The child has these five performances, which shows that you spoil him! Parents don't change their children!

Speaking of doting, the imaginable scene is usually that children keep shouting "I want it, I want it, I want it!" " Mom and dad, grandparents are scrambling to answer "give, give". Then the children don't want to eat, and the parents chase after them; When the child fell, the parents rushed to help. ...

In fact, as "modern" parents, they may have been insulated from this "primary stage" of pampering. But even so, it is still difficult to avoid giving children excessive love and attention unconsciously and being ambushed by "invisible connivance".

Children's character will be cultivated from an early age and will be shaped when they are young. This character will affect a child's life. In the process of children's growth, we need to observe their behavior at all times. Love is not equal to doting. Isn't there an old saying that spoiling children is like killing them? Parents' doting on their children is not conducive to their healthy growth, and may also ruin their lives. Therefore, if parents find that children usually have these behaviors, they should pay attention to changing the way of education, because children are likely to be spoiled.

Case 1: Youyou's father is a company manager and his mother is an ordinary typist, so Youyou's father often looks down on his mother. Sometimes Youyou's father hates his wife's nagging and will yell at her, "Shut up!" " Over time, even Yo-Yo will follow suit and yell at her mother. If she wants to interrupt her mother and express her opinion, she will growl at her mother: "Shut up and listen to me ..."

Case 2: Xiao Wei's father allowed Xiao Wei and his parents to call each other names and nicknames, discuss anything with his son, and allow him to bargain and talk back in order to cultivate his children's self-confidence at home. Now, Xiao Wei is bossing his parents around in public. If parents make any demands, Xiao Wei will bargain or embarrass them.

Parents are greatly responsible for their children's reckless and disrespectful behavior towards their elders.

In the first case, Youyou doesn't respect his mother's behavior, which largely imitates his father's attitude towards his mother. His forbearing attitude towards his father makes Youyou mistakenly think that "mother has no temper and her mother is good at bullying". Dad "smiled and accepted" Youyou's rude behavior. In this way, Youyou will further develop a perverse and willful temper.

In the second case, we see that it is not good to encourage children to "challenge authority" regardless of the occasion and place. Children can express different opinions, but they must abide by the order of getting along with others on the basis of full respect for their elders, which requires conscious education and guidance from parents. If children are only 4 or 5 years old, they have shown disrespect for their elders, so parents should examine whether there is a problem with their own education methods-because the premise of children's harmonious coexistence with others in society in the future is precisely based on respect for others.

Parents often sigh when exchanging parenting classics: "How happy children are now!"

Exploring the connotation behind this statement is nothing more than two points: first, children now receive more attention; Second, today's children have richer material conditions.

Many adults will also be afraid and change their ways to motivate their children to do something they think should be done well. In order to urge him to work hard to achieve the goal we hope to achieve. For example:

"Be obedient, Dad will buy you a new toy." "Wash your hands and face, and I'll buy you ice cream." "Finish this painting well and reward you with delicious food."

Have you ever taken this so-called "trick" to motivate children? In fact, many parents tend to use material rewards and quite agree with this way. They say:

"Giving children real material stimulation is far more useful than preaching a hundred times."

But this way is wrong, because many things are the responsibility of children. Parents will seduce their children in this way, but it will stifle their initiative. And if your child has to finish the task like this, it can only prove that your child is spoiled by you, and you spoil your child too much.

Even some children like to exchange things with their parents that don't belong to them. For example, if you buy me toys, I won't cry. You take me to the amusement park, and I'll give you your mobile phone back.

But this kind of behavior is wrong, which is equivalent to robbery in disguise. Parents must stop it in time and don't let their children succeed, otherwise they will set up a strong robber logic view for their children.

When young mothers chat together, they all feel that their children are getting "lazy". Nine-month-old children can drink water from their own bottles, but they don't take it, and their parents have to bring it to their mouths. When I was 2 years old, I told him to ride a bike for exercise, but the child just didn't move, preferring to stay on the sofa and watch TV ... "How can this go on? Isn't this child a waste? " In fact, sometimes parents do too much, which will make the baby lazy.

Case 1: "Baby, come and eat, open your mouth!" Grandma Zhang followed her grandson and watched the opportunity to feed her from time to time. The little grandson ran in all directions for a while, then picked up the car and drove it "toot" without swallowing a mouthful of rice.

Case 2: "I'm going to be late! Come on, Doudou, get up and reach for the sweater! " Although the two alarm clocks kept ringing, Doudou, who just started high school this year, still didn't want to get up, so his mother had to come over and lift the quilt and help him get dressed. At this time, grandma is squeezing toothpaste for her grandson, pouring water for washing her face and having a good meal, while dad is responsible for carrying the bag, hat and gloves for Doudou. The whole family is busy taking care of the child.

There are fewer children now, and a family often has only one or two children. In addition, family conditions are much better than in the past, and parents and family members are certainly reluctant to let their children do housework. Especially when there are elderly people at home, children have to dress and eat, and even have family members to help carry their schoolbags after school. The children just need to follow them. Parents think this is a sign of loving their children, but they don't know that it will make their children more and more lazy and even take care of their daily lives, so that in junior high school, high school and even college, they have to pack their dirty clothes and take them home for their mothers to wash, but they can't even wash a pair of socks at ordinary times.

"If you play the cello badly, you will lose your temper; Lose your temper if you don't listen to her; I lost my temper when I criticized her. How can this child lose his temper so easily? " A mother on the internet asked for help on the forum on how to solve the problem of children losing their temper easily.

It is normal for children to be lively and noisy, and sometimes they lose their temper. If their children can't lose their temper repeatedly, they will only be bullied by Nuo Nuo, so parents should be worried. However, it is normal for a child to lose his temper, but the child easily loses his temper, which shows that he is spoiled by his family at home. I am used to being a little princess and emperor at home, but I still ask others to obey him when I go out. Most of these children are selfish and only think about themselves. In the future, they will face more obstacles than other children. Once parents find that their children have this kind of behavior, they must stop it in time to prevent them from continuing to make mistakes.

First, their expected goals have not been achieved and cannot be achieved;

Second, their own interests and articles have been violated.

Then, how should parents guide children when they lose their temper?

1. Accompany children and get along emotionally.

2, usually exercise children to learn to control.

3. Parents stick to their "bottom line"

In fact, children lose their temper more because they want to attract their parents' attention or ask their parents for help, which is quite right. At this time, parents should give support and companionship, otherwise, in the long run, children will lose trust in their parents, be bullied and dare not say it, and be wronged to bear it.

Therefore, parents, please be patient, be patient again, spend more time with your children, find out the true meaning of their temper, face it with your children and solve it together.

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