Anti-mobile phone addiction app is popular among parents. Behind the 10,000 positive reviews, there is something parents can’t see.

Recently, I saw an “anti-mobile phone addiction app” with particularly hard-core functions on a certain website.

Why is it called "hardcore"?

Parents using this app can directly limit how long and how long their children can play on their mobile phones, and can also control what software their children download on their mobile phones.

With just one button, you can force the phone screen to turn off, preventing children from using the phone overtime and secretly playing games at night.

I went to the software store and searched. There are many similar softwares with a lot of downloads. It seems to be very popular among parents.

Some parents said that after using this software, their children’s mock test scores improved, which is great!

Some parents said, "I like it very much. It saves a lot of effort in managing children."

These softwares have a lot of positive reviews, and it seems that they can really effectively control their children's use of mobile phones. .

However, I also found that the positive reviews were mixed with some inconspicuous negative reviews.

Some comments are children’s protests: Children also need privacy, and we strongly request that it be removed from the shelves!

Some people say that this kind of app is a kind of "house arrest" in disguise.

The reason is that when using this kind of software, children have no privacy at all.

Parents can control their browsing history, download history, and even chat content on their mobile phones without any blind spots.

In other words, this kind of software is equivalent to a mobile phone monitor, and every move of the child is under the surveillance of the parents.

Looking at it this way, it’s so suffocating!

We are in an era of advanced electronic devices, and the Internet and electronic products have had a lot of impact on children.

Many children are addicted to mobile phones and play games, which inevitably requires parental intervention and restraint.

Parents must have thought of many ways, but with little success, and even affected the parent-child relationship.

So some businesses have taken a look at parents' eagerness for success and designed an APP that can turn off the screen with just one click, giving parents absolute control and delivering results in a timely manner.

But no one asked these children who live under surveillance all day what they think:

Why do children like playing with mobile phones so much?

Why can’t children put down their mobile phones?

Can a mobile phone software really help parents to help their children get rid of their mobile phone addiction?

What is the reason

that makes children so addicted to mobile phones?

Summer vacation and winter vacation are the "hardest hit areas" for children to be addicted to mobile phones. I have heard some friends around me who are "kings" joke and say:

Don't be afraid of the sky or the earth, just be afraid. Elementary school students have summer vacation.

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In addition to those who play games, there are also those who scroll through Weibo, TikTok, and watch TV series. As soon as they turn on their mobile phones, they can’t put them down, and they can’t wait to take them with them to the toilet.

Why are mobile phones so attractive?

There are two main reasons, physiological reasons and psychological reasons.

Physiological reasons:

There is a neurotransmitter in our brain called dopamine, which can convey information of excitement and happiness. Each of us looks forward to getting surprises and rewards from what we do. get satisfaction from things.

And mobile phones just meet this demand. The gold coin reward after clearing the game, the satisfaction of being noticed in social software, and the entertainment short video bring wave after wave of emotional climax.

These mobile phone designs allow dopamine to continuously emit "do it again" expectations to people. This makes sense why people are addicted to mobile phones and become increasingly inseparable from their mobile phones.

Such temptation is difficult for adults to resist, let alone children who lack self-discipline?

Psychological reasons:

I have heard a saying that children who are addicted to mobile phones do not play with mobile phones, but with loneliness.

I read a report on children and mobile phones a few days ago, which mentioned a phenomenon:

Left-behind children in rural areas are very obsessed with mobile phones.

45.7% of left-behind children go online every day, and 68.5% go online every week. In addition, the report also shows that day students use the Internet much more frequently than boarding students.

These left-behind children have been in emotional deprivation without the company of their parents for a long time, and mobile phones have become their best choice for emotional sustenance.

However, it is not only the left-behind children in rural areas who lack the company of their parents? Children living in the city who have no worries about food and clothing also have the problem of "empty companionship".

I visited a relative’s house during the Spring Festival. During the dinner, the adults were chatting and laughing, and the children ate very quickly.

The children were running around and playing after eating. The adults who were talking thought the children were too noisy, so they sent the children away with their mobile phones.

The children who got the mobile phones were very happy. They all happily sat on the sofa and started scrolling on their mobile phones. The room became much quieter.

Adults use mobile phones to get peace, and children use mobile phones to get happiness. It seems to be a scene of parent-child harmony.

As everyone knows, adults have developed the habit of using mobile phones as nannies, and children are getting further and further on the road to mobile phone addiction.

Mobile phones have become an invisible wall of acceptance in parent-child communication, standing between children and parents, and they cannot stay away for a long time.

Confiscating mobile phones and unplugging network cables

A vicious cycle

The role of mobile phones in the parent-child relationship is very subtle. On the one hand, parents will unconsciously rely on them. The mobile phone acts as a "nanny", handing it to the child for a moment of peace.

