The story of the second married woman tells you the answer: should a woman go back to her mother's house after divorce?

Zhang Xiaoxian once said, "No matter how good you are, there will always be people who don't cherish you. Fortunately, what you don't cherish in the end has become the past. "

At the romantic wedding, two lovers made a lifelong commitment. For women, this moment is extremely sacred. But some love can't stand the test. No matter how excellent you are, or even give all your love to manage each other's feelings, there are always people who don't know how to cherish it.

It is not easy to run a stable and beautiful marriage. If one of them changes his mind, two people can't be together forever.

The change of marriage is always sudden, and for divorced women, the heart is more fragile. When they are hurt emotionally, everyone hopes to get comfort and support from their families.

However, real life is always involuntary. After divorce, even if life is difficult, you can't just trouble your family.

Why can't a woman go back to her mother's house after divorce? Today, I want to share the emotional experience of a friend of mine, and her story also reminds all the girls.

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Wen Xin and her ex-husband Li Han divorced after seven years of marriage. Most girls need courage to choose marriage bravely. They must have made up their minds to spend the rest of their lives after a thousand choices.

Wenxin is no exception. He and Li Han have been in love for two years. During this time, she experienced the beauty of love, but in the end, she made a vow of eternal love, but failed to stand the test of time.

When dealing with marriage, Wen Xin focused most of his energy on his family, but his ex-husband had an affair. Wen Xin couldn't forgive him, broke his heart, and finally they parted ways.

Divorce is the hardest time for Wen Xin, and she has to take her children back to her parents' home.

But when I got back, I found myself like an outsider, not being hated. Wen Xin lived at home for a week, and her sister-in-law made things difficult everywhere.

Once, she bought a lot of daily necessities from the supermarket and went home. After entering the door, she heard her sister-in-law and her brother quarreling. Sister-in-law said, "This home is no longer your sister's. She really intends to live like this, and her neighbors are gossiping about her behind her back. You must let her move out quickly, or our days will be over. "

These words have brought more blows to Vivian's mind. When she returned to her room, she squatted on the ground and wept bitterly. Later, her mother knocked on her door. Wen Xin didn't want her family to see her vulnerability, so she quickly wiped her tears.

She thought her mother came to comfort herself, but she didn't expect her to say, "Daughter, move out. After all, this home belongs to your brother and sister-in-law. Even if we don't mind, your sister-in-law will definitely not be satisfied. "

Finally, Wen Xin responded helplessly: "Mom, we will move out tomorrow."

The next day, she had to move to her best friend's house for a while. After the darkness, Wen Xin didn't even have time to feel sad about losing her marriage, because she needed to stand up on her own.

After finding a suitable house, Wenxin began a completely different life from the past. She lives in a rented house and leads a hard life. But she always believes that although life is a little difficult now, all the bad things will pass.

Wen Xin never regrets her original decision. In marriage, the most important thing for Reeve and his wife is loyalty. Once the bottom line is reached, their relationship is over.

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When difficulties come, Wen Xin has no choice but to live a good life and face them with a positive attitude.

Wen Xin has found a new job, even if she can only start at the grassroots level, but she has enough endurance. When dealing with work, Wenxin kept running business and pulling orders during the day. Although every day is very hard, it is particularly fulfilling.

She doesn't want to be just a salesman forever. Wen Xin also signed up for a class in her spare time, studying hard while working.

Two years after the divorce was the most difficult time for her. Fortunately, all her persistence finally paid off. Wen Xin, with her excellent performance and spoken English, got the attention and recognition of the leaders and got the opportunity to appreciate.

A good career can not only change a woman's life, but also bring more good luck. Wen Xin survived the most difficult days. In life, besides working hard, she often exercises and travels in her spare time, and her single life is extremely wonderful.

A confident woman is always full of charm, and love will come to you.

Later, Wen Xin met a better man than her ex-husband, gave her a full sense of security and re-established her family.

Looking back, when she experienced her first failed marriage, life was very difficult. All the friends around let Wen Xin go back to her mother's house, and with the company of her family, the pain can be less.

But only she knows that the divorced woman can't go home.

The warm harbor where I once lived for twenty years is now my sister-in-law's home. And to get along with relatives, you need to keep a proper distance. Wen Xin didn't understand these truths until he experienced a failed marriage. In addition, she also deeply realized the importance of women's independence in marriage.

Now she has the ability to give her son a better living environment, and when love comes, she has enough confidence to seize it.

Her experience has also alerted all women: even if life is difficult after divorce, her family can't go back.

Because once I could rely on myself to bring a warm home, which was already my sister-in-law's. And getting along with family members needs to keep proper limits. In the trough, only your courage and persistence can make you become a woman with independent personality and let yourself see the light in the dark.

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A divorced woman is a disgrace to her elders. Returning to my parents' home will bring great public pressure to my parents and indirectly affect the lives of other family members.

This is also the reason why many divorced women can't go back to their parents' home. They would rather rent a house outside than disturb their families again.

Just like Wen Xin, when she divorced, her family was her only support, but the week she went back to her mother's house made her see the cruelty of life clearly.

Fortunately, in the face of adversity, Wen Xin chose to face it bravely instead of running away.

In his book Life, Posan said, "Life can't be as good as you think, but it can't be as bad as you think. I think people's fragility and strength are beyond imagination. Sometimes I may be so fragile that I burst into tears at a word; Sometimes, I find myself biting my teeth and walking a long way. "

When a stable marriage breaks down, the easy and beautiful days are over.

Life may be bad at the moment, but it may not be really difficult. At the moment of marriage, the world seems to be dark. You can feel your fragility, but unconsciously, your inner tenacity has been with you for a long time.

Whether it is family or friends, their dependence is only the consumption of time. For women, the most important thing is to create the future by themselves. In the face of the trough, you should have the courage to set sail at John Young, so that you can have a gorgeous turn.

I hope that all women who are not treated tenderly by marriage can grow up in adversity, and even without the support of their parents, they should be full of expectations for life. When you become independent and confident, there will be a lot of love and beauty coming to you in the future.