Not only does a man think you are poor, he also wants to use you to gain a position

Text/Zhao Geyu

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I was chatting with a man in the financial circle that day, and he said bluntly: Women today are too realistic. However, men are also realistic, and they also look at a woman's background and net worth, and they also want to use the power of her mother's family to gain power. For example, Zheng Yutong, the boss of Chow Tai Fook.

Women all want to find a rich man, someone who is stronger than themselves.

I don’t have a house, so I need to find a man who does.

Those who own a house need to find a man who has more houses.

But on the other hand, men also think you are poor.

In fact, not only do men think you are poor, but they also want to use you to gain a position.

The financial man said:

"Of course, Chow Tai Fook's boss Zheng Yutong is also very capable, but finding someone whose natal family is powerful will be even more powerful and lay the foundation."

Yes, Zheng Yutong made his fortune through his father-in-law.

Zheng Yutong began to learn how to do things by working as a handyman in a gold shop. This gold shop was the predecessor of Chow Tai Fook - Chow Tai Fook Gold Store. Zhou Zhiyuan, the owner of the gold shop, later became his father-in-law.

In just two or three years, Zheng Yutong became familiar with the business inside and outside the store. When he was 17 or 18 years old, he already took on the responsibilities of the boss. At the age of 20, he went to Hong Kong to establish a branch of Chow Tai Fook. The real shopkeeper.

Later, Zheng Yutong entered real estate, founded New World, and eventually became a billionaire. It can be said that without his father-in-law, there would be no Zheng Yutong later.

Because of this, Zheng Yutong is different from Hong Kong tycoons such as Stanley Ho, Fok Ying-tung, and Lam Bai Yan. He only has one wife in his life, Zhou Cuiying, and he often says that he only loves Zhou Cuiying. Zheng Yutong and Zhou Cuiying had a deep relationship and gave birth to two sons and three daughters.

So, Zheng Yutong has never changed his wife in his life. Of course, it is said that there are confidantes outside, and they also like to take in their goddaughters.

And I, a girl who is a medical representative, talked about her boyfriend. The two have been in love for many years, but they have never married and have never met his boyfriend.

His boyfriend is in good condition. He runs a company, has many social activities, and is busy with business. The two often see each other only once a month.

The girl had many relationships with chief doctors in major hospitals. Once, her boyfriend asked him to help introduce them to develop his company's business.

This request was flatly rejected by the girl.

The girl said: “I don’t want to mix my work and life.”

Of course, the girl actually doesn’t want this feeling of being used.

Later, his boyfriend didn’t mention it again, but he must have been unhappy inside.

However, the relationship between the two is just dragging on. They don't break up or get married. They have lovers and don't have lovers.

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There are many examples in the entertainment industry of using women to gain power and then ungratefully abandoning them.

Jin Xing revealed that a very popular male star in the entertainment industry had no filming at that time, so he tried his best to pursue a eldest sister who was more than ten years older than him and had a wide network of connections in the industry.

When the eldest sister was hospitalized, the actor made soup in the middle of winter and brought it to the hospital in person. The eldest sister was so moved that she burst into tears.

In order to let this actor appear on the screen, the eldest sister even knelt down and begged a certain director (suspected to be Zhao Baogang) for a role. This actor was really lucky. He became famous after appearing in a movie. The actor filmed "Zhou Yu's Train" and was rumored to have an affair with Gong Li, which made him instantly famous.

One day the male star bluntly broke up with his eldest sister. When her eldest sister asked him why, he rolled his eyes and said unceremoniously: Do you think we are a good match? What’s even worse is that the two broke up. Later, when they met in public, he ignored her and pretended not to know her, which made the eldest sister feel chilled.

After the breakup, the actor became more and more popular, and "Latent" reached the peak of his career. Needless to say, you know who it is, right? It was revealed that this popular actor is Sun Honglei, and this eldest sister is Ding Jiali.

After the breakup, Sun Honglei became more and more popular, while Ding Jiali was unable to take roles for a long time.

The same version in Hong Kong is Zheng Shaoqiu and Fatty Shum Dianxia.

At that time, Shen Dianxia introduced Zheng Shaoqiu to make movies, which really helped Zheng Shaoqiu a lot in his career. The two lived together for ten years and got married.

