Does the mobile phone bring us closer or farther?

Before I started talking with Xiao Wei, I sat in a quiet coffee shop, listening to soothing music. Through the floor-to-ceiling glass, I saw her holding a mobile phone all the way, half looking down at something. The whole picture is like seeing a zombie without a head, moving slowly and stepping in.

Soon, I found this conversation extremely disappointing

Because her mobile phone is always ringing, it is either a WeChat prompt or a phone call, which will make my card stunned. That kind of casual interruption is like going to the toilet, then stopping to get something, and then sitting down, you feel that you can't pull it out.

This metaphor is disgusting, but not as disgusting as reality.

In the novel "Mobile Phone", Comrade Murphy met this situation at the planning meeting of "Let's talk" and couldn't help but break into a furious rage and left. At the moment, I have no courage. After all, the coffee money can't be refunded to me.

When I was quiet, she seemed to notice and looked up.

I said, "Comrade Xiao Wei, I have a classic message for you: the mobile phone is a bastard!" "

The vulgarity, vulgarity and philosophy in such simplicity are not what I said, but what Yan Shouyi said.

2

Yan Shouyi was a naughty boy, but he didn't expect to become a famous host in China, hosting the talk show "Say One", which was just a column name at that time. Yan Shouyi has never done this, especially to his wife Yu.

Yan Shouyi seems to have a lot of contacts, but in fact he doesn't have many friends, including Murphy. Murphy, a university professor, is employed by Yan Shouyi to plan TV programs. There are many emotional factors for various reasons. People think it's not important to find a talking friend after 40. It happened that the two of them hit it off.

Yan Shouyi said that the tone of "mobile phone is an asshole" was heartbreaking, but he totally felt this way. After all, his two divorces were all because of mobile phones.

three

My first wife was Yu, who was my college classmate. Wen Juan doesn't talk much, but she is kind enough and excellent enough, so that every time Yan Shouyi comes back from philandering outside, she often begins to confess herself in her heart and denounce her shameless behavior.

They have a knot, and they have been married for more than ten years without pregnancy. I didn't care for the first few years, but I panicked after a long time. Going to the hospital is a woman's problem, so she blames herself. She started practicing yoga every day, drinking Chinese medicine and giving it to Yan Shouyi.

Bowls of soup and medicine were poured down, much like Yan Shouyi's attitude towards this marriage. Even if it tastes bitter, he can only drink it with a frown. It always moves towards a good goal. He couldn't bear to refuse her efforts.

The taste of dinner is getting more and more boring, and Yan Shouyi is stealing it outside. After all, size is also a celebrity, and many girls are rubbing their bodies. Yan Shouyi is not strict with himself, nor does he "raise" his body, fooling around more than once. But Yan Shouyi knew very well that these were just for fun, and he didn't develop feelings or secondary contacts.

The only exception is that I met a little girl named wuyue at a meeting in Lushan that year. She was not particularly beautiful, but she had a good figure, a thin waist and a big hip, and her chest was as big as two basketballs. Unlike other women, she called names, which made Yan Shouyi, who was numb in the pedantic old society, find a different feeling, and it was this feeling that made him unable to contact her actively. (wuyue in the movie of the same name is played by Fan Bingbing. Of course, I just mentioned it, that's all. )

This time, if I don't hold back, something big will happen.

There is no difference between cheating and drug abuse in essence, and they are both addictive, but this addiction is not necessarily caused by sex itself, but by mental poisoning caused by sexual partners. For Yan Shouyi, wuyue is like another psychological self. She is wild and bold. She always hides in her mobile phone and never asks for anything.

This is an evil path, a crooked path, but the more evil it is, the greater the temptation, just like drinking water when you are thirsty. Yan Shouyi began to lose control of his desires and thoughts, and some people were immersed in it.

During the car accident with, Wen made a phone call and was prevaricated on the grounds of holding a planning meeting with. In order to be completely immersed in the war of words with wuyue, Yan Shouyi turned off his cell phone directly.

This shutdown completely ended his relationship with Yu.

Turning off the phone is really a wonderful function, which provides all kinds of reasons for those who don't want to answer the phone, such as prohibiting the phone from ringing during the meeting, such as the battery of the phone is dead and so on.

This is not unheard of for me. Only this time, my cousin Blackhead bought a new mobile phone and called to say that Grandma wanted to talk to Yan Shouyi, but the phone couldn't get through.

When the phone call was made to Murphy, who was walking his dog downstairs, the story was exposed. Wen understands that there must be something wrong with Yan Shouyi's blatant lying, and he usually doesn't have to guess anything. I pulled out her soaked feet and began to wander on the floor. She cried when she looked at the wet footprints on the floor.

The invention of mobile phone shortens the physical distance between two people, and also makes the psychological distance between two people farther. The secret has finally found a hidden place, the dirty package has been found, and it seems that everything that happened has been erased without leaving a trace.

But this time, Yan Shouyi is doomed.

Yan Shouyi didn't know what was revealed, but he still pretended as if nothing had happened when he got home, but the hunter had gone out. In the welcome kiss that took the door, Wen sniffed out all kinds of flavors and finally found that the taste in her mouth was wrong. That's another woman's lipstick. Then Murphy called and told him that things were falling apart. Then came a short message from Wu Yuefa, reminding him not to take off his underwear. He was bitten in the car.

Yu's heart was completely cold. She just said, Yan Shouyi, you don't have me anymore.

four

Yan Shouyi's second divorce is still related to mobile phones.

