How do parents give advice to teachers?

When school education and family education are organically combined to form a joint force, education will achieve good educational results, and the basis of home-school cooperation is communication and exchange between teachers, especially between teachers and parents, which is the key to establishing a good home-school relationship. Teachers and parents discuss and communicate together, get familiar with students' characteristics, understand students' psychology, and be aware of it and prescribe the right medicine. At the same time, teachers should also assume the responsibility of parents' education consultants, have regular heart-to-heart talks with parents, and Qi Xin will work together to educate students so that they can study happily and grow up healthily. Family and school are in constant contact, and parents and schools unify their thoughts on the ways and means of educating their children, so that education can get twice the result with half the effort. So how to communicate with students' parents, give full play to the power of home-school cooperation and encourage students to study actively? I think teachers should do it from the following aspects: first, improve their self-cultivation and open the door to the soul with love. Educators must be taught first, and those who are correct must be correct. The effective way for teachers to receive education first is to strengthen their moral cultivation. The most valuable thing in the cultivation of teachers' morality is to be a teacher and be willing to contribute. As a teacher, in the conversation with every parent, we must be able to reflect or reflect that our teachers are "all for students", "all for students" and "all for students". Giving his children to you for education can make him feel at ease and secure. As a caring teacher, we have come together for the healthy growth of our children. The growth and development of students are inseparable from the meticulous care and selfless dedication of our teachers, the efforts of parents, and their self-motivation, self-development and self-improvement. Only when the three strings are twisted together can they play their strongest and best functions, and only when they are played at the same time can they play a brilliant tomorrow. For the sake of our beautiful ideal, we must work together to realize it. Teachers are willing to start from bit by bit, observe and care for children at ordinary times, and be good at opening children's "heart lock". Second, take caring for students at all times as the starting point to win the full trust of parents. In the process of daily class management and communication with students, teachers should try their best to make students feel that they care about them, because what parents really care about is: Does the teacher care about my children? Therefore, no matter what kind of communication method the teacher adopts, parents should feel that the teacher really cares about the children. This kind of emotional input is not only the basis of teachers' future work, but also the basis for teachers to gain mutual trust between students and parents. Because students usually tell their parents how their teachers are when they go home, especially some students who seldom get the attention of their teachers. They are likely to tell their parents how their teachers care about them, just like taking credit, to prove that their performance in school is improving. In this way, my emotional investment not only recovered the cost, but also gained benefits, that is, it aroused parents' trust in teachers and asked them to contact me on their own initiative, instead of being forced to complain to parents after the students' situation, and then trying to win over parents and deal with their children with teachers. In addition, when communicating with parents, teachers should pay attention to properly expressing their concern for students and let parents know that you pay special attention to your children. Then you should fully understand the students in advance, including academic performance, personality characteristics, advantages and disadvantages, basic family situation and what you have done for this child. It is best to draw up a simple outline. In this way, when communicating with parents, he can feel that the teacher pays special attention to the children, has a good impression on the teacher's meticulous responsibility, and is more likely to communicate emotionally. For example, a greeting call after a student is ill, a home visit after a student's family has difficulties, and so on. Parents are often very moved and grateful to the teachers for their concern for their children. The possible barriers between them will naturally be eliminated and the trust and support of parents will naturally arise. Third, trust and respect parents and be open-minded. Respecting and being kind to parents is the premise of doing a good job. Put yourself and your parents in the right position. Parents, like teachers, are the guides for children's healthy growth and shoulder the heavy responsibility of educating children. Students are educated by teachers at school and by parents at home. It is also for this purpose that our teacher strengthens contact with parents. Teachers and parents are actually allies, and parents and teachers should play the role of education, guidance and demonstration in children's growth. There is no difference in social status between parents and teachers. If teachers and parents can trust and encourage each other, there will be a friendly, cheerful and cooperative atmosphere. Therefore, teachers should treat students' parents sincerely and equally, gain their trust, strive for their best cooperation, and discuss the best educational methods for children in order to achieve the same educational goals. Teachers should realize that every parent wants to have a proud child, so strong and so face-saving. Education is a rational behavior, and communication with parents requires mutual respect, rationality and wisdom. When students make mistakes, they should get in touch with their parents in time, but they should understand their difficulties, don't scold their parents, and don't pass the mistakes on to their parents. We should respect parents' feelings, be gentle and polite to parents, and communicate the gains and losses of educating children through discussion and conversation. If parents make comments on the work of teachers, they should adopt the attitude of correcting what they have and encouraging what they have, and be tolerant and open-minded. Only in this way can we win the trust of parents and achieve the purpose of communication with parents. Fourth, build a bridge of communication between the two sides on the basis of equality and justice. The differences between parents are objective, with different academic qualifications, different positions and