready for a real conversation. Just because you think you are ready doesn't necessarily mean that you are ready in reality.

Tell the truth first. Your ex didn't answer your phone, so every time you call, you subconsciously think that your ex won't answer the phone, and you are ready to deal with the emotions arising from this situation.

But if your predecessor answers the phone at this time, can you really say that you are ready for a real conversation?

You are unlikely.

You may start to say something that may take your ex a step further, and you may even be told never to call your ex again.

We certainly don't want this to happen.

Now you understand why you should choose a time when your ex is unlikely to answer your phone.

The next step is to leave a random voicemail.

Please note that it is very important to eliminate all emotional factors in voice mail.

A good example of this kind of voicemail is to tell your ex something they are really interested in.

Don't elaborate, because you will definitely deviate from the original plan and leave a long voicemail with a lot of chatter.

Be sure to make your voice sound happy, lively and calm.

Finally, before you hang up, tell him that you wish him all the best and don't add anything related to you. After all, if the ex really wanted to know if you were okay, the ex should have replied to you a long time ago.

Besides, you must strictly abide by the basic rule of not calling back your ex.

This is because if your ex decides to call you back after you ask them, the next conversation may be awkward because you are not ready for a real conversation. To make matters worse, you may go back to your old habits and start talking about your emotions.

This is absolutely impossible!

Short and thoughtful voice messages will make your ex feel that you have a reasonable reason to contact each other. You are no longer an out-of-control person. Therefore, the purpose of your conversation with your ex is not to complain, beg or beg for a response, but to be considerate, which is a quality that attracts everyone (including your ex).

Once you leave a voice message, wait patiently for a reply. Finally, if your topic really interests them, your ex will contact you.

Create emotional motivation and keep communication. If you do what Phil said above, you should be able to open communication channels with your predecessor.

The next step is that you need to create an emotional motivation to ensure that the communication between the two of you continues.

How can we create emotional motivation?

The first step to create emotional motivation is to find all the topics that can be used to continue the conversation, or to start another conversation after a while.

With these topics, when your ex decides to call you, you can be sure that you have other topics to talk about besides breaking up and your emotions.

It is worth mentioning that these topics should not be of interest to you, on the contrary, they should be of interest to your predecessor. These topics should be easy to find out, because you have been with your ex for some time, and you should know what your ex is interested in and likes to talk about.

To make this strategy work, ask your ex to chat with you often, and make sure that each conversation with your ex does not exceed 5 minutes, so as to ensure that you will not stray from the topic.

Talking for more than 5 minutes may make your ex feel bored, and may make your ex not want to talk to you again.

Here are some extra points to make sure that your conversation can go smoothly.

Things to do:

Encourage your ex to feel good about herself when talking to you.

Praise and affirm your predecessor as much as possible.

Make your ex think you are positive. People like happy people.

Be a source of strength and support for your predecessor.

Always keep the conversation light and interesting.

Be very polite and friendly.

Things not to do:

Don't quarrel or argue with your ex.

Never talk about this relationship seriously.

Don't mention your past relationship history.

Don't ask your ex if she still has feelings for you.

If you can consistently do the above points and be patient throughout the process, you will make your predecessor regret it!

This is how to talk to your ex again-the right way.

No matter what your situation is, are you willing to force your ex to talk to you because you have been pestering him? Or would you rather let your ex really find you and contact you because he wants to find you?

I am confident that you already know the answer!

Your next step is very important: before you try to save your predecessor, you need to find out whether there is any hope of saving it. If it's a hopeless relationship, it's meaningless to force it again, and it will only immerse you in bad emotions for a long time.

Private letter Phyl, find out if there is still hope for your relationship and whether it can be redeemed.