Yan Shouyi, whose marriage failed for ten years, decided to sever the relationship with wuyue completely and deleted the relevant number. In these frank days, his relationship with Mr. Shen Xue, who teaches Mandarin, began to advance by leaps and bounds. I was interviewed by my grandmother when I took it home, and I basically passed. After he came back, they lived together smoothly.

Shen Xue is different from. She looks more like snow lotus. She spends most of her time at school, staying in this environment, and has never been contaminated with many dark sides of society.

From the good mobile phone in Yan Shouyi, it has become unusually quiet, and the only worry may come from Wen Juan. They were not pregnant after ten years of marriage, and only after divorce did they find out that they were pregnant with his child. Out of guilt or compensation, Yan Shouyi wanted to do something for her. Whether it is sending money or helping to arrange work, he can only do his best and do some responsibilities.

But obviously, Yan Shouyi thought it could not be told to Shen Xue. After all, at present, all employees can't accept being involved with his ex-wife, so every cell phone call with Brother Yu is a strange number.

This time, there is a child hidden in his mobile phone.

Perhaps Yan Shouyi mistakenly used his mobile phone to hide his ugliness from the beginning, and he ignored an important fact: the mobile phone was never a tool to hide secrets, on the contrary, it was a weapon to expose secrets and lies.

When a person becomes a number in the address book, can a secret be hidden as a string of numbers?

No, no matter how clean the mobile phone is deleted, life will definitely betray you.

Wuyue wants to enter the TV station. She wants to host the program with Yan Shouyi. Of course, Yan Shouyi disagreed. He doesn't know what she really wants to do. Why did she never ask for it, but now she has this idea? But the director, deputy director and other multi-level leaders have hinted at the existence of wuyue intentionally or unintentionally, which makes Yan Shouyi feel that this person is very strange.

Why does the deputy director and others want to help her? Thinking of the two basketballs on my chest is really darkness, and darkness can conquer everything. I remember the last cocktail party, when they checked in again under the influence of alcohol, wuyue took a photo with his mobile phone, and he began to tremble and sweat.

Unexpectedly, Murphy had an accident first.

Murphy and female graduate students forgot to take out their check-in cards, and his wife Li Yan found out. By the way, the photos of Yan Shouyi's children hidden in Murphy's home and the passbook for giving money to the children were exposed.

After Shen Xue returned to China, he also began to go to war with Yan Shouyi. On the one hand, Yan Shouyi covered Murphy in front of her, on the other hand, she didn't know so much about hiding the child and the passbook behind her. More importantly, in recent days, Yan Shouyi often turned off her phone and couldn't get through. So what the hell is he doing?

Yan Shouyi was cornered and slapped his cell phone. Don't you doubt my mobile phone? Then let me check it for you. Then he slammed the door. He completely regretted going out. What if May calls at this time?

At this time, Li Yan told Shen Xue that the telephone office could check the phone records and take her to make a list. Originally, Shen Xue didn't want to do this, but after returning home, the phone on the shoe cabinet rang and the caller ID was on.

Shen Xue felt as if he had been severely slapped. Take out the list, find out the phone records of the last hour or more, and check them against the address book. It was wuyue.

Shen Xue's head tightened, and she felt breathless: they were still in contact. Talked 1 hour. What are they talking about? Shen Xue calmed down and sent a short message on Yan Shouyi's mobile phone: What are you thinking? I want to know.

After recording the program, Yan Shouyi rushed home in high spirits and found Shen Xue sitting on the sofa, silently striking matches. Next to a pile of matchsticks is his mobile phone, which shows a photo of Wu Yuefa: the two of them are lying naked in a bed.

Yan Shouyi divorced for the second time.

five

When I first read "Mobile Phone", I will feel that it is a story about the secrets in the mobile phone. Yan Shouyi broke up with her husband many times, resulting in two breakups.

After reading it, I have to think about another question: does the mobile phone bring us closer or farther?

The emergence of mobile phones allows us to communicate with people thousands of miles away instantly. Distant people and things seem to be around, and the world is within reach.

From this perspective, mobile phones shorten our physical distance and bring us closer.

However, more often, we use the close-up of mobile phones to spy on other people's lives, maintain a dispensable relationship, and pretend to control the world.

In fact, the appearance and use of mobile phones are also changing our psychology:

Our tolerance for time is declining. If we don't answer the phone 1 minute, we will get angry. If you don't return to WeChat for 2 minutes, you will become restless. My circle of friends is not good for three minutes, but it is heartless.

Our tolerance for distance is also declining. In reality, no matter how far home is, it feels close to you once a year. Nowadays, the network home can enter the space with one click, and the circle of friends is almost close at hand, which is too far away.

The discomfort caused by these "proximity" can only show that when the distance is erased by the mobile phone, there is no longer a suitable sense of space between people. As an individual, what I feel is that the back garden of the spirit is being peeped. How can I have a heart-to-heart conversation? When GPS can locate every step, we have no secrets.

So we often see a couple sitting at home, but playing with their mobile phones; The family has dinner, but each takes his own photos; A group of friends karaoke, but one person sings and one person brushes the circle of friends.

From this point of view, the psychological distance between more people has been pulled further by mobile phones.

Maybe on the day when you are driven crazy by your mobile phone, you can learn tuition and point to your mobile phone and say, "Near, too close, people who are close can't breathe!" " "

Of course, you can also learn from Yan Shouyi's saying: What is a mobile phone?

Cell phones are assholes!