My boyfriend is hot and cold to me. I think he cheated on me. What should I do?

Personally, I think this question should be answered in two parts. The first is that my boyfriend is hot and cold to me, and the second is that I think he is cheating on me.

Let's look at the first part first. My boyfriend is hot and cold to me. I believe that many men have this common problem, and they will not always or always maintain a high passion for their girlfriends. There are two reasons: one is men's own attributes, and the other is the difference in women's way of thinking and requirements.

I have a friend named Xiao Pang, who has been a game fan since college. He was lucky enough to talk about a very good girlfriend after graduation. He was also very surprised and happy. Every day after work, he coaxed his girlfriend, accompanied her to eat her favorite food, visited her favorite places, and his circle of friends was full of dog food. Their relationship is progressing very smoothly and rapidly. A few years ago, I went to Bali during the May Day holiday. Looking at the photos, the boy is still learning to be a gentleman in that romantic place. He got down on one knee and proposed marriage, which made him intoxicated with his female ticket. Only after coming back, subtle changes have taken place in this fat man. He quietly started playing games again and turned on the computer as soon as he got home from work. His girlfriend asked him to go out shopping and make various prevarications. Several times, his girlfriend turned off his computer directly, and he was angry and wanted to smash the computer, so Xiao Pang didn't want to go out with his girlfriend.

But it didn't take long for Xiao Pang to change and start playing games. He downloaded a mobile game on his mobile phone, holding his girlfriend in his left hand and staring at the mobile phone in his right hand. When his girlfriend tried on clothes, she asked him for advice. He said it looked good without looking up. His girlfriend almost knocked off his cell phone several times.

One weekend, his girlfriend was on a business trip and Xiao Pang was playing games at home. As usual, my girlfriend called to ask if he had eaten, but no one answered the phone. In the evening, Xiao Pang found that there were more than a dozen unanswered calls. When he called back, he was scolded by his girlfriend.

Later, his girlfriend quarreled with him and cried bitterly, saying that he had changed his mind. I was lukewarm to him and asked him sadly if there was someone else. Xiao pang wants to cry without tears, which is indisputable.

Therefore, a man's hot and cold actually doesn't mean anything. He was probably just busy or tired. Whether you are working, playing games or doing other things, the time you are looking for is just not right. It is also possible that he just overdraws his concern for you, which is a bit like "aesthetic fatigue" and wants to leave some space for himself. It is also possible that he just "finished" you and then slowed down a little. It may also be because your requirements and expectations are a bit "princess disease", which does not mean his efforts, a psychological illusion and illusion.

Then let's look at the second part. What should I do if I always feel that he is cheating?

When a man really cheats, it's easy to show the cloven foot. Women are born Sherlock Holmes, which has been verified by many women. Believe in yourself and trust each other. Cheating can't be suspected casually, which will easily irritate boys and lead to unnecessary trouble. There is even an act of "breaking the jar and breaking the fall" after being hurt, and you will regret it then.

Doubt can stay in your heart silently, observe silently, speak with evidence, and trust your eyes. Catching shadows is a taboo for men and women. A lot of trouble is caused by mutual suspicion.

Finally, I send you a word: if you are in full bloom, butterflies will come; If you are wonderful, you can arrange it yourself.