My son has just entered the first year of high school, but he is obsessed with mobile phones, and his grades have fallen sharply. What should I do?

Senior one boy, fifteen or sixteen years old, rebellious, not studying hard, addicted to mobile phone network.

This situation cannot be solved by simple empty and pale preaching.

Some people say that if you want to change a spoiled child, take him to three places:

Take him to the railway station first, and see the passengers on the slow train. Let the children witness with their own eyes the melancholy and anxious expressions, gaunt faces and hurried steps of migrant workers who are running around in their lives and feel the hardships of their lives. Then tell him that if you don't study hard, your life will be like this for the rest of your life.

Second, take him to high-speed railway station. Let him witness the riding environment of the high-speed rail and the identity and characteristics of people who take the high-speed rail. Then tell him that only through hard work can you get on the high-speed train on the journey of life.

Third, take him to the airport. Let him feel the convenience and speed of the plane with his own eyes, then look at the identity and characteristics of the passengers who fly, and then tell him that if he can fly in his life journey, it is necessary. If he doesn't study hard now, there will be no such opportunities and conditions in the future.

I don't fully agree with this practice, it feels too utilitarian.

However, this educational thought and method can be referenced, and it sends several clear signals:

1. Happiness can only be achieved through your own efforts.

There are differences between people, which can be shortened and changed through hard work and struggle.

3. A good life is not to sit back and enjoy it, but to strive for it through your own struggle.

Nowadays, children are not easy to discipline. The fundamental problem is that they are spoiled and completely spoiled.

To change a spoiled child:

First, we should touch the child's heart.

Second, children must be allowed to experience the hardships and difficulties of life.

What kind of things and ways can touch a child's heart?

I especially appreciate and admire what a former colleague of mine did. This is the case with his son. He won't listen to anything he says. No choice, he took his children to do public welfare activities during the holiday? Care for left-behind children.

He asked the children to have in-depth contact with these left-behind children and understand their family situation, living conditions, study conditions, psychological methods, dreams and pursuits.

Pay your own money and let your son give a love to these left-behind children. Guide his son to help these poor left-behind children with his own efforts, and touch his son's inner world through practical actions, so that he can truly feel how happy his life is. However, I didn't cherish it, but abandoned my great youth in online games and indulged in laziness and decadence.

The children of former colleagues are now in college, and they are still supporting and paying attention to the left-behind child Li.

Every time I come back from vacation, I will bring a lot of school supplies and some food and clothes to Liangliang Ali. I really feel that Li not only received care and support, but more importantly, he also changed my colleague's children.

Therefore, parents are advised to learn from similar practices. Guide children to do some public welfare activities that can touch their hearts. After the child's personal experience and sentiment, it will generally receive results. As long as parents' guidance, companionship, guidance and operation are in place, they will generally receive good educational results.

How to let children experience the hardships of life?

Suggest that children take part in labor practice, and let him really know how hard and difficult life is through labor practice. If you live in the countryside, you don't need to build such a platform, just take your children to work in the fields. Labor must be real, in-depth and take a long time, and it can't be hastily ended in three or two days.

If you live in a city, try to build a working platform for your children for a little longer. It can't be a three-day or two-day experience, at least for a period of time.

After the completion of labor practice, talk to your child about your ideals and goals. Listen to your child's feelings, thoughts and plans. Then, give him some targeted guidance.

Conclusion: By touching the soul and labor experience, children will definitely change. At this time, parents should really accompany and help their children consolidate and extend such achievements. Never think that a child will be completely changed because of his inner touch and personal experience. Children are children after all, and there is a great possibility of a rebound. Therefore, parents must not relax and must be supervised and accompanied. In the process of supervising companionship, we must encourage, support, care, help and guide more. Only with long-term companionship and unremitting persistence can children truly achieve change.