How to write short messages after breaking up?

Couples after breaking up are either in a cold war state or constantly harassing each other, causing a kind of pressure on each other. No matter what the situation is, as long as you still have feelings for your girlfriend after breaking up, you should treat your breakup recovery rationally. Many people will continue to send text messages to girls or wander in the tangled state of whether to send text messages to her based on the enhancement of their inner needs after breaking up. In fact, couples who break up need to calm down most, but after they calm down, they can't lose their concern for their girlfriends. Otherwise, freezing at will will inevitably make you hopeless. So, if you want to save your girlfriend after breaking up, how do you send her a text message?

First of all, reflect on the reasons for breaking up.

Love can be simple or complex. Why did you choose to fall in love? Why did you choose to be together? The first is the question of good feelings. However, when we get along for a long time, it is easy to have conflicts because of the lack of freshness. Generally speaking, the main reasons leading to the breakup of women are as follows.

Too controlling. No one likes to be restricted and monitored all the time in love. Even if you eat or talk with the opposite sex, you will be suspected and accused by the other side. No couple in the world will like this distrustful love. In the world of love, no one is necessarily whose. Everyone is an independent individual, and has his own favorite things and freedom. Love will only make the relationship between two people closer, not locked. Therefore, if you always make your girlfriend angry because of your desire for control, you should learn to be tolerant and trust.

Too picky. True love is based on mutual tolerance, mutual understanding and mutual trust. If you can't do this, in your eyes, if you only see each other's shortcomings and don't see her strengths, it will make each other's lives very tired and full of noise. You know, because everyone's personality, hobbies, values and ways of doing things are different, there will naturally be places that the other party is not used to in the process of getting along. However, if you regard these shortcomings as the unique characteristics of the other party and tolerate and understand them with love, you will not only gain a tall image in the other party's mind, but also maintain the long-term stability of your relationship.

Taizi is sick. Every woman wants her man to be attractive, responsible and able to take care of his girlfriend. If you always feel like an "innocent girl" in the process of getting along, you have no decision-making ability and always have to accommodate each other in life.

Your own thoughts and ways of doing things, even if you can accept them for a short time, you can't stand them for a long time. At this time, it is not surprising to break up. Therefore, as a man, if you are a prince with pathological personality, if you want to save your girlfriend, then get rid of this problem!

Second, the mentality after breaking up

After breaking up, if you want to successfully save love, you must first establish a correct mentality. What kind of mentality should we treat when saving love?

Optimistic and positive. When you have a positive attitude, you will remember what you can do and what you need to do. You can expand your social circle and distract yourself by making friends. Slowly, you will find that there are more friends and your life is no longer so monotonous. At the same time, you should be more sunny and confident. Sunny and confident people can bring positive emotions to people around them, and anyone likes to get along with such people.

Enjoy life. When you learn to enjoy life, you will find yourself more calm, more broad-minded, no longer haggle over trifles, and no longer argue with others because of good face. At this time, your whole state of life will make people feel that it is the most ideal state. As the love counselor and emotional expert said, "When we can enjoy the most dull days, our inner self will actually change accordingly." When you can adjust your mentality to this state, your personal charm will also be improved, so your recovery progress will also take a big step.

Third, the editing of short messages.

Many people are confused about some problems after breaking up. Should I contact him? Should I call him or text him when I contact him? What should I pay attention to if I choose to send him a text message?

The message content is "harmless". The content of the text message sent to her is "harmless", that is, you can't make him feel that you are putting pressure on him. Among them, stress includes words such as exposing your sense of need, compulsion, pleading and commitment. Only in this way will she reply to your message positively. If all the messages you send her are "I can't forget you", "I miss you so much" and "I can't live without you, please give me another chance?" Then she will only stay away from you and even find you annoying. Therefore, the text message you send to her must be "harmless" and will not put pressure on this relationship.

The content of the message is sunny, positive and interesting. First of all, you can talk about interesting things that happened recently. For example, where did you travel recently? Tell us about the local customs. You can talk about the special restaurants you have been to some time ago and the delicious food there. You can also talk about the activities you have tried: bungee jumping, diving, rock climbing and skiing. Then, you can talk about something that everyone is interested in. It can be movies, stars and sports. In a word, the atmosphere of chatting is cheerful.

There must be no argument. When you send her a message, you must never argue with her. If you have different views on one aspect, you should agree with her as much as possible, and you must not move out again and make a scene. Because once there is a quarrel, the value of contradiction will rise again. All you have to do is cooperate and agree with each other.

Therefore, on the way to save your girlfriend, reluctance is possible, and timely SMS greetings are also needed. However, it should be noted that the content of the short message cannot have a strong sense of demand, nor can it let the other party know that you still have the meaning of redemption, otherwise it will only cause great psychological pressure to the other party.

Optimistic and positive. When you have a positive attitude, you will remember what you can do and what you need to do. You can expand your social circle and distract yourself by making friends. Slowly, you will find that there are more friends and your life is no longer so monotonous. At the same time, you should be more sunny and confident. Sunny and confident people can bring positive emotions to people around them, and anyone likes to get along with such people.

Enjoy life. When you learn to enjoy life, you will find yourself more calm, more broad-minded, no longer haggle over trifles, and no longer argue with others because of good face. At this time, your whole state of life will make people feel that it is the most ideal state. As the love counselor and emotional expert said, "When we can enjoy the most dull days, our inner self will actually change accordingly." When you can adjust your mentality to this state, your personal charm will also be improved, so your recovery progress will also take a big step.