How to recover when women are angry and blackened?

How to recover when women are angry and blackened?

How do you respond when a woman is angry and hacked? Women tend to be emotional. When quarreling with men, I often like to blacken men's WeChat. Here I collected some information about how to get back when women are angry and hacked. I hope I can help you!

How do you get back when women get angry and blacken 1? First, what is behind the anger?

Psychologically, this behavior has been defined as "resorting to action"

Simply put, "when we have emotions, we can't express them in words, so we will express them through actions."

For example, like the girl mentioned above, when quarreling with her boyfriend, she can't vent her emotions through words. She can only vent her emotions by going out in the dark and throwing things, and tell you "I am very angry" with actions.

Recourse to action is a defense mechanism, which can help us reduce the intrusion of anxiety on our hearts.

As soon as the emotions come up, I express my emotions through actions. I feel very cool and relaxed, and the unhappy feeling seems to disappear immediately.

In fact, in addition to emotions, many people will use this action to vent their emotions in many scenes in their lives.

For example, in the workplace, the boss said something to you, and if you are unhappy, you will leave, and if you quarrel with your friends, you will start work.

These are all manifestations of resorting to action, and they are all means of expressing emotions that we learned in the process of growing up. The teachers in our school only teach us knowledge, but never teach us how to express our feelings correctly.

When a person can't bear emotions and can't express them in words, he may take actions to relieve emotional stress like a child.

So, why do you want to black each other when you are angry? Because black can attract each other's attention. Repeated hacking means that I care about this relationship, and I will get your attention by hacking you repeatedly.

However, when we resort to action, we are not only easy to hurt ourselves and each other, but also often bring devastating damage to our relationship.

Many girls break up because of emotional instability and unreasonable expression of emotions. They want to get love and express love, but they are constantly hurt.

How to provide stable emotional value in feelings, we have shared a lot in the article of WeChat official account at the end of the article!

Second, what is behind emotional instability?

What is hidden behind emotional instability? Maybe it's hidden fear and sadness.

Because teachers feel that there is a poor and helpless child hidden in their hearts. The child is afraid that if he shows weakness, he will be attacked and rejected by others.

Isn't there a saying that "the stronger he is, the more fragile he is"? He needs to be strong to cover up his weakness.

In intimate relationships, they will also be strong, because they feel inferior, afraid and afraid of the failure of this relationship.

So they will resort to actions to hack each other, delete each other and beat each other to cover up their weak position in intimate relationships.

Tell you through a very impulsive and inappropriate expression, have you seen me? Do you see my mood? Do you see my pain?

In view of this situation, what should we do? Separated by resorting to behavior, how to save each other?

You should know that resorting to action really helps us, but in intimate relationships, this way of expressing emotions is wrong and inappropriate.

1, stay awake to your emotions.

It is when you realize that your anger is going to be ignited and you want to do something impulsively, you should see clearly why you are angry and what needs are behind your emotions.

Only when you are aware of the needs behind your emotions can you communicate and express yourself, instead of pretending to be strong and indifferent by watching actions, and then wanting to be loved, which will hurt the relationship.

For example, if you quarrel with your boyfriend because of discussing a problem, your demand is that you want your boyfriend to respect your opinion, and you can solve the problem through communication instead of resorting to action.

Action is the basic function, and some love needs to be expressed through action; Language is an advanced function, and some injuries can be avoided through language.

Express your feelings, not emotional expressions, and your intimate relationship will be smooth and stable.

2. Let the other person know that you have changed your mood.

Your ex may break up with you because you are not good at expressing emotions, make changes in emotional expression, and convey your changes in some way.

For example, you can write a redemption letter, because the most important communication of emotional expression is to let the other person feel your change from communication.

Let your guard down, so as to pave the way for future recovery.

If you have also been broken up because of the job of blackmailing, and tried many methods to no avail, you can look at the end of the article for help!

