I find myself really useless ~ ~ very useless ~ ~

A clown once told me a classic sentence: "Love is a man and a woman talking nonsense together."

Personally, I think this sentence is very meaningful.

Because if there is no lingering love words and vows between two people, in fact, what needs to be done by two people together in love can still be done, and it can be done very well. You can still date, kiss, have sex, get married and have children, but in this case, it seems that you are not in love.

So, when it comes to "love", it's not because you've dated, kissed, slept together, or got married and had children. The love between two people is only because of the sentimental love words you said together, and the vows of eternal love. Take off these, love is no longer love; As long as these are preserved, even if there is nothing left, it can still be called Platonic spiritual love.

Unfortunately, the most important content in these relationships is often the most unreliable. Even if two people really come together in the end, I'm afraid that one-tenth of those love words and nonsense blurted out at the beginning will eventually come true, even if it's quite good.

This is why a failed relationship always hurts. It may not matter if you talk too much nonsense, but if you believe too much, you will suffer in the end, whether you are inseparable or not.

The most contradictory thing about love is that it can't be called love without talking nonsense; But once you talk too much, it is inevitable that someone will take everything seriously and eventually harm others and themselves. How to grasp this scale well, not only can we enjoy the unrestrained pleasure when love is on fire, but also can avoid being hurt when love returns to dullness or even breakdown, which requires constant life experience.

2. About women.

Men always say that they don't understand women, hehe, actually it doesn't matter. Because women don't know themselves at all.

Many young men will have such a puzzle: why do women say things so easily that they don't count? Are they born liars, or are women born fickle?

Actually, it's not.

Women don't keep their word, which is determined by two inherent characteristics:

First, women's IQ is not as high as that of men, especially they are not good at rational thinking like men. To put it bluntly, most of the time, they don't know what they are thinking.

Second, women are so emotional that they are thinking about it in their minds, but what comes out of their mouths is another sentence, such as "You are so annoying!" "Every fool knows that the girl who said this sentence must not be thinking that I hate you at this time, but what she is thinking is not necessarily. So to put it simply, women often don't know what they are talking about.

If you are a wise man, don't believe what a woman says. The reason is simple, because many times, they don't know what they are thinking or saying. Trying to use men's logic to solve the real meaning behind what women say can only lead to two results: you are completely crazy; Or you have successfully proved yourself extremely stupid.

3. About men.

The following is my advice to my male compatriots:

If you think you are in love with a woman. Never believe those women's nonsense: "If you really like it, then do it;" Just express it bravely; Just like a man, he boldly pursued ................. "

If you believe these words and put them into action. Unfortunately, your IQ must be below 80.

Women's attitude towards suitors is the same as that of girls towards dolls, that is, the more the better. Because the number of pursuers and the pursuit methods are constantly innovating, it can perfectly satisfy women's innate vanity and show off psychology.

For example, every child has heard the fairy tale of the prince and princess, but few little boys will fantasize about being a prince all day after listening to this story. Almost every little girl will fantasize that she will become a princess after listening to the story, and one day the prince will marry her on a white horse. This is typical vanity and ostentation.

Now let's go back to the doll problem. If you want a woman not to expect more suitors in her mind, it is as difficult and futile as persuading a little girl never to dream of buying all the dolls in the department store. For a man, if you really like a woman, the best strategy is never to be her doll, because if you are, she will never fall in love with you.

How to conquer a woman's heart?

It's simple. Let her know that you are different from all the other men who pursue her. Of course, to do this, you need a little self-knowledge first. That is, if you don't stand out among her suitors, you will never succeed. Perhaps, after your long wait and hard work, when she is about to fade and be hurt by all kinds of men who are better than you, she will choose you to spend her life with her, but I said, you will never get her heart.

So I said, there should be no such thing as chasing girls in the world. The reason for this is that many men have lost their basic reason under the action of androgen. There are many excellent men around to pursue, which is far more satisfying for women to show off than hearing a compliment like "You are so beautiful". But this is only to satisfy women's vanity. She won't fall in love with you because you chase her.

Remember, if a woman falls in love with you, it only takes 1 to 2 minutes. Of course, these two minutes may not necessarily appear when you meet for the first time, but they will definitely not appear after you have known each other for a week or seven times. If you can't impress her and conquer her in this period, you can't really conquer her in this life.

How to conquer beautiful women?

Still very simple. The first thing is that you should be self-aware. Don't listen to women's nonsense. I don't have any hard and fast criteria for choosing a spouse. Never tell the truth in front of a man you don't like.

Most girls have rigid requirements or minimum thresholds for men's height, looks, knowledge, specialties, work and family, especially the first three. If you can't reach one thing, go after it desperately, and the final result will be you, bring disgrace to oneself.

It is not difficult to conquer beautiful women, as long as you are good enough. But there are also many excellent men who have encountered this problem. The reason why these excellent men will encounter setbacks is mainly because they don't understand what I said earlier, that is, conquering a woman must be within 7 days.

If you can show your confidence in front of her in a short time (be careful not to say it with your mouth), you should know that every woman is eager to be conquered by men, and beautiful women may be picky because there are too many excellent men around. At this time, if you appear in front of her with such strong confidence, she will definitely think that you are the only thrill.

Moreover, confident men themselves are very attractive to women.

If you do as I say and still can't win the heart of a beautiful woman, it means that you don't know enough about yourself.

Go and exchange it for an easier one.

Of course, it is easy to catch up with beautiful women, but it is difficult to keep them. The reason is that all the "excellent men" around her who lost to you ran around her like flies. Once there is a rift in your relationship, flies will soon see each other. But it doesn't matter, as I said, even if she marries someone else in the future, the person she loves most in her life will always be you, the man who once won her heart in an instant.

4, lovelorn and lies.

When the relationship ends, all the sweet words turn into lies in an instant, which will be very painful. But there are two kinds of men who don't have to experience this kind of pain, that is, the prodigal son and the tortoise.

As I said before, women are treacherous and fickle because of their innate characteristics. But since God created women in this way, and we can't live without women, there is a solution: always keep a clear head, see clearly that it is a woman who is speaking in front of you, don't believe everything they say, save the energy of analyzing their inner activities and do what you like.

When she leaves one day, don't be more surprised than her. By the way, introduce your new girlfriend to her, and she will love you more than the man who loves her now.

Of course, if you don't have the qualification to return to the prodigal son, then being an illegitimate child is actually a good choice. If the prodigal sons avoid being hurt by women by not putting their feelings in their hearts, the tortoise will greet all kinds of changes that may be suffered in the future with the attitude that a dead mouse cannot touch the cold.

If you are a man, when your girlfriend fabricates all kinds of inconsistent lies (women's ability to lie is poor because of their natural logical ability), they make an appointment to sleep with five different men during the five days when they are not with you in a week. After you know the truth, you are still not sad, but feel very happy: she spends the most time with me, and her favorite person is me. Well, congratulations, you are a good bastard who will not be hurt by lovelorn and lies.