Brother-in-law got married and prepared 20 thousand red envelopes. Before the wedding, I saw his wife's mobile phone, so I decided not to give any money. Why?

This is because the information in the mobile phone was sent by my mother-in-law. The content of the message is to ask when the wife will call 65438+ Wan who bought a house for her brother-in-law. And this 65438+ ten thousand yuan thing, my husband didn't know at all, so my husband decided not to give my brother-in-law a penny.

The development of things is roughly like this:

My brother-in-law is getting married soon, and my wife is very worried about him, so she often goes back to her mother's house frequently.

As the wife has only one younger brother, she is more concerned about him, so the husband plans to give him more when his brother-in-law gets married.

Although 20,000 yuan is not a huge figure, it is quite a lot for ordinary people. But I didn't expect my wife to privately promise her mother-in-law 65,438+10,000 yuan when her brother-in-law bought a house. After this incident was discovered by her husband, she felt very angry, so she had a big fight with her wife and planned to refuse this kind of thing.

In fact, we all know that the husband's approach is correct. The main reasons for his anger are as follows:

1, without consulting with him in advance.

Men hate being cheated by others, especially their wives. If you cheat yourself, it will make him more angry. So one of the main reasons why my husband is so angry is that he has never discussed it with him beforehand and has been kept in the dark. This feeling will make men feel that they are not valued.

2, 65438+ ten thousand yuan is not a small number.

For an ordinary person, 6.5438+10,000 yuan is really not a small sum, and it may also be the hard-earned money of the couple. When his brother-in-law bought a house, his wife easily promised that the family would pay 6,543,800 yuan, which is definitely unacceptable to men, and strictly speaking, men don't have much obligation to help their brother-in-law.

In the feelings of marriage, the most important thing for two people to be together is mutual trust and tolerance, but it is wrong to understand this trust and tolerance as ignoring each other, because no one likes to be ignored and no one likes to be cheated.