My husband is cheating, and Xiaosan sends me short messages to scold me from time to time. What should I do?

Mr. Lu Xun has a saying: "It is indisputable to mourn his misfortune and anger him." Especially suitable for this.

1. First of all, I suggest you have a good talk with your husband.

On 16, walking together is not a simple matter. You can talk about your past, the bitter days you experienced together, and the love you once had. ......

Don't make noise or trouble. Ask him calmly: can we continue?

Whether it's for the sake of 16' s escaping youth or for the sake of newborn children, this rescue effort must be done. In the future, I will not regret it.

Since we can't get back together, let's separate.

There is a kind of husband and wife who can bear hardships, but can't use wealth. So let nature take its course. Now that you have reached this point, accept it frankly! Face it bravely. Everyone's life is a ditch, so don't be afraid and come out bravely. Think carefully about how you want to go next.

You have to understand that mistress's abuse of you is acquiesced by your husband. If your husband had stopped it, this mistress wouldn't be so arrogant. Not bad for a man who can turn a blind eye to his abused wife.

3. Get ready and get divorced.

You can't go out to work at once now. You should make plans for raising two children as soon as possible after divorce. Although you don't want to completely tear up 16' s marriage, the reality is often so cruel. How can I feed you and your children without tears? How to maintain your dignity without tearing? Don't tear it. Don't you want to live your life?

Ask a lawyer what evidence is good for you, and then prepare it secretly. Try to hold the financial power in your own hands and be clear about your property. When all this is ready, show your cards to your husband and see if he is willing to go out clean. If you don't want to, sue for divorce.

4. This process is painful, and it is a denial of your 16 years' contribution to this family; It's a denial of the feelings between you in the past 16 years. No matter how painful, for the sake of children, we must persist; No matter how painful you are, you must persist in order not to commit suicide because of depression; No matter how painful it is, stick to it for a lifetime.

The reality is cruel, each of us is struggling in this cruel reality, and no one is smooth sailing, so don't be too pessimistic, you are not the worst one.

Reality has abused me thousands of times, and I regard reality as my first love.