There is a girl who we send text messages every day.

can't trust feelings. If she actually needs someone to rely on, and you want to get satisfaction by letting her rely on it, just do it. You are doing things along the edge. On the other hand, you have to imagine that there is a delusional fulcrum, which is the reverse edge.

For example, "I know that at first I just continued to love my girlfriend to take care of her, but as time went on, I became more and more dependent on her smile and her voice". What does your feeling have to do with her? Since it has nothing to do with her, aren't you delusional in the air?

"I began to want to keep her", "I secretly sent flowers to QQ", "I was about to collapse" and "I could feel that I was not qualified to love her". See for yourself, there are contradictions and conflicts. This is the capricious nature. In fact, you just put your feelings for your ex-girlfriend on her, and a moment that ought to have lasted for ever. Psychologically, you are still stuck in the lingering sound that you want to chase but can't do anything about it. This leads you to lose sight of your true thoughts: you don't want to get satisfaction by letting her rely on it. Then you have the following feeling:

"But I know that girls are so reliable that people want to rely on them but don't really like them." You can't even see your own reality, so how can you see others? This feeling you have is still for your ex-girlfriend. So, what is the actual situation of the girl now?

1. She also sent me a lot of short messages, such as "She suddenly told me that she would spend the night outside with her boyfriend" and so on.

2. She accepted my concern for her with a smile and no other response.

3. She used to be invisible, and recently she has always been online. Today, she told me that she was all right, for fear that I would delay my study. 4. Today, she told me not to always remember to send it when I think of it. < P > The other person is also a human being, and after being dumped, she vented her anger on you out of thin air. Didn't you have someone to accompany you before? That's right. Because you have the same experience, you are special friends. You can play some special jokes about the feelings of men and women to commemorate the days when you had the same experience. But that's all, such as 2. The reaction of result 2 gives you a sense of security, because it seems that you don't need commitment. As a result, when you help back, you understand the other person's sense of humor as making eyes at him, and the other person has to remind you that nature is the foundation.

Therefore, it is unknown whether the other party needs someone to rely on, at least it is certain that the other party does not need to rely on you.

So, when you return to the objective overall situation, what do you see?

"I finally got out of the pain of the last breakup because of her company. During this period, she broke up with her boyfriend who had been in love for a week. I broke up because of his boyfriend. Later, I accompanied her to comfort her and said something about her."

Actually, this is a balance of giving and receiving. However, you didn't thank her. The so-called gratitude means that you really feel that you have received something beneficial from the other party, and your conscience makes you feel that you really owe the other party. In fact, in this case, what you really should be grateful for is your ex-girlfriend. The girl in front of me actually accepted something from you, which should have been given to her by her boyfriend, so you will have a tendency to get feelings from her.

if you don't realize what you got from your ex-girlfriend, think about this sentence: the other person gave me an empty bowl. You will understand that expressing gratitude to your ex-girlfriend is the key to restoring peace.