How to keep freshness

The so-called novelty means that we are interested and have an impulse to know. Indeed, many times, novelty makes us impulsive and easy to disappear. Therefore, preservation is often more difficult than preservation.

There are several ways to keep people fresh:

One is the well-known distance. Avoid continuous contact in time and space, and create conditions for both sides to adjust, grow and experience other things. Every time we meet, the two sides are slightly different from before, but where are the differences? Attention is not the obvious difference of wearing new clothes, but the difference that needs to be understood.

Second, the ability of learning and self-renewal. Just like "people can't step into the same river twice", I am not what I was yesterday. In the process of continuous learning and renewal, people maintain their vitality and vitality, as well as potential creativity in life and work. That is, don't be a boring person. Here I think of what Wittgenstein often said: I won't suffocate, because I will make my own air.

The third is to have a field where we can develop ourselves. For example, I write, so what I often publish also needs innovation and continuous development. Then, I formed a strange dimension. That is, he can only know part of me, not all of me. This part of me is changeable. I can get happiness and self-affirmation from it, instead of relying entirely on each other's attitude. This requires the initiative.

Finally, maintaining freshness requires a certain IQ and EQ. If there are obvious differences in the "business" between the two parties, then people with high business will easily lose their freshness to those with low business.