different personalities. No matter what differences exist between parents, from the day he sent his children to school, parents and teachers began the same course-educating their children well. Therefore, teachers should learn to communicate with every parent so that every parent can feel their concern or attention. In other words, teachers can't artificially divide students and parents into "369" and so on. Especially when it comes to students and parents of both sides, teachers should never take the color of secular utility when receiving parents, judge people by their appearance, judge them by their power and measure them by their wealth. The teacher wants a bowl of water to be level, kind, warm and polite, and distinguish right from wrong. Teachers are role models and mirrors for students. Teachers' theoretical level, moral cultivation and handling principles have a far-reaching impact on students. Therefore, dealing with problems equally and fairly can not only solve problems smoothly and happily, but also narrow the distance between teachers and parents, which is conducive to educating students and enhancing their image in the eyes of parents, thus making teachers and schools have a wide and positive social impact. Facts have proved that only sincerity can touch parents' hearts and make them cooperate with teachers happily. Some parents feel constrained and uncomfortable when talking to their teachers. Therefore, teachers should pay attention to creating a relaxed atmosphere, don't talk to parents in a condescending manner, don't ask parents what to do with words like "must" and "should", and children won't blame their parents for their mistakes. Instead, we should respect our parents, actively accept every parent, treat them as our friends, guide them to make valuable suggestions, and promise them as long as. Parents will be consulted when proposing measures to promote children's development with their parents. Common sentence patterns are "Do you think this is ok" and "Do you think this is good". In this way, parents feel respected by the teacher and feel closer emotionally, so the dialogue with parents will naturally be much easier, and parents will often be willing to take the initiative to contact and communicate with the teacher. Fifth, pay attention to flexible and effective communication methods and treat different types of parents differently. Students come from different families, and each parent's education level, quality and upbringing are different. Therefore, teachers should attach importance to communication with parents of students and pay more attention to the art of language. On the basis of seeking truth from facts, teachers should calmly study ways to solve problems with their parents in an attitude of soliciting opinions. In addition, teachers should also understand parents' cultural literacy, professional background and expectations of their children, and then reflect their children's performance to parents in a timely, objective and comprehensive manner according to this information. When talking about the situation, we should overcome the habit of talking about the advantages of parents with gifted students and the disadvantages of parents with poor students, and also prevent the psychology of good people from reporting good news but not worrying. It is necessary to talk about the problems existing in students comprehensively and thoroughly, point out their harmfulness, and express their willingness to discuss solutions with parents. Facts have proved that when teachers and parents build a bridge of communication, they can win the respect, understanding and cooperation of parents and give full play to the important role of family education. The two sides exchange information, inspire each other and complement each other, so that education can form a "joint force" and a "centripetal force". In order to carry out the school work smoothly, parents must cooperate closely, which is inseparable from the effective communication between teachers and parents. Therefore, teachers must pay attention to effective communication with parents. Six, listen to the opinions of parents, * * * business education. School education is based on family education. Generally speaking, parents and children get along with each other day and night, and they know their children's personality characteristics and hobbies like the palm of their hand, which can truly and comprehensively reflect the situation of students at home. If teachers put down the shelf of "educational authority", make use of home visits, parent-teacher conferences, telephone calls, etc., often contact parents, solicit their opinions, listen to their suggestions with an open mind and improve their work, parents will feel that teachers are amiable and trustworthy, thus sincerely supporting and cooperating with teachers' work, which not only improves teachers' prestige, but also helps teachers to fully understand students, and then manage class collectives well. In short, the new educational concept of "people-oriented, all for students' development" can be truly embodied by rationally developing educational resources. So what should teachers do when communicating with parents? First, be honest. Teachers should have a sincere heart for their students. We should worry about the growth of students and be anxious about their progress. When talking with parents, be frank and open-minded. Under normal circumstances, teachers should introduce students' strengths and weaknesses in front of parents and sincerely point out the direction of students' future efforts. Only in this way can we win the respect and trust of parents and students, and we can "learn from their teachers and believe in their ways". Second, we must be emotional and rational. Teachers should create a harmonious conversation atmosphere, and manage the conversation content and topics before parents come to school, so as to know fairly well. The language is frank and sincere, which makes parents feel more cordial. Never be careless and let your parents feel lost. Through the emotional communication and information transmission between the two sides, we can find a solution to the problem. Third, seek truth from facts. When communicating with parents about students' problems, teachers should first reflect on their shortcomings and mistakes in their work. They must never take stock of students' mistakes in front of their parents, let alone "add fuel to the fire" and graft the grievances and complaints of "hating iron and not turning into steel" on their parents. It is necessary to point out the faults of students realistically and provide parents with sensible, reasonable and legal educational strategies. After all, no one is perfect, and even the best students will have shortcomings. Similarly, there should be no useless students in the school, and there will be bright spots in the naughty children. The key is