How to apologize to your boyfriend

Ways for Boyfriends to Apologize

Ways for Boyfriends to Apologize. Every relationship is indispensable for quarrels, and therefore apologies are indispensable. Some people end up quarreling more intensely after apologizing. It is particularly important to learn the correct way to apologize. Below I will share ways to apologize to your boyfriend. Welcome to read! Ways for your boyfriend to apologize 1

1. Express apology

The most important thing is to make it clear when you start your apology that you are sorry for your behavior. Recognize the pain, disappointment, or inconvenience you cause the other person. Show empathy for the person you've hurt. If it can develop into a quarrel, something must have gone wrong. Although there may not be an absolute right or wrong, one thing that is certain is that the attitudes of both parties are wrong, such as being too sensitive, overreacting, inappropriate wording, etc.

2. Take responsibility

That means admitting your mistakes and taking corresponding responsibilities. You are responsible for what you do and the consequences. For an apology to be effective, don’t blame others.

3. Don’t make excuses

When people apologize, they will instinctively blame others, but this will also make the apology less sincere. On the other hand, you are more likely to be forgiven if you take direct responsibility for your actions rather than making excuses. Even if you don't know what happened, you can start by apologizing. After the other person forgives you, you can understand where you went wrong so you can correct it next time.

4. Compensation

Find ways to make up for the losses you have caused. There are many ways, such as: Promise not to do it again next time. As for physical injuries, it is even more important to compensate for them. Take practical actions, buy what you should buy, and give what you should give. After all, there is a price to pay for doing the wrong thing.

5. Ask for forgiveness

Be sure to ask for forgiveness. The benefits of this are obvious. If they feel your sincerity, the other person will naturally forgive you. But you should make sure the other person realizes that you want their forgiveness and not just to relieve your guilt.

Summary: When apologizing, be straightforward and pay attention to your attitude. Without a sincere apology, it is impossible to get forgiveness from the other party. The key is to reflect on what you did wrong and show remorse before apologizing. Try to think differently. If you were the other person, would you be unhappy? When someone apologizes to you, what do you want to hear? Don’t forget that communication beyond language can also convey the intention and attitude of an apology. Make the most of your eyes, facial expressions and body language. Ways for boyfriends to apologize 2

Distinguish the difference between coaxing and apologizing

Teacher Lu Qi said:

You have to distinguish between apologizing and apologizing in a man’s mind Coax to cut it apart. Because if he apologizes every time, he will feel that it is equivalent to admitting a mistake, but to admit a mistake, you must first distinguish between right and wrong.

Many girls always feel that because I am a girl, you have to give in to me, coax me, and you have to bow to me first. This kind of thinking is actually very undesirable, because we always say that men and women should be equal, and there is no such thing as a relationship because you are a boy or a girl.

After some girls quarrel, the boy will try to coax you, but you feel more reasonable because of his lowered head, so you ignore him and continue the cold war.

All the above-mentioned antecedent variables have led to the result that boys are unwilling to take the initiative to coax you.

So you first need to change his understanding that coaxing and apologizing are two completely different things.

Men think that apologizing means being reasonable, but in fact, before being reasonable, there must be a scene called coaxing.

No matter who is right or wrong in the quarrel, as my boyfriend, you are the only man qualified to calm my emotions. You need to let him know that he is not here to coax you to admit your mistakes, but to calm your emotions.

Of course, as a girl, you also need to give him certain positive reinforcement.

Some fans said that her boyfriend would take the initiative to coax her when they first fell in love, but she felt that she could not be coaxed so easily and seemed too cheap, so she would give him the cold shoulder first.

Then this boy will find that even if he lowers his head to coax the other person first, he will not get any good results, so he would rather not speak next time.

You need to let him know that although it was his fault, he remembered to "calm down my emotions" first, so I decided to forgive you.

Then next time he will definitely remember how important it is to calm down your emotions after a fight.

Some people say that if girls are coaxed too easily, will boys be able to make mistakes without restraint?

So summary is very important.

When most men admit their mistakes and swear never to make them again, they don’t even realize where they went wrong.

Every time my best friend quarrels with her boyfriend, it always becomes a big deal. Her boyfriend would take the initiative to apologize to her every time, but every time that time came, she would start asking him where he was wrong.

