How do boys talk on a blind date?

There are a lot of skills in talking during a blind date. If you don't understand these skills, no matter how good the conditions are, it will be difficult to get into the other person's eyes. The following are the talking skills for men on blind dates:

Tip 1. You are looking for your partner, not the trash can to talk to

Any time, whether it is the first meeting or an acquaintance We have known each other for a long time, so don’t vent your bitterness to her, telling her how A dumped you, how heartbroken you were at the time, how B moved on to another relationship, which made you miserable, and finally met C. I just discovered that C’s mysophobia is intolerable to you...

The result of complaining like this is that she will think there is something wrong with you, otherwise why would everyone leave you?

It is certainly a good virtue to be honest when dating, but you must pay attention to the time and restraint. "Time" means to be at the most appropriate time, and "degree" means to find the most appropriate way. The result of your excessive "confession" will only make her resentful. If she can't bear to be your dumpster, she will be scared away by your "legendary" experience. Therefore, past emotional experiences should be chosen at the right time. , using the most understated tone, let her clearly realize: you have successfully walked out of the shadow of that emotion, and now what you cherish most is her in front of you.

Tip 2, have a moderate sense of humor, which can be flirting but not pornographic

Men tell jokes and show off their humor. They often end up talking about pornographic jokes inadvertently. You may talk proudly, but she will quietly label you a nymphomaniac.

Men who are humorous and witty are in hot demand, so many men also label themselves humorous intentionally or unintentionally, but humor must be measured, especially making pornographic jokes cannot be regarded as a kind of humor, because pornography Jokes often catch the other person off guard and make them resentful.

Tip 3: Weight is always a minefield for women

Everyone likes food. When eating, if you help her order without permission and give it to her in a convincing manner, Reason: "You can't eat this, you should lose weight."

This will undoubtedly make her angry. The most important issue a woman cares about is her weight. The thing she cares about most does not need you to remind her. If you accidentally cross the line, the end result is probably no chance!

Tip 4, don’t be a private detective

Many men ask random questions when they can’t find a topic to talk about:

“How much is your salary?”

"How much savings do you have?"

"What education degree do you have?"

"Have you bought a car?"

" Are your parents still working? ”

…………

Maybe you didn’t mean it and just wanted to get to know her better, but if you acted too hastily, it would only make her think that you are With ulterior motives. In fact, you just need to be more patient, and as long as you pay attention, she will tell you at the appropriate time. Asking too many direct questions will make the communication awkward for both parties.

Tip 5: Easy topics to help you open up the conversation

When he was on a blind date, he met a shy girl. In order to make himself appear meaningful and promising, he talked a lot I have ideals and ambitions in literature and life, and I feel good about myself. Afterwards, the girl sent me a text message: "You are too artificial, don't contact me again."

My personal suggestion is that it is best not to use empty words during the first few meetings. , in order to avoid an awkward atmosphere, you should try to start the conversation with a relaxed topic. Do not talk too much about yourself during the conversation, and do not go straight to the topic of marriage and love. Instead, you should start with relaxed and friendly topics such as work and hobbies. During the conversation, Gradually increase understanding. Don't ask questions directly. Ask questions in the form of "You seem to be in such-and-such occupation from your conversation." Otherwise, you will leave the other party with the impression of being impolite and too reckless.

Notes on nine major topics for dating between men and women:

1. Brothers and sisters

What should we talk about when we first meet? It's a bit inappropriate to talk about her parents, as it may cause her discomfort if her parents separate or get divorced. A common topic is talking about brothers and sisters. Talking about brothers and sisters can deepen understanding and liven up the atmosphere.

And if you want to know about her family, it shows that you like her, which will make it easier to win her trust.

2. Childhood ideals

Let’s talk about childhood ideals. This is a very interesting topic, which is both relaxing and enjoyable and can enhance feelings. However, don't hold on to the conversation. Let her speak. The happier she talks, the more fun you'll have.

3. Places of interest and historical sites

What places of interest have you been to before? She was happy to answer this question and was not defensive. In order to get her to start talking, ask her to introduce you again. As long as you are a loyal listener, she will quickly develop a good impression of you. At this time, you can be more proactive and ask her where else she wants to go. If she says she has always wanted to go to such and such a place, your chance to show off will come.

Be brave and say, "I've always wanted to go there too. Let's go together someday and let's realize our dream together?" She will happily accept your invitation. In fact, after talking about this, you have learned a lot about her knowledge background, interests and hobbies.

4. Favorite Food

If you are dating in a restaurant or bar, talk about your favorite foods. This is a pleasant topic. By talking about food, you can not only understand her taste and find common ground, but you no longer have to worry about running out of topics.

If she has a special skill, take advantage of the opportunity to praise her, and then ask her, "My mouth is watering. Let me enjoy it one day." Even if she knows that you are complimenting her, It worked for her too. If you also have a hand, don’t forget to invite her to taste your craft.

5. Hobbies

Like collecting stamps, singing, or dancing? Like sports? What kind of music do you like to listen to? You must ask these questions, otherwise how would you know her interests and hobbies. And she also hopes to show herself that she can achieve multiple things with one stone, so why not do it.

6. Future plans

Can you talk about your life in college? Still want to continue school? She may be very interested in these topics and talk a lot about her student life, interesting things, various honors she has achieved, etc. However, she may also react coldly, just say that her current job major is inappropriate, and then change the subject. However, no matter what happens, it gives you a good opportunity to compliment her.

7. Work situation

If you have been working for a while after graduating from college, talking about work is a good topic. However, you have to control the initiative and don't let her keep nagging about trivial things in life. The more she talks, the more unhappy she will become, and the more you listen, the more impatient you will become.

However, when most people talk about work, no matter how boring it is, they will talk about it in a very grand way. It doesn't matter, you can at least know whether she will be a workaholic or a good housewife in the future.

8. Friends around you

Let’s talk to her about her friends. Maybe you don't know them, but that doesn't matter. She will be happy to talk about her friends, the details of their interactions, when and where they met. Maybe you are not interested at all, but don't be impatient. This is a great opportunity for you to get to know her. Do you want to continue developing a relationship with her? Start by getting to know her friends.

9. Don’t mention her old love

On the first date, don’t ask about her old love. If she doesn't bring up such a topic, you can't speak rashly. She may still be in love with him, or she may still be in the pain of her last relationship. When you meet her for the first time, don't think that you can win her favor by talking about her past lovers, enlightening her, and comforting her. This will often backfire.

If you want to please her, don't let her reminisce about the past and talk about happy things.