How to comfort my girlfriend who just joined the work and complains about the heavy workload every day?

Let's give our close boyfriend a compliment first!

People are like children when they are emotional. Because your girlfriend has just joined the work and can't adapt to all aspects, she often complains to you that there is too much work and it is too difficult.

Don't make the following five bad replies at this time. This will only make your girlfriend feel worse.

1. Give suggestions: "You should plan more", "Why don't you sign up for an online learning course?"

2. Tell the truth: "Nothing is impossible as long as you work hard." "Hard work means that you are going uphill, and a good job means that you are going downhill."

3. Negative emotions: "Stop complaining/worrying, newcomers in the workplace are like this." "Don't be angry, it's not worth being angry about work."

4. Psychoanalysis "You are perfectionist and ask too much of yourself." "You care too much about what others think and evaluate you."

5. Improper question: "What part of the work can't be done?" "Why can't you finish it? Is it inexperienced, or is it the wrong way to do things? " Have you found a language you are familiar with?

You might think, "What's wrong with that? Isn't this very thoughtful and considerate? "

But your girlfriend will say, "You don't support me at all! You don't understand me at all! "

What do you need to do to comfort your girlfriend?

1, listen carefully. You can hold her in your arms, hug her shoulders and listen to her.

2. Use "Really?" Respond to your girlfriend's feelings and "Yes …" with simple sentences such as "Hmm …".

Summarize your girlfriend's meaning in your own words and tell her how you feel. "So you feel a little wronged and dissatisfied with yourself because the work is too difficult."

4. Realize her wish in a fantasy way. "If I become the boss of your company tomorrow, I will transfer you to my side as a secretary and accompany me every day."

Even if you are not afraid of a silly fantasy, your girlfriend will scold you: "yuck!" " You'll make fun of me! "But her mood will be much better.

If you still want to give some advice and give her so-called "practical" help, you must consider whether it is appropriate after her mood improves.

Do you think this method is useful?

I am a psychologist, Kun Xiaofeng, and I look forward to being a better self with you! (⊙v⊙)

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