Chatting with a girl you like, sometimes she reacts well, sometimes she is indifferent. What does that mean?

Before, I was very close to the girl I liked. You come and go, and some even date several times.

But I don't know when the other person's attitude suddenly took a 180 degree turn and became more and more cold to you. I can't return to WeChat or send a text message, and I don't answer the phone. The invitation is even more wishful thinking.

In this case, some brothers make some radical mistakes, and the other's heart will be closed forever.

So, what is the right way to do it?

If you also have a girl who talked well before who suddenly ignores you, it probably means that you have made a serious mistake.

Another 20% may be that she suddenly met a better man than you or something big happened, such as the death of a relative or going abroad for development.

If it is the latter, there is nothing we can do. If it's going to rain and mom wants to get married, let her go ... if the window of opportunity is temporarily closed, you can save your mind.

But! If it is the former, then you must understand the mechanism of this situation. If you understand the mechanism, there is still the possibility of remedy, at least understand it when you die.

Why do girls take the initiative at first and then become cold?

Reason 1

Your way of chatting remains the same. After a long time, the account is checked clearly, the account is almost explained, and the other party will not be interested in you. In fact, this is a natural phenomenon. It used to be hot because of novelty and curiosity, but later it was cold because these things were gone.

Generally, at this stage of knowing the root of the matter, boys will think that the other person is about to become their girlfriend, and then become extremely attentive and concerned, and then say, "What are you doing?" "Are you busy?" "Remember to eat well", "Add clothes when it is cold", "It is predicted that it will rain again today, and don't forget to bring an umbrella" and so on. They even report to each other what they have done, sign in early when they wake up, and sign out good night before going to bed.

You know, a woman can't be your girlfriend when she is not close to you (of course, a little close, and she doesn't necessarily want to be your girlfriend).

Then, your caring and considerate attitude may be useful to those girls who are low-value, unloved or have long liked you. When the woman in your heart is not your girlfriend, the goddess or prospective girlfriend in your heart will never buy it.

So how do you break it?

Stop asking questions and asking questions.

I want to brush my sense of existence and can't help but give each other WeChat. It's best to use this format: your status (what are you doing or what's interesting)+your feelings (like it or not)+ask the other person.

In fact, many forms of WeChat or SMS that unilaterally express concern about girls' status and feelings can't achieve good results because they ignore the huge differences between men and women's ways of thinking.

Male thinking always goes straight to the goal, especially at this time, I can't wait to capture this mountain immediately, claiming that this mountain belongs to my family, but forgetting to communicate, that is, forgetting to polish the emotional links between men and women at all stages.

The correct way is to take your eyes off her for a while, look around the world, find some interesting things that can be used as conversation materials, and then use these conversation materials to make the other person interested in you again.

Why do girls take the initiative at first and then become cold?

Reason 2

You always chat with others on WeChat, QQ and telephone. Once out, I always eat, watch movies, chat and do nothing else. At this time, the woman will think that you are not a man enough, so she will alienate you and leave you cold.

Most people who make such mistakes belong to boys who are shy in front of girls.

Maybe you attracted girls at first because of high education, white appearance, superior family and so on, but because there is no action to further upgrade intimacy, girls are impatient with you.

When girls don't like you enough, you are called a hooligan when you touch others; But when people have sent enough signals and you haven't responded, people think you are not man enough.

Reason 3

It is you who show your love to each other prematurely, or even express your love.

Don't attack before the other person deeply likes you, especially don't confess!

The most serious mistakes are wechat, SMS and telephone confession, which is simply self-defeating.

There are several ways to be nice, such as using WeChat or SMS to attack (sending many dense messages), calling people late at night, or "ambush" in their dormitory, work unit or home, or giving gifts. -These are all wrong practices.

Even if you succeed in this, you are likely to be passive in the subsequent relationship. Because you have unconsciously told each other a potential meaning: I don't deserve you.

If you can make a girl guess you, then you have won more than half. Don't express your ideas at a glance, leaving some room for fantasy is the key to maintaining interest. Especially some hard-working girls, your performance will accelerate your death process. The reason is very simple. You are so funny that you can pass the test in one go. I've just warmed up, and you're already too involved.