Temporary emotional problems are not terrible, nor are they hopeless! It is not difficult to save nature successfully as long as a systematic scientific method is adopted!

How can a woman be saved when she is angry and hacked 2 1? Chatting with her can meet her needs.

Eighty percent of people want to talk to each other every day. Judging from the cases we have handled, the most common thing they ask old drivers is: how can I chat with her? I said, what if you don't talk to her? They told me that if I could have a few words with her, my heart would be as sweet as candy. If I don't talk to her, my heart will be like a pimple.

Talking to her will save her.

This is almost everyone's idea that chatting with girls can save each other. As we all know, many people get the result that they are not interested in chatting at all. After several more chats, the other party's reply became slower and colder. Although we understand their idea of chatting, many times saving can not be solved by chatting.

3. Try to convince each other with words.

Everyone who saved it has used this trick. At first, the other party will communicate with you. However, with your constant questioning and reasoning, the other party feels that you don't know why she broke up. The result is more and more arousing women's disgust and resistance, making girls more angry, angry and contemptuous, and finally having to keep in touch.

How to chat with each other correctly after reunion?

This question actually involves a wide range, so next, I will explain the process of chatting after the reunion.

First of all, we must professionally evaluate the reasons for breaking up and understand the degree of resistance of the other party. Then, we must understand each other's personality characteristics, fully understand girls, such as hobbies, daily behavior, social circle, personality characteristics, previous chat records with the man, etc., so as to determine the direction and specific language of chatting with the woman.

1, measuring the value balance.

Whether a relationship can be maintained or not, the value of relative balance is very important, including appearance, economic income, life taste, personality charm, mutual investment, and the degree of interest binding between the two sides.

How to judge the above aspects? Each item can be scored. If the comprehensive score is close, it will be relatively balanced. If the scores are too different, then the gap between the two sides in this relationship will be very large, which will naturally affect the relationship between the two sides.

2, so whether the comprehensive evaluation of this relationship is balanced is the core basis that affects the chat between two people.

For example, generally speaking, men want to save girls, but the difference between men and girls is too great. There will be a situation where the girl's frame is too strong and the boy is obviously in a state of kneeling. If they are close, boys can communicate with girls normally. After all, in the minds of girls, the value impression of boys has been implanted into her mind through the heart anchor.

3, forget to save it, and then go after her.

When it comes to redemption, we will come up with two words, feelings!

Teacher, does she still love me?

Does she still have feelings for me?

What is she thinking?

Once it comes to the topic of feelings, boys will inevitably have three ways of thinking. Thousands of cases have proved that once we talk about feelings immediately after reunion, girls will immediately have a kind of resistance and conflict, and the consequence is that communication and exchanges between the two sides can't go on.

Therefore, forgetting to save is the best choice!

At this time, what you need to do is to treat her as a familiar stranger, not your predecessor. Of course, this theory is more anti-human, so many people are very entangled and painful, and they can't make up their minds.

The person who does it will find that when he makes up his mind, his state will return to the first time he met this girl, and the two of them will be suddenly enlightened. At this time, the idea of chatting and the topic of chatting keep popping up, and girls will suddenly find that the familiar one is back.

Adapt to the changing environment

Let's talk about the specific chat process!

In chatting, remember a few key words, natural, not entangled, not entangled.

Before chatting with the other person, I believe you have done a lot of homework or learned some chat materials. We won't introduce how to interact specifically. After all, every girl's characteristics are different, and the topic of chatting is also very different, but there are several situations that will be the same, that is, how to solve the problem?

I didn't reply until I met a girl for a long time. What should I do if I met a girl with IOD and a girl with a cold response?

Be patient! ! !

As I said before, we are chasing her again, and the sense of demand need not be so obvious. You can do your own thing while chatting with her, instead of staring at the screen with your mobile phone and waiting for her reply. In that case, maybe you can't solve the core problem of your chat by putting your mobile phone through a hole.