The boyfriend just wanted to appease her and end the quarrel. In fact, he didn't think there was anything wrong with him at all. So this kind of questioning triggered the next quarrel.

Repeated questioning will not only fail to make him discover his problem, but will make him think that you are being too pretentious, and his patience will only become less and less in the future.

Therefore, Teacher Lu Qi proposed a "four-step" summary method:

"Who", "What did you do", "Who made you angry", "I How it should not be done in the future."

You need to let him know what you care about and let him know that he cannot make the same mistake on the same thing next time, instead of just letting him keep thinking about what he has done.

This method actually has a very good detangling effect when used in quarrels. Because quarrels are often a superposition of emotions, that is, during the conversation between two people, there are many times that make people angry, so they can be sorted out layer by layer.

In fact, this is also a particularly important way of communication after a couple quarrels. It can also greatly reduce the probability of you breaking up due to a quarrel.

Therefore, a couple’s quarrel does not end after your emotions fade away. It also needs to be summarized to reduce the probability of the next quarrel.

Find each other’s true needs

Why do two people often quarrel when they are together?

In fact, it is because of personality incompatibility. In a long life, personality differences sometimes manifest themselves as quarrels, sometimes as cold wars, and sometimes even as a breakup.

So some people would say that since they are two people with incompatible personalities, do they have to break up?

Not really.

There are not so many people in this world who are born with completely compatible personalities. It is just that some people can find the root of their problems and conflicts and solve them.

Most quarrels are caused by not understanding the needs of the other party. The real demand is the reason behind the request made by the other party. This is the demand.

It’s like a fan complained that her boyfriend likes to play games and doesn’t spend time with her. My boyfriend thinks, "I play games just like you are watching TV shows. Am I not accompanying you when I play games next to you?".

In fact, what girls really want is for two people to do the same thing together, instead of each playing with their mobile phones and immersing themselves in their own world. What she wants is spiritual companionship, not someone to sit next to.

Sometimes you think it is a huge contradiction that cannot be solved at all. In this demand theory, it can be solved very easily, as long as you can find the real demand.

So you see, a normal and complicated matter like a couple quarreling is not without solutions.

I received a private message from a fan:

My boyfriend often quarrels with me. He won’t let me do anything and must argue with me. Other boyfriends dote on their girlfriends and seldom speak loudly. Why would he treat me like this?

Does he not love me at all?

But in fact, quarrels are not a sign of lack of love. Quarrels are just the friction and cracks caused by the formation of an intimate relationship.

Quarrel is really not terrible. What is terrible is that two people do not have the right way to solve it. 3 Ways for Your Boyfriend to Apologize

When a boy makes a mistake, he will use these five ways to apologize to you, which means he really likes you.

1. Will send you a forgiveness text Request

Women should all know the temper of men, they may not be able to sit on their backs, face themselves and admit their mistakes, but he may send you a text message asking for forgiveness. Women should respect these men. They love you deeply and go out of their way to show you love. Women must also be aware that other men may bow to the idea that it is commonplace to admit that men are able to do this.

2. Will take the initiative to frankly say that he is wrong

If a person can make mistakes on his own and actively tell you that he is wrong, it means that his dignity in his eyes is not as good as You are one tenth as important. If a man doesn't have you in his heart, he will never lower his head for you. Those who know how to love really love you. Women must know that if a man cannot do this, it means that his love for you is not deep enough. Sooner or later he will leave you. So I suggest you leave him as soon as possible.

3. Analyze the reasons for your mistakes after apologizing

If a person can analyze his mistakes after apologizing, it means he loves you. Moreover, he is a man of great wisdom. He knew what it meant to "eat a great deal of wisdom." He will never make the same mistake. He understands that this can help stabilize your partnership.

4. Promise you that the same situation will not happen again next time

Women need to know that if a man will make mistakes, and you promise that the same situation will not happen next time , then it shows that he loves you. Men who make a mistake and immediately go to great lengths to ask for your forgiveness, and then go on to make another mistake, don't actually see you as their lover.

5. He will never force you if you don’t want to in front of anyone.

Men particularly care about dignity in front of anyone, including his own lover. But the special situation is with you. When you are displeased or do something that embarrasses him, he will just smile at you and continue to tolerate it. It means that your status in his heart has already exceeded his humble self-esteem