When Zheng Xinyi was born in 1987, the two divorced dramatically a year later.

Zheng Shaoqiu had already hooked up with Guan Jinghua during Shun Dianxia's pregnancy, and finally divorced.

Zheng Shaoqiu is the only man in Feifei's life, and he is also the love of Feifei's life.

After falling ill, Shen Dianxia also asked Zheng Shaoqiu a question: Have you ever loved me?

What an obsession, how naive.

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Wang Shi’s fortune is also inseparable from the relationship with his father-in-law.

When Wang Shi talks about his first pot of gold, he often mentions selling corn in Shenzhen, but one of the details is very intriguing.

Wang Shi discovered that corn from northern China has to be transported from Hong Kong to the south, and the price has gone up. If it can be transported directly from the north to Shenzhen, it can make a lot of difference. So Wang Shi went to the Guangdong Shipping Bureau to ask them to open the northern route.

But Wang had no money, so he asked the other party to ship the goods first, and he would settle the payment six months later. If he was just a poor kid, who would care about him? But he is the son-in-law of the provincial party committee secretary, so everything is different. In just eight months from April to December 1983, Wang Shi earned more than 3 million.

"This is the first pot of gold I dug out of the sea. It's clean." Wang Shi was quite proud when he mentioned this.

This incident tells us the simplest truth: no one can succeed casually.

After Wang Shi became famous, he ended up with Tian Pujun, a third-tier actor who was more than 20 years younger than him, and divorced Wang Jiangsui.

This reminds me of Qi Tongwei in "In the Name of the People".

Qi Tongwei came from a bitter background and initially fell in love with Chen Yang, the daughter of veteran cadre Chen Shishi. However, Chen Shishi was an old man and looked down on Qi Tongwei's lack of status, so he disagreed.

This completely angered Qi Tongwei, who in turn pursued Liang Lu, who had always admired him. Liang Lu is Qi Tongwei's teacher. Liang Lu's father is Gao Yuliang's predecessor.

As a result, Qi Tongwei relied on his father-in-law's relationship to rise through the ranks.

After getting promoted and making a fortune, he put Liang Lu aside and found Gao Xiaoqin as his mistress.

A complete white-eyed wolf.

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Actually, I have personal experience myself.

At that time, I was finishing college in Beijing, renting a house, having a turbulent job, and having no boyfriend.

At this time, my classmate introduced me to a boy.

This boy and I are both from the South, and we have the same eating habits.

In the beginning, we were given our phone numbers but did not meet in person. Because the boys are attending head office training in other places.

So, this boy and I communicated through text messages and emails, and we were in touch almost every day. Actually, it was a pretty good conversation. We are all looking forward to meeting.

But, later, for several days, there was no contact with this boy.

I was very curious. And asked stupidly why.

The boy was also very straightforward and said:

I met another girl here and I think she is more suitable for me.

I felt a little melancholy when I saw this email.

The hope was dashed.

Fortunately, we haven’t met each other before, so we can’t talk about being injured.

Later, I learned that this boy introduced a local girl from Beijing through a friend. This girl had just lost her love and needed to get out of the shadow of her breakup. The boy thought that this girl had a Beijing hukou and had a family background. My mother is a doctor and my father is a civil servant, and my family background is also good.

In contrast, I am a foreigner and my family background is not good. Although I also went to college and am capable. But compared to my mother's family's power, I was definitely killed instantly.

As a result, the boy immediately turned around and chased the Beijing girl, and soon they got married.

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Many years later, I remembered this and expressed my understanding for the boy.

It’s just a pity that I didn’t draw more realities and lessons from it.

In fact, when a boy has been in love with you for a long time, he still refuses to marry you. When it comes to marriage, there are all kinds of delays and excuses.

Girl, in fact, you should think of:

He may think you are poor, not only that you are poor, but that your whole family is poor, and that you and your family cannot help him. career.

People still want to use women and their natal family to gain power.

Maybe it’s not that you are bad, but that your family is bad and your overall conditions are not good.

You know, marriage is the union of two families.

Of course, I still sing and praise pure love, and there is still love that does not care about family status, wealth, status, or class.

But those are only a handful.

99 men are more realistic than women.

Girls, please wake up.