However, after the children got used to the company of mobile phones, they regarded mobile phones as the enemy and in turn blamed the children.

Parents are extremely worried when they see that their children cannot put down their mobile phones and are addicted to games and videos every day.

In desperation, they had to take tough measures, such as confiscating mobile phones, unplugging network cables, and using anti-addiction apps.

However, there are policies and countermeasures. Children always have ways to defeat their parents, and parents have more and more ways to deal with their children.

In such a vicious cycle, parents and children are simply playing a "cat-and-mouse game"!

We have also seen in the news that many children caused ridiculous things and caused violent conflicts with their parents because of playing with mobile phones.

On January 15, 2021, a 14-year-old boy was playing mobile games at home in Longjin Town, Anyi County, Nanchang City, Jiangxi Province. It was time for dinner, and the grandfather came to call the boy to eat, but the boy was immersed in mobile games and did not respond.

The grandfather was very angry and took the cell phone away from the boy. The grandfather thought that the boy would be able to eat obediently, but who would have thought that the boy would actually kill his grandfather because of this.

There may not be many such extreme cases, but because their children are addicted to mobile phones, many families have spent tears, money, and even lives...

11-year-old Xiong The child spent 400,000 yuan from selling his house while playing with mobile phones;

A 13-year-old boy in Xi’an frugally bought 4 mobile phones and lived on bread every day;

A 16-year-old girl in Zhejiang was stopped by her parents Committing suicide by jumping into a river while playing with mobile phones;

...

Tragedies caused by playing with mobile phones happen from time to time, but these are just a drop in the bucket.

The parent-child relationship is a natural blood relationship. How can such an extremely powerful blood relationship be defeated by a small mobile phone?

Are these errors really just caused by a mobile phone?

Don’t know what to do?

Check out these 3 tips

Most parents regard mobile phones and computers as scourges, fearing that giving their children a mobile phone will ruin their life.

Mobile phones can easily make children addicted, but not all faults for improper education can be placed on mobile phones. The problem that causes behavioral problems in children is not the mobile phone as a medium, but the parents themselves.

I once saw this passage on the Internet and was deeply moved:

Thirty years ago, people exclaimed that pop music would destroy the next generation;

Twenty years ago, people exclaimed that television programs would destroy the next generation;

Ten years ago, people exclaimed that computers and the Internet would destroy the next generation;

Now, people are starting to Exclaimed that mobile phones will destroy the next generation...

The history of human development proves: "No force can destroy the next generation, except wrong education methods."

Children like to play Mobile phones themselves are not a heinous thing. The most important thing is to see how parents wisely guide their children to reasonably allocate time and energy.

1. Spend more time with your children and participate in more outdoor activities

Nowadays, I believe everyone is tired of hearing the term "high-quality companionship". How to keep high quality and how long it lasts? You must have seen a lot of problems, but few people are able to be parents.

High-quality companionship means that parents have to devote a lot of time and energy, which is a natural obligation.

But we might as well think about it from another perspective: Parents are exercising their rights to accompany their children with high quality.

When a person exercises power, his motivation will be greater. You can choose outdoor activities that both you and your child like, such as playing badminton, swimming, kite flying, etc.

Both you and your children have the right to choose what to play. In the process of finding the same hobbies, you and your children will increase your understanding of each other, gain more parent-child time, and learn about each other. Exercising is beneficial, so why not?

2. Play less with mobile phones in front of children

For us adults, mobile phones are an indispensable tool for contacting work and life, but if you are disciplining your children, you will also It's quite unconvincing to make the same mistake.

If you just accuse your child of playing games and then turn around and start using Douyin, then it is a failure of teaching through words and deeds.

You can finish sending text messages and emails while your children are sleeping or doing homework. It is best to put your phone away when playing with your children or having dinner.

3. Playing with mobile phones requires "three rules"

Education experts say: In a healthy society, whether it is school education or family education, children must be educated and guided to establish a sense of rules. Only by forming Awareness of rules will allow children to grow up healthily!

This is especially true when it comes to children playing with mobile phones. Only by allowing children to use mobile phones under prerequisites and conditions can children learn to control themselves when using mobile phones.

Loving children is a parent’s instinct; setting rules is a parent’s responsibility; only by combining the two can we give our children a healthy and beautiful life.

In fact, we all know the fact that it is impossible to survive in today's society and separate life from mobile phones.

If used properly, mobile phones can open a door full of knowledge and joy for children, and can become a good tool for learning and relieving stress.

But we should also know that the life on the mobile phone belongs to others, and the life in front of us is ours.

Let us learn to look up from our mobile phones, look at the beautiful scenery around us, look at the family members around us who love you, and lead by example from today on, giving our children attentive company.

Click "Watching" and hope that everyone can be loving and wise parents and the best guides for their children on their way forward.