How to coax a boyfriend to change his mind

It's hard for a man to change his mind, but it's not impossible. The most important thing is a woman's posture. Don't humble yourself just because you want to save it. Men don't like that feeling, and they are not always on top. After all, you want to get him back, and the right change will make him attracted to you again.

I. Reflection

You need to get rid of your sad role, recover from the gloom of lovelorn as soon as possible, and calmly examine your feelings. Reflect on what you have done badly in this relationship. Whether it's because of your insecurity and melodrama in this relationship, or the other party has made a principled derailment mistake. You need to reflect on yourself first, no matter who made a mistake, it's not really a person's problem. Always obsessed with each other's shortcomings, but unable to reflect on themselves, keep saying that they want to save. What's your attitude? Only by knowing yourself in the relationship first can we find the problem and find the direction of change.

Second, don't try to pester each other.

A man doesn't like busy women, and he doesn't like women who haunt him. This will not only make you look cheap, but also make him not cherish you. Therefore, if you want to save your husband, you can't pester him first.

Third, give each other a space to think.

Is love going or staying? In the first few days after the truth came out, this issue was undoubtedly the focus of discussion and consideration between the two. Standing at both ends of the scale, you hesitate. At this time, the best way is to take a break and consider the problem calmly. You can go on holiday or move out of a two-person cabin for a while. In this way, both sides can sort out their emotions more calmly and will not make wrong decisions on impulse.

Fourth, change.

After breaking up, you may no longer contact, but your circle of friends still exists. At this time, whatever you send, the other party may not respond, but this does not mean that the other party does not pay attention to you.

If you want to have a new start, you must be different from before. Problems found in the process of reflection should be changed through learning. You used to have bad emotional control and often had contradictions, so now you should learn how to control your emotions; At the beginning, you didn't know how to get along with boys. Now you have to learn communication skills between the two sexes. At first you didn't know how to adjust the atmosphere, and gradually life lost its passion, so now you have to learn how to create freshness.

5. Analyze your fundamental problem.

Saving your husband is not a self-directed play, it definitely needs the cooperation of two people or the response of the other party, so you have to know what the root cause of your two contradictions is, so that you can completely make him change his mind, otherwise everything you do will be a temporary solution rather than a permanent cure.

Sixth, honesty is relative.

When two people can calm down and talk openly, an unavoidable question is: what prompted that person to betray your love and have an affair? Maybe he has been dissatisfied with your busyness and your indifference, but he didn't say it, but tried to find comfort from others.

Seven, pay attention to the present.

When he rekindles his interest in you and takes the initiative to find you, you need an ability to focus on the present. Only by letting go of the past and rekindling the enthusiasm for life can we do this. At this time, you can relax and chat with him, return to the longing state of love when you first fell in love, and interact with each other like a child. Only two people who are full of hope for the future can go on and meet a new beginning.

Eight, learn to deal with colds.

For a woman, if she wants to completely change her husband's mind, she must learn to handle her feelings coldly. On the one hand, she can let you sort out the feelings between two people and make a better recovery plan. On the other hand, she can let your husband try to calm his impulse to divorce at this stage.