People who can talk will not be too bad luck!

People who can talk will not be too bad luck!

1. When someone complains to you, you should never try to solve it for him first.

Because sometimes he just wants to express his emotions and find his feelings with you. It is enough for you to tell him that I support you. But we often want to help each other solve problems.

2. Expose yourself appropriately, starting with "I'm not good at it" and tell me one of my small shortcomings.

This kind of "ice-breaking" suitable for strangers opens the topic with their own shortcomings, and it is easier to have a sense of * * * with each other.

3. When chatting, put the focus forward and start with "conclusion+reason+conclusion".

I'd like to invite you to the movies tonight (conclusion). The recent movie starring xxx is also the same theme as what you saw last time. You said you liked the subject (reason). Let's go to the movies tonight and have dinner together (conclusion)! The structure is clear and others know what you want him to do.

4. EQ actually includes two parts, one is the understanding of one's own emotions. The other part is insight into other people's emotions. Say what the other person wants to hear+what you want to say first, and the communication effect will be better.

For example, if a girl strikes up a conversation with you, you should strike up a conversation with her first, and then express your opinions after her emotions calm down. This is much better than being reasonable at first.

When inviting others to the party, add "If you are afraid of being too late, you can go first" at the end.

Inviting others to a party, many people like to make one thing too perfect and attractive, but it is easy to cause pressure invisibly, so after inviting the other party, add a sentence at the end: "If you are afraid of being too late, you can go first." Relieve each other's pressure and show that you are considerate of others.

6. Spend 70% of your time talking about each other and 30% talking about yourself.

You will find that the other person is actually very expressive, and the more you talk, the closer you get.

7. When thanking others, there must be concrete examples to support it. Such gratitude is more sincere.

For example, I really appreciate you. When I was confused at that time, you could give me xxx's advice, which helped me a lot.

8. Speak from the interests of the other party.

I bought a box of fruit, but you ate too much. I hope to share it with my friends. What did you say?/Sorry? Conventional saying: I bought a box of oranges, but I ate too much. Let me give you some. Death statement: I bought a box of oranges, all of which are bad. Let me share some with you. Let's put it better: the weather is dry now, so I need to eat more fruits to supplement vitamins, so I bought a box of oranges to share with you.