that teachers should be good at discovering their own bright spots, guiding them in time, strengthening their advantages and gradually transforming them. Fourth, listen humbly. Teachers should fully understand parents' feelings of "looking forward to their children's success" and "looking forward to their daughters' success", help parents understand their children comprehensively and correctly, and gain their understanding and support for school education. At the same time, we should also listen to parents' opinions with an open mind, listen to their educational views, see if we have neglected some bright spots in students and reflect on whether our work is insufficient. Teachers face parents from different social classes, engaged in different occupations, and have differences in age, personality and cultural literacy. Therefore, talking to parents should vary from person to person. In the process of conversation, parents' psychological endurance should be fully considered, parents' attitudes and language skills should be paid attention to, and children's performance in school should be reflected positively and concretely as far as possible, so as to reduce "complaints". When talking with parents who have high cultural literacy and attach importance to education, you can discuss the current situation of education with them and listen to their opinions carefully; When talking with parents with low cultural accomplishment, be affable, talk more about practical problems, and treat parents with respect and modesty. Don't think that only you know education, you are better than your parents. Only in this way can we gain the trust, understanding and cooperation of parents and educate their children together. Listen carefully and respond. Our teachers should take the initiative to pay attention to them, keep in touch with them often, and pay attention to the ways and places of communication, put respect first, let them feel the teacher's care for their children, and attract parents' cooperation with our sincerity. Here, I have a deeper understanding of how important it is to talk face to face with parents, especially those "picky" parents. Fifth, use the role replacement method to communicate with parents with emotion and master some communication skills. Sometimes a very ordinary greeting and a nice tone will leave a good impression on people. In the communication with parents, our teachers often discuss children's problems with parents from the perspective of teachers. However, in today's society, as teachers in the new era, under the premise of * * * educating children well, our teachers sometimes have to think for their parents and put themselves in their shoes. Put yourself in the parents' shoes, help them solve problems, and win their trust, then our education will be half successful. If we don't have sincerity, don't know how to think for our parents, and blindly pursue their responsibility of educating their children, we will only isolate ourselves from family education and lose the cooperation of our parents. Therefore, when communicating with parents, teachers should put themselves in their shoes. As long as we can think from the perspective of empathy, we can achieve the best communication with our parents and the best family education effect. So as to achieve the best cooperation between family education and school education. Six, "civilized language" is the lubricant of communication between teachers and parents. Communication between teachers and parents can often get twice the result with half the effort, which is conducive to narrowing the distance between teachers and parents. Common civilized expressions are: (1). How is your child today? Are you free? Can we talk about your children? (3). Thank you! Thanks to your support and help, it was done well. Please rest assured that we will remember to remind him. Sorry, I'm not sure about it. Will you let me know? Hello, can I help you? (7) Your child has made rapid progress in XXX recently. Excuse me, which child are you here to pick up? Excuse me, please wait a moment. ⑽. You are welcome to put forward more opinions and suggestions on our work. In order to make schools and families educate people together, teachers should pay attention to the following points when seeking effective solutions to students' problems: First, communicate with students' parents and choose appropriate time and place. Everyone is in a bad mood sometimes, so this is not the time to talk to parents. To communicate with parents, we must first understand the students' family situation indirectly before we can decide whether it is suitable to talk to parents. Second, be good at listening when communicating with parents. Most teachers talk more than they listen when they meet their parents. They only care about their own happiness, beating and cursing, and they are exhausted. When they are tired, their parents' ears are blocked. I'll take it out on the kids when I get back. We should always keep a cordial smile, face them, understand the feelings of parents, face them with a teacher's unique patience, understand them through empathy, and convince them that they have the ability and confidence to educate their children well. Third, to communicate with parents, we should pay attention to the art of language, explain in simple terms, and tell the truth in small words. Students come from different families, and each parent's education level, quality and upbringing are different. It is inevitable that they will meet some rude parents who "hide their ears", so we must pay attention to the art of language. Most students don't tell their parents when they make mistakes at school. Instead, they will say how others are wrong and how teachers protect those students, which often leads to misunderstanding by parents. Therefore, teachers should seek advice on the basis of seeking truth from facts when parents are calm. As long as you look at the problem from the other side's point of view, you can cope with it freely. How to improve the effect of communication is everyone's concern. The following are some common methods in communication: 1. Praise the child is the treasure in the eyes of parents, and every parent places hope on the child. They pinned all their hopes on their children. Therefore, no parent likes to listen to the teacher only talking about crime. Therefore, teachers should pay more attention to children's advantages and achievements, which vary from person to person and have the same language. If teachers and parents don't understand the language, or their education levels are inconsistent, and they don't pay attention to the use of language, it will be difficult to communicate. For parents with a low education level who usually don't care about education, they should find a good starting point when communicating, and they are full of "educational thoughts". Where can parents understand? It is necessary to translate into a language that parents can understand for different objects in order to achieve the purpose of communication. Pay attention to the language and tone of telephone communication. I can't see each other's expression on the phone. All feelings and impressions come from the voice on the phone, and have nothing to do with the tone and words of parents. Teachers should know how to control their emotions. When praising affirmation, the tone should be firm; When talking about children's problems, the tone should be euphemistic. Teachers should turn the telephone into an "emotional hotline". Praise is far more important than criticism. It can mobilize all the positive factors of people and inspire people's sense of responsibility from the heart. Every parent wants to hear the teacher's praise and praise for their children, but it is not enough to talk about advantages. There is a saying: "Let's talk about ten advantages first, and then talk about one disadvantage. "That is to say, the principle of communication with parents of students is: praise and care should run through, sometimes euphemism is needed, but at the same time it should be frank. Teachers open their parents' hearts with love, and parents will trust you and help you with your education and teaching. Second, the way of visiting This is a regular way for schools to contact families, understand parents and guide family education. Home visits should have a direction and purpose, pay attention to art, and never chat aimlessly. We should focus on praise, cut to the chase from the perspective of praise, but point out the shortcomings of students by using peaches. We should remind parents by praising the advantages of other students in a certain aspect, so that parents can understand their children's shortcomings in this aspect and know which direction to work hard in the future. This not only leaves students with face in front of their parents, but also narrows the distance between teachers and students, and also makes the conversation lively and the scene harmonious. Home visits should be warm and sincere, calm, respect parents, carefully understand students' family situation and performance at home, and exchange suggestions with parents to educate students. First of all, we should understand the family background of students, and understand the occupation and work place of students' family members from their basic information or their usual conversations. These can help teachers prepare psychologically and facilitate communication during home visits. Third, hold a parent-teacher conference. This is a way of collective cooperation between schools and families. Create conditions and invite parents to visit the school, attend classes and discuss. First of all, parents with different knowledge levels should be classified before the meeting and different requirements should be put forward for them. This requires teachers to do a good job in investigating parents, including: age, work, hobbies, gender, personality, knowledge level, family status and so on. Then put forward targeted requirements at the parent-teacher conference, which can tell parents what the students are thinking, ask parents to care about the growth of students in an all-round way, and let parents make suggestions on how to enrich students' lives, broaden their horizons and increase their knowledge. Teach them how to educate their children. Secondly, let parents become the main body of the parent-teacher conference, leave enough time for parents, urge parents to make suggestions and opinions to schools, teachers and classroom teachers, and pour out their children's voices. Try to adopt parents' reasonable and practical suggestions, which will narrow the distance between schools and parents. Through parent-teacher conferences, we can get different opinions from parents and teachers and feel the thoughts of people with different identities. Let teachers and parents form an atmosphere of mutual equality and mutual guidance. When seeking parents' opinions, we should sincerely reflect on the reasons for the success or failure of parents and teachers in this parent-teacher conference. Fourth, the impromptu meeting because this kind of meeting is not in the teacher's plan, so the teacher should be cautious without preparation and sufficient information. First of all, understand the purpose of parents. The teacher can politely ask the other person's understanding and views on the event and grasp the purpose of his speech. Secondly, I understand my parents' feelings. There is no need to argue with parents, just listen attentively and understand his feelings. It also means understanding his feelings and affirming his intentions. Wait until you calm down and explain. Finally, express concern for students. What parents really care about is whether the teacher cares about my children. No matter what communication method, parents should feel the teacher's concern for their children. V. individual communications. Written contact. 7. a short talk 8. Interview (face-to-face conversation) is commonly used in the United States, that is, when parents pick up their children, teachers and parents communicate briefly. This is the simplest and most commonly used method. Short-term communication will also receive good results. Communicate with parents by computer e-mail. Telephone exchange. Exercise book exchange. Saturday envelope. Every student will get a Saturday envelope on Saturday. The envelope contains every progress of the students this week, as well as the teacher's simple comments. The student took it home and shared everything he had done this week with his parents, who signed it. Parents can sign their opinions on it or ask to contact the teacher by phone. The students will take the envelopes back to school next week. Thirteen, open the parents' email, ask parents to put forward suggestions, opinions and requirements for classes, schools and teachers, and collect feedback information from teachers in education and teaching. In short, when communicating with parents, teachers must respect the personality of students' parents, especially the parents of so-called "poor students" and "disobedient" children, and help parents build confidence in their children's education. For the problems in the process of education, we should first find the reasons from ourselves, at the same time, we should objectively analyze the crux of the problem, fairly evaluate the family education performance of students and parents, and study the methods to solve the problems with parents. When you expect your parents to do something for your work, we should also think about what their parents think, worry about how anxious their parents are, and believe that everything in the world is ultimately equal to giving and receiving! As the saying goes: "Those who love others will always love others;" "People who respect